I keep on writing this and deleting it ...

[FergieTCat]

I keep on writing long posts and then not posting them. Maybe I just need to write.

My 28 year old nephew unexpected passed away on February 10. If you never got a chance to meet him, here's his memorial page:

http://support.jnf.org/goto/gregoryadavis

I still can't find anything positive about this. I hadn't seen him since September. His funeral was heartbreaking and my sister (his mom) still can't speak about it without crying. The only thing that brings us solace is knowing that he most likely died quickly and painlessly.

How does this go? I was not this distraught when my father died. Again, my father was in his 70's and had struggled with cancer for over a year. Gregory was working towards his MBA and had only positive things to look forward to.

(OK, I'm going to hit "Post" this time ...)

 

[Maddykins06]

I am so sorry.

 

[3_disprincesses]

I am so very sorry. It is so difficult to lose someone whose life is just starting. Especially when it is sudden and without warning. I pray for your family to find peace in his memory.

 

[Mackey Mouse]

I will never understand why the young ones are taken so young... I am so very sorry..

 

[minniebeth]

I'm so sorry for your family's loss. He seems like he had so much to give...may his memory live on~

 

[AnnaS]

I am so sorry. Such a beautiful young life. I can never understand it when they are so young.

My brother-in-law just passed away from melanoma on 2/23 - just turned 47 with three kids. We knew in October he had 3/4 months to live. I don't know what is worse - knowing or not knowing

May he rest in peace.

 

[PhillipV]

Be thankful you had your nephew for that short time. Whenever I hear of an unexpected passing, the first thing I think of is Garth Brooks' "The Dance". It sort of sums it up.

As I've gotten older, I try hard not to dwell on the present. Instead, I focus on memories I filed away. I try to remember birthdays, holidays, etc. That usually gets me out of my down times.

I am truly sorry for your loss.

 

[Deesknee]

So sorry for your family's loss.

Try not to focus on comparing your grief between your nephew & father. They passed under different circumstances & your relationship with each was different.

I lost a brother unexpectly. I lost my 94 yr old Grandmother 12yrs later. I miss my Gram every day. I loved my brother, but when he died I didn't have time to miss him, because I was too busy worrying about my mom's grief. My point is there are alot of outside influences that effect grief. I found grief counseling helpful. I went 1/2 doz times & felt much better. I hope you can find comfort in the support of others and your wonderful memories.