Laurie, you and h are in the process of a divorce, right?
welcome to the game playing.
one time my ex told me he was going to take my older dd (then age 6) to his house for a few days. after he picked her up, he called my answering machine and said "I'm going out of state, I won't be near a phone and if you need me, call my lawyer." he wa gone for 5 days.