"I don't like you,Mommy!"

[disneybound2010]

This is what my almost 3 year old said to me tonite when I put him in the shower I calmly told him that that hurt mommy's heart(pointed to my chest) and it wasn't nice to say things like that and he shrugged his shoulders,rolled his eyes and started playing with his bath toy!

I know a lot of children say this,but this was a first for me. I especially didn't expect it after the weekend we had...first time going to the movies(UP),going to a Birthday party and then swimming all day today. I thought that would have made him a very happy little boy, but I guess it may have just been too much...either that or he really doesn't like me!

 

[CaliforniaDreamin]

At that age kids don't really understand the concept of hurting someone else's feelings. If he is in preschool, he may have picked it up from someone there. Or on a playdate with a cousin or friend. I'm sure he loves you with all his heart, but I know it stings. Please chalk it up to his age. Of course he loves you. But he is very, very young.

 

[SundancePass]

I am laughing...my son is now 32. If this is the worst thing he ever says to you, you will be a lucky woman.

He doesn't know what he said. I used to say "OK" when my kids said things like that when they were under 4 and we all went on with whatever we were doing.

Please don't think he means it.

 

[SandrA9810]

Kari's told me that anytime her mom got mad at her, she would say "I love you, but right not I don't like you very much."

For now they may not understand... and when they're a teenager, they're just trying to get on your nerves... and once they're old enough you can look back and laugh together.

 

[disneybound2010]

I don't think he REALLY meant it,but it was just a surprise to hear it come out of his mouth and it did sting a bit. I don't thin anyone wants to hear their children tell them that!

I am a SAHM so he isnt around a lot of children daily,but I do have an idea as tp where he picked it up from. My Dsis is in the middle of one of the messiest custody battles I have ever seen(makes Kim Basinger/Alec Baldwin look tame) and each time my nephew(also 2) comes home, he has some new sayings, attitude or habit that is not exactly great. I babysat today and I have a feeling DS may be learning some of this from him.

 

[themilesfamily]

Our DD said the very same thing to us today because we said no to something she wanted to do -- she threw a tantrum -- and we put her in time out.

We just said, "We're sorry to hear that. We do you love you," and we gave her some space in time out until she calmed down. Then we talked to her about better things to say & do when you're feeling angry at someone -- asked her to apologize to us -- which she did -- and we moved on with our day.

It's a few hours later and she's back to loving us.

Parenting is SOOOO exhausting. LOL It's the best part of life and sometimes the hardest!

 

[bumbershoot]

I've always felt that it's when children love and trust us that they can say things like that to us. Trust me, when I was with my dad, I never EVER would have said such a thing, b/c I knew he'd get angry, threaten to spank me (my mom would have killed him if he ever actually spanked, but with us, the threat was enough), and probably take us back home to our mom b/c of it. But I could say it to my mom, b/c I knew she knew we really loved her.

And especially after such a big weekend, he was likely exhausted beyond anything, and that sort of stuff comes out when our little ones are tired.

I always say "well I'm sorry to hear that, but I love you!" when DS says things like that.

 

[LisaNJ25]

My 3yo is going though that now.. It's usually I hate you mommy when he doesnt get his way. Add me as another mom that says ok.

 

[bookgirl]

When the twins were little and said things like that I always told them "well I don't like "what you're doing/what you said or your actions" but I still love you."



Okay I do admit I may have said once or twice "well I don't like you very much at the moment either" LOL. But I felt bad later....sorta.

 

[shortbun]

He's three and he's experimenting. They are little scientists at that age. If he tries it again just shrug and say, "I love you honey!"

 

[staley7580]

My 4yo says that to me all the time. The one thing that kinda tugs at me a bit, is when I tell her to go to bed, and she just starts bawling, and holds onto to me and says.... but I LOVE you SOOOOOOOOOO much mommy!! I want to BEEEEE with you!! Dont you LOOOOOOVVVVVEEEEE me??? Im such a sucker sometimes!!

 

[becpee]

My DS3 said that to me just last week, it was the first time he had ever said it as well, and I did wonder if he meant it LOL

I just told him that thats not a very nice thing to say to anybody, and he looked up at me and said "i'm so sorry mummy".

I don't think he means anything he says

 

[The Orchid]

This is what my almost 3 year old said to me tonite when I put him in the shower I calmly told him that that hurt mommy's heart(pointed to my chest) and it wasn't nice to say things like that and he shrugged his shoulders,rolled his eyes and started playing with his bath toy!

I know a lot of children say this,but this was a first for me. I especially didn't expect it after the weekend we had...first time going to the movies(UP),going to a Birthday party and then swimming all day today. I thought that would have made him a very happy little boy, but I guess it may have just been too much...either that or he really doesn't like me!

I'm sure he had a wonderful time all weekend, but two things; one he's probably very, very tired and kids get cranky when they're tired. And also there's probably a huge letdown after all the excitement. He had fun all weekend, but now the weekend is over and life is routine again and it is a little hard for him to take. My daughter always got really cranky after she was over-stimulated, even when she had an extremely good time. I used to think it was really odd...the more fun she had, the more difficult she was when it was over! I eventually learned that after fun outings or vacations that I just had to let her be a cranky little demon spawn and that after she had a long sleep, she would be my happy, sweet little girl again. By the way, that happy, sweet little girl is gonna be 18 in a month and I swear, she still gets cranky after she's been over-excited.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Little kids like that dont know that that will hurt feelings.

 

[Kit'smommy]

That is no big deal from a child that age.

I hear that from my DS at least once a week (and have for the past two years) when he is overly tired or does not get his way. I just say "I love you anyway" and move on.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

When my DS11 was around 4 or 5, he said those dreaded words for the first time, "I hape you". No, that's not a typo, that is the way he thought it was said, and you know where he learned it? From "Finding Nemo"! He never heard it before that movie, and soon after he tried it out on me. But he hadn't heard it right, so it came out "hape", so it didn't sting quite so badly.

 

[happygirl]

I'm so lucky my kids have never said that. The first time they say it I;m s ure I will cry like there is no tommorow

 

[disneybound2010]

I feel much better this morning. The first thing out of DS's mouth this morning was," I love you thiiiiiiiiiiiiiiis much!" and then he cuddled with me for about half an hour.

I do know that it is common for children to say those things and test the waters,but when he said it, I was even surprised by how much it stung and tugged at my heart.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

It's so common. Glad things are better this morning.

The other week my DD -9 was having a bit of a melt down and we were having a loud "discussion". After she slammed her door for like the third time I called out "I guess I'm not getting mother of the year!" She opened her door and screamed "You weren't even nominated!!" After I got done laughing we made up. I thought it was one of the wittiest things I had ever heard coming from her mouth.

 

[princesspiglet]

Well my daughter is 6 1/2 and for mother's day, she made me a card, it said:

"even though I love Daddy more,
your the #1 mother I adore!"

She reminds me all the time that she loves daddy more. It used to bother me, but I just tell her I would love Daddy more too if I was a kid since he is the pushover