i feel like everything is falling apart :-(

[erinlovesmelvin]

Xxxx

 

[Laurafoster]

I did when i started - we had family who told us they wouldnt acknowledge a "cartoon" wedding! I was really upset about it for a while. When i thought about it i decided that the most important thing to me was getting married to the person i loved in a place that had special meaning to us. It might sound selfish of me but i wanted the day to be perfect for me and Gary not people who were insensitive enough to criticise our choices! They didnt come to the wedidng and sure i would have loved if they could have been there but i had a wonderful day and wouldnt change anything about it! Now that we are home and they have seen the sneak peek video and photos - they are the ones feeling left out.

 

[Moonpie]

Our wedding was in California, and a lot of my husband's family could not come from New Jersey, or Florida. We only had about 5 of his family members that could come... but, we had a great time any way. A small guest list is AWESOME! It's so fun to be able to talk, and mingle with each and every one of the guests, and they felt like they were invited to something really intimate, and really special.

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

Its not a great feeling when you feel as though no one wants to come and share your special day, but try to think of it this way......its ALL about you & your df & if anyone else is there...GREAT.
I only had my mom & her husband.....but I was OK with that because it was a special moment between me & my hubby.
If people miss out, then they will be the ones feeling bad when they hear how incredible it was & they passed up the chance to enjoy the experience....its thier loss.

I had a wonderful time with the 4 of us & I wouldn't have changed a thing.....now I'm gonna do a 10yr vow renewal & offer it up again & if there are any takers....great....if not....we will have a great time regardless

Heres a big hug
Remember.....its all about you & your df & thats what matters

 

[irongirlof12]

My wedding was small- only me, DH and his mum and dad, mine decided they did not like flying...I didn't care and in the end it is about 2 people committing to a lifetime together so as long as you love each other that is all that counts

enjoy your day

 

[luna99]

I was just thinking today how I'm so happy that I'm only going to have around 20 wedding guests.. that way I can really take the time to stop and talk to people and hang out and do lots of fun disney stuff with everyone and not feel like I had those I love there but didn't really get to interact with them.

 

[IrishCinderella]

If it makes you feel any better, I had two of my sisters (and their entire families) decide not to come 3 weeks before the wedding. We could've lost our location.

You are actually better off knowing this far in advance. I know, I know (believe me I know) - that doesn't make you feel any better.

The day is really about sharing the love you and your fiance share with the people who want to honor it.

Rest assured that the people who are MEANT to be there will move heaven and earth to get there. And your day will be better for it.

The people who aren't meant to be there might regret it eventually. But for right now, focus on those who are willing to come and be with you. The rest will work out the way it should.

 

[StephSFL]

As the other disers said, it all works out . . .or so I hope!
I asked my family (we are a very small group) and close family friends if they would be able to come when we set our dates and they said they would be there! We even called before the invites went out to make sure they would stay at the places we blocked rooms and make changes as necessary!However, we then kept getting "regretfully couldn't make it" on our RSVPs. It really hurt because these were people who meant a lot to us and we wanted to make sure they could come. So, our numbers will be lower, too! However, my parents have tried to make it better on all of us by adding special touches here and there!
It will work out!

 

[happylalagirl]

Hi Erin. I know how you feel. We were supposed to have 75 people. That's how many said yes when we sent out the newsletters. They were serious too... asking about flights, hotels, passes, etc. Anyway, lots of things came into play... some were just dumb excuses that I'm working on forgiving. My DH had a death in his family 3 weeks before the wedding. Because of that, that whole side of the family, with the exception of one who decided at the last minute he needed to be there, cancelled their flights and hotels. We understood though. Then, some of my relatives had last minute things come up. Before we knew it, we were down to 43. Big change in numbers, but you know what? We had the best time!!! And we were able to spend time with almost everyone! It will all work out. You still have 6 months left. Some people might change their minds. They have time too. And if not, everyone else is right. It's about you and your DF and those that are meant to be there will be. It'll all work out and you'll have the most amazing day!! Chin up!! We are all here for you.

 

[pintradingwedding]

hi everyone, so now our guest count is down to like 25 people, and we didnt even send invitations out, im getting so upset about this lately :-( Because i feel like people are dropping out left and right :-(.. i dunno what to do, did anyone else experience this problem?

Erin

...so your wedding will be PACKED!

and it's true, the ONLY TWO PEOPLE who need to show up are you and your husband. It's all about YOU TWO starting your life together. And what happier or more magical place to do it?

Luckily EVERYONE i invited thought disney sounded like an awesome place for a wedding -- no snobs among my family and friends -- but some people couldn't make it because they couldn't get the time off for work or couldn't afford it. We totally understand and do NOT take it personally.

but i guarantee you, whoever DOES show up at your wedding will have the BEST time. I bet it will be the BEST, MOST MEMORABLE wedding they have ever been to!!! I feel like so many weddings I've been to, it's like being at the same wedding only with different couples. A Disney wedding breaks out of that cookie cutter mold of the Typical American Wedding.

It's more like going on a vacation than going to a wedding.

DO NOT BE SAD! GET EXCITED ABOUT YOUR MAGICAL, ROMANTIC WEDDING! Your HAPPIEST DAY in the HAPPIEST PLACE ON EARTH. YAY!

 

[JonetteA]

Erin,

I am sorry that this is happening. As weird as this sounds, we had an alternate list. Basically if someone we invited could not make it, we could fill it in with someone else we wanted to come. We had the problem where there were so many people we wanted there but we could not have the room for everyone. Maybe there is a friend you wanted to show that you couldn't invite.

I agree that your day is going to be special and wonderful even if it is just the two of you. Quite honestly, having a small guest count was a blessing for us. It made it intimate and just wonderful!