I have an adoption question

[worm761]

For those of you that are adopted or did adopt a child~ is there anything on the birth certificate that indicates the child was adopted? Other than being told is there a way to find out?

 

[MushyMushy]

My birth certificate just looks like a regular one with my adoptive parents's names on it. That was in the 60s. I don't know how they look now, but I assume the same.

 

[MickeyCrazedMom]

The birth certificate is exactly the same as a child by birth. The only red flag is that the certificate is dated when the adoption is finalized whereas most birth certificates are dated immediately after the birth.

I don't know the situation, but I would not recommend hiding a secret like that!!

 

[LuvOrlando]

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[jackskellingtonsgirl]

I'm not sure what date DH's certificate was "filed" with the county, but his info lists his adoptive parents. His original certificate is sealed, and we would have to petition the court (and pay a fee) to have it opened and released to us.

 

[ClarabelleCowFan]

No, it looks exactly the same. The adoptive parents names are listed where the birth parents names would have been. There is no indication that there has been a revision at all.

 

[worm761]

Should I be suspicious? If I google myself it says I was born in a different state, the information is correct but the location is off. My Social Security card was issued in this other state also. It just seems odd that everything I find points in another direction. Even stranger is that it is from my mothers home town. This is where most of my mothers family still lives. She died almost 6 years ago and wouldn't have told me even if she was alive. When I was younger I used to swear I was adopted. I look nothing like my family. I am the odd ball out. My personality doesn't even match them. Nothing would really change. My dad is still my dad, my sibs my sibs. But I have a DS that has Asperger's and a few other issues. He is the only one out of my fathers 14 grandkids that has issues. I just wonder sometimes. Am I over thinking this? I really cannot ask my Dad. It would break his heart. I just cannot do that to him. And besides I am his favorite daughter. I might fall out of that spot.

I started looking because I was trying to do something and the security question was what state my SS card was issued. I assumed the state I was born. It denied me access saying I got that question wrong. That just seemed odd. Why would my SS card be issued in a state other than where I was born if I lived in that state from the time I was born until I was 6 years old? Anyone have any ideas?

 

[jen0610]

The only thing from mine that would make a person go humm...is the hospital name. The full name of the hospital is listed - St Mary's hospital for unwedded women. Seeing as my mom and dad were married at the time I was born, it could have lead to questions.

In the same line, if the full hospital name wasn't listed, it shows that I was born in Columbus OH and my family has never lived in OH, nor do we have any extended family living there.

On DH's the only difference (beside the names of parents) between the original bc and one issued after his adoption (we have both copies), is it clearly states on the 2nd one, REVISED. I don't know if this is due to who his birth mom is and who the adoptive parents are, but it seemed very strange to me that it would have REVISED on it, seeing as back when we were adopted, most were closed files and in several cases it was kept a secret. I have know since I was very young that I was adopted, this info was kept from DH until 18+. Mine doesn't stated revised, reissued, nothing to make it stand out that there was a change to it.

 

[MushyMushy]

I don't understand why your dad would react so harshly to you asking the question. Why do you think you would lose favor with him? That seems odd to me. Do you have grandparents or aunts/uncles you could ask?

I know this is bad, but have you considered snooping? Do you know where your parents kept important papers? Yes, it's wrong, but to me, not as wrong as not knowing.

 

[C.Ann]

I'm adopted (I'm 59) and live in NY - which has very, very strict laws regarding any type of adoption info at all.. Mine just said "my adopted name - born on XXX - in the city of XXX" and that was it.. No mother or father's names listed..

 

[jezebella]

The SS card is not a very good indicator. My brother and I were both born in Indiana, but my parents did not get social security cards issued for us until we moved to Tennessee when I was 4 and it was required. This was 30 years ago....

 

[DrCavin]

I am adopted & when I started searching for my b-parents I talked to some people who do searches for adpotees & they could tell by the certificate number. This is Ohio, I bet all states are different.

 

[worm761]

Please don't think poorly of my Dad. He wouldn't react harshly, it would just really hurt his feelings. We are a blended family. My parents were both on a second marriage. Dad did not react well to loosing my mother. This is not something I would want to discuss with him unless I knew. YKWIM? I just cannot hurt him like that. The only other relative I have that might know something is very ill. He wouldn't tell me even if I asked. My mother did not like me. And please, lets not get into that. She disowned me about 5 years before she died. Would tell people that she didn't have a daughter named Angela. I did not get my father back in my life until she passed away. I really don't want to lose that. And all three of us girls will argue that we are daddy's favorite. Both of my brothers just laugh at us. My father actually lives with me. I just cannot bring my self to ask him though.

I was born in North Carolina in 1976. 32 years ago. Everything I find says I was born in Ohio 32 years ago. My birth certificate was filed one month and three days after I was born. Everything on my birth certificate say North Carolina. I don't know if that matters any. My SS card was also issued in Ohio. I lived in North Carolina until I was 6, we then moved to Virginia for 18 months then back to North Carolina. We lived in North Carolina until I was 9. I had a SS card since I was a baby. Why was it issued in Ohio? It just doesn't make sense to me. I do remember when I was 16 and trying to get my first drivers permit, they would not accept my birth certificate. When my mom called to get a new copy there was a problem. My dad had to drive to North Carolina and get a copy. We couldn't just get one sent. I was too young to really question it then but now I wonder.

thanks for listening to me. I know I might very well just be paranoid. And maybe it all means nothing but it just seems off to me. Honestly? Am I just being paranoid? or does this seem weird to you guys too?

 

[disykat]

Have you ever gotten a passport or gone through a work security check etc. I would think it would be worth figuring out the social security thing while the generation above you is still living. That way they can help you if there are questions.

Can you just tell your dad you're having trouble with your social security info and ask if he knows anything about the Ohio business? Make it all about trying to clear up a snafu, not about finding out if you were adopted.

 

[jen0610]

double post

 

[lemondog]

We adopted our DD from Russia. The birth certificate lists DH and I as her parents, and the date is the same as her date of birth. No one would ever know she was adopted by looking at the birth certificate.

 

[MN Vikings Fan]

My children were both adopted (in '87 and '91) and there is nothing on their birth certificates to indicate they weren't born biologically to us. It lists me as their mother and my dh as their father. It tells where and when. That's about it. Nothing in reference to their biological parents' names.

 

[Laura]

The SS card is not a very good indicator. My brother and I were both born in Indiana, but my parents did not get social security cards issued for us until we moved to Tennessee when I was 4 and it was required. This was 30 years ago....

This is true.

worm761, if your birth certificate says you were born in North Carolina, that's what happened. What would change due to an adoption would be the parents' names on the certificate and the child's new adoptive name, if applicable. It would not change your place of birth. At least, it shouldn't.

 

[merryweather20]

I'm not sure I'm following you on the SS card.

According to the government site they are based on "The first three (3) digits (area) of a person's social security number are determined by the ZIP Code of the mailing address shown on the application for a social security number."

It doen't sound like they have anything to do with birth place

http://ssa-custhelp.ssa.gov/cgi-bin...SZwX2N2PTEuMTYmcF9wYWdlPTE*&p_li=&p_topview=1

 

[ALittleDisneyFan]

Hmm.. I don't think so.

ETA: Hm, I am sorry. Were you born in Ohio? Maybe she took a trip, and oops? Far fetched, I realize...