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[JMCDAD]

Its not a big deal and I an not trying to start an argument, but............
It kind of annoys me when people say its their kids birthday at disney restaurants and its not.
We go away roughly the same time every year, so we usually will be on vacation on my middle daughters bday.
I feel it kind of takes away from her special day when almost every other table happens to be celebrating a birthday.
And its got to annoy the CM's
My other 2 children are both within 2 weeks of this so we certainly could do it. Yet we only do my middle daughters on her birthday, we don't even do it multiple times that week.
I know people do this alot I have friends of ours that do it, and tell us all the time just tell them its one of you kids birthdays at every restaurant.
I just don't think its right.
Maybe I am more sensitive to it since, it actually is my daughters birthday when we are there and my other 2 children's birthdays are within 2 weeks.
Although I am proud that my kids never asked us and even asked me why do people do that when its not ther bday?

 

[cbrfan]

Maybe it's just not possible to celebrate on the child's actual birthday. My DGS's is New Year's Day. Not many restaurants in our area open on that day. Or maybe the trip is in honor of the child's birthday. But there are always those people looking to get something for nothing. I think I'd just enjoy your child's day and pay no attention to when the others are "celebrating".

 

[robinb]

I know people do this alot I have friends of ours that do it, and tell us all the time just tell them its one of you kids birthdays at every restaurant.
I just don't think its right.

Hookairs? I don't see how it effects you or takes away from your child's special day.

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[TinkerbellMama]

Sorry to sound rude (if I do), but how do you know it's NOT their birthday?? Maybe some families only do table service for special events??? Or even wait to visit WDW for special occasions??? We are going in November to celebrate our ds's first birthday, dh's b'day, my mom's b'day, my niece's, and our wedding anniversary. In one party we have that many LEGITIMATE occasions happening surrounding our trip. So yes, we will be telling the CMs we are celebrating some birthdays. If that makes you jealous, sorry, but I have to say, "too bad!" It seems a little selfish and spoiled to me to get upset that "too many others" are also celebrating birthdays. And no, we will not lie and say it is someone's ACTUAL birthday when it is not...only that we are celebrating it. But if, for example, we are at a restaurant ON the particular day, we will certainly say it IS someone's b'day! And we aren't trying to get extra attention from characters, either (dn is going to be 12 and could not care less and ds will be 1 and will probably either be freaked out or only marginally interested)...nor do we want free cupcakes/etc. (we do not eat dairy products or anything made with them...if we want a cake we will special order one or bring it ourselves)!!!!!! But I still think you are expecting too much FOR YOURSELF ONLY by getting upset that others are "lying" about birthdays. JMO!!!!

 

[JMCDAD]

I would guess that CM's would be much more motivated if they knew it was really a child's bday then they would be if they thought it was probably wasn't.
Although I give the CM's credit becasue last time there were like 3 or 4 "birthdays" in our area of tables and my daughter was the only one I saw that got a special bday card that was signed by all the characters.
Maybe it was just part of the magic of disney.

 

[TinkerbellMama]

I would guess that CM's would be much more motivated if they knew it was really a child's bday then they would be if they thought it was probably wasn't.
Although I give the CM's credit becasue last time there were like 3 or 4 "birthdays" in our area of tables and my daughter was the only one I saw that got a special bday card that was signed by all the characters.
Maybe it was just part of the magic of disney.

Wow. That's all I'm gonna say. Just wow.

 

[mom2cinderella]

Given the plethora of people I've seen asking on these boards "can I celebrate a birthday/anniversary one month/two months before/after the actual day" etc etc. I'd think it's fair to say a lot of people aren't celebrating on the actual day. Given the recent complaints on these boards about how birthdays and anniversaries are being virtually ignored by the CMs, I do wonder if pretty soon all special days won't be acknowledged because there are just too many. Are my panties wadded over this? No. Do I think it's unfortunate? A little.

Michele

 

[JMCDAD]

Tink
Not sure why all the strong words as I tried to keep my post as level as possible while stating my opinion.
I don't care if every kid in the place celebrates their birthdays with my daughter as long as its their birthday. If telling the truth and not teaching your children to lie is a problem for you then...........ok

Going by your logic everyone might as well tell every restaurant on every trip that its there birthday because you know we had one that year.

By the way you made it a point to say you don't want this and don't want that, then why exactly are you telling them anyway

 

[JMCDAD]

momcindy
Thanks you summed up my point better than I could

Is it a big deal , no

Unforunate, yes I think so

 

[TinkerbellMama]

Tink
Not sure why all the strong words as I tried to keep my post as level as possible while stating my opinion.
I don't care if every kid in the place celebrates their birthdays with my daughter as long as its their birthday. If telling the truth and not teaching your children to lie is a problem for you then...........ok

Going by your logic everyone might as well tell every restaurant on every trip that its there birthday because you know we had one that year.

By the way you made it a point to say you don't want this and don't want that, then why exactly are you telling them anyway

I never suggested lying by anyone at any time. We don't lie and would never tolerate it from our ds, of all people. Go back and re-read my OP.
I guess you are so cynical you don't expect people can share happy news without wanting something.
No, not a big deal. But I did and still do think you are being a little over-the-top with this. JMO and I am entitled to it.

 

[DisneyTeasers]

We're celebrating two birthdays and our anniversary (two on the actual day and one we are simply celebrating - DS's b'day is actually in December, so we don't plan to lie that it's his day, just that we are celebrating early) during our trip. Does it take away from our celebration when others are celebrating too? No. We're at Disney for goodness sakes and that is celebration in itself. Our party is being celebrated by OUR family, not the CM's or the characters or anyone else. We aren't expecting any special treatment or anything else for that matter. If something special happens that's great, but if it doesn't we still have the Disney magic, because we're AT DISNEY.

Quit complaining! Get a life! Enjoy it!

 

[happygirl]

It wouldn't bother me in the slighest, as long as I was being truthful about the B-days in my group that all that matters, you can't be the moral police at Disney

 

[JMCDAD]

teasers

I don't even understand your post
I said it wasn't a big deal a few times, just my opinion

Bottomline is that since so many people say its their child's birthday for example when it really isn't, it is understandable that Disney can't continue to make a fuss over special occasions, since its more of the rule now than the exception.

And to me that's unfortunate.

 

[JMCDAD]

Robin
Thanks
I think I fixed the signature thing

 

[TinkerbellMama]

teasers

I don't even understand your post
I said it wasn't a big deal a few times, just my opinion

Bottomline is that since so many people say its their child's birthday for example when it really isn't, it is understandable that Disney can't continue to make a fuss over special occasions, since its more of the rule now than the exception.

And to me that's unfortunate.

Okay, I think I see where we disagree now, and I will try to explain what I am thinking vs. what you are saying.
You are saying that you think only people who have a birthday THAT VERY DAY should be able to say they are celebrating their birthday, and I disagree. We are planning our entire Nov. trip to celebrate our ds's b'day, but unfortunately we cannot be there ON his b'day due to my husband's work schedule (it's on a Thursday just before a major holiday). So yes, we are CELEBRATING his b'day during our trip, but we would NEVER lie and say, "Today is his b'day." EVER EVER EVER! Like I said, we don't lie and we would never allow him to lie in our presence, much less encourage it!
What I think is that we should be able to say we are celebrating a birthday that week or whatever and not have to whip out a birth certificate or ID to be able to do so. We don't expect anything at all from Disney. Being there is magical enough. If we want any extras, we will pay for them...surely you can't object to that? Sorry if you felt your dd's day was lessened somehow by the celebration of others, but that isn't what we want to teach our son, either. We want him to know that the gains of others (even if we suspect somehow that they are ill-gotten) do not in ANY WAY diminish his own achievements!! I wouldn't waste any energy paying attention to other tables. You know they will do their own thing, anyway, even if you are correct that they are fibbing about something in order to get freebies (but WE would never do this). Hope this clears it up somewhat.

 

[JMCDAD]

Tink
I appreciate the additional post and details
And yes I do understand your position better

 

[Matt'sMom]

You are saying that you think only people who have a birthday THAT VERY DAY should be able to say they are celebrating their birthday, and I disagree.

I think what the OP stated was that... "It kind of annoys me when people say its their kids birthday at disney restaurants and its not."

Problem is that a lot of people choose to lie about the actual date of their occassion (presumably in hopes of gaining special treatment). The OP did not say that they had an issue with their celebrating the occassion.... just the lying about it.

Sure, lots of people choose to celebrate special ocassions at WDW, whether or not that occassion is occuring on the actual date of their visit or not. That is fine, and they have every right to celebrate whatever and whenever they want to. But it has gotten to the point that so many people outright lie about it being their actual birthdates, anniversaries, etc. that the poor CMs have no way of knowing who to believe.


The OP appears to take issue with people teaching their children, by example, to lie for personal gain. Personally, I agree with him. In the end, it is understandable if Disney CM's are less inclined to create 'Magical Moments' for those who are 'celebrating' at WDW--after all, they have no way of knowing who is being truthful, and who may be lying just to see what they can get.

 

[JMCDAD]

Thanks MattsMom

We are on the same page

PS I am a he (JMCDAD)

 

[Matt'sMom]

Sorry JMCDAD. Just noticed the 'DAD' part!

 

[DisneyMomx7]

I really don't have a problem with it. You don't always have the child's birthday party on their exact birthday do you? So what if someone wants to celebrate their child's birthday a few days early or late? Last year we went for dds birthday, this year we're going a few weeks earlier for ds's birthday. We are lucky enough to be going in January for other dd's birthday. However, since we always go in July or August I didn't think we'd ever get to be there for 2nd dds birthday and I was going to do a 1/2 birthday one year - get her a shirt that says she was celebrating her half birthday. Its hard when they are that young to see the others getting such a fuss made and to know you can't ever be there on your own birthday. JMHO.