I don't like my mothers day present...

[bumcat]

Poohlovr - Since your daughter is coming over for dinner maybe she is also bringing disney $$.
My kids got me disney $$ but it would have been no big deal if they didn't. I would have went out and bought them myself. My 10 yr old son made his own card and stamped Mickey Mouse all over it, LOL. It was cute.
My husband and I do not exchange gifts on mothers day or fathers day but to each his own.

 

[Disney's Deluxe Princess]

ez, Is your husband sensitive? I tell my DH when I don't really like something he bought. He'd rather me be happy with the present and doesn't get upset. I know not everyone is like that though. The fountain sounds like a major purchase. Maybe you could return it and pick something out together?

DD made me a lovely picture frame in school with a picture of her taken by the teacher inside. It was precious and I will treasure it forever. DH gave me a card. I really don't need any store bought gifts for Mother's Day. My best friend discovered this year that she would not be able to have children. There are people out there who would love to just BE a mother.

 

[tjmw2727]

To the OP - I understand how you fee and still I think I would try to make it work on the porch as he intended. Then, if you decide together that it just dosen't work or fit perhaps you could find something else together that would. Regardless of the $ spent I think he took the time to find something he thought would please you. It sounds like the porch is important to you and he respected that, that IMHO is very cool!

Happy Mothers Day to all.

TJ

 

[Miss Cleo]

See! Miss Cleo proves her powers once again!

 

[bumcat]

See! Miss Cleo proves her powers once again!
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OMG you really do have power, so sorry I ever doubted you. Where can I send my $$, you are worthy.

 

[Mickey527]

I feel no pity at all for those of you who got gifts but didn't like them.
Time for my pity party.
I am a single mother of three grown boys. I didn't do anything wrong, I think I raised them as best as I could.
My 27 year old called me this morning to say "Happy Mother's day, I bought you flowers but I can't bring them over today we are going to Karen's mom's (his fiance) for dinner" I wonder if he will bring the dead ones to me.
My 25 year old has yet to call, I do't think he will.
My 20 year old just woke up (5:00 pm) got dressed, ate dinner and is getting ready to go out. He didn't say a thing, I think he totally forgot it is Mother's day and I am not going to remind him.
I spent the morning at my mother's grave planting flowers for her. She passed away suddenly 3 years ago. My dad died last month.
So, a card, flowers, or just a Happy Mother's day would sound great to me right now. Peggie

 

[gymnasticsmom68]

Still think it's selfish?

Absolutely!! No doubt about it!!!

 

[tw1nsmom]

Originally posted by Ragmop
So it's OK to secretly throw away your Mother's day gift if it's not "up to par"? Or complain because it's not what you wanted?

That's the only thing other Mothers are "upset" about.

Actually, that isn't all that people seemed to be upset about in this thread. Mothers who receive gifts from their husbands on mothers day were slammed as were mothers who thought a couple hours away from their children was a good gift.

Yes, I was being sarcastic toward those individuals who were criticizing people for all of those reasons. I too think you shouldn't judge/flame unless you've walked in other peoples shoes.

However, I apologize if it seems as though I was bragging. Yes, today has been a great mothers day for me, but it has nothing to do with the material gifts that my family got me. The fact that my DH put a lot of thought into getting something I would enjoy, it could have been a poem or a book instead, is what I'm most happy about. Trust me I've had plenty of birthdays, Christmas's and other holidays that I received things that DH wanted and not what I would want (for Christmas I got a screw gun and tool box). No, I didn't throw the other gifts out, but I'd be lying if I said that I didn't know what it felt like to be dissapointed with a gift. I'm just grateful that as time has gone by DH and I have begun to know each other well enough to know what will make the other one happy.

 

[dianeschlicht]

I can't believe I just wasted the time it took to read this threadf!!

 

[Christine]

To the OP, I think you should just suck it up and keep the fountain. I know how you feel about the money and all, but since your DH obviously went to great pains to *try* to get what you wanted, I think it would be hurtful to return it. I have had to do this one time and my DH has never gotten over it. I still think I was right because I really could never have used his gift, but you can.

One Christmas my DH didn't know what to get me. He did know that I needed a watch and he knows I like watches with large faces. When I get the watch, sure enough, it had a large face--BECAUSE IT WAS A MAN'S WATCH!!! I had to return it. There was no way I could've have worn it. I know you can with some of the more athletic styles, but this was a dress watch. To this day, he refused to believe that it I couldn't have worn it and insists that I don't like anything he buys. Egads. So be very careful about returning it.

As to the nastiness on this thread--I realize everyone has their customs. For my family, spouses do not buy each other gifts on Mother's/Father's Day. We *assist* the kids with buying gifts. When the kids are old enough to do it on their own, then I fully expect there will be no gifts from my DH nor will I get him any. But that's my tradition. What gets me is not so much the spouses buying for each other but the *expection* some of the women on these threads have for gifts. It's just incredible to me that people can be so nitpicky about their gifts. And "pre-ordering" the gift is too much. It really is just the thought--be it a gift or just a gesture. I have a male colleague who has one of those wives that expect all kind of pomp and circumstance on any given occasion. My friend and I were chuckling today wondering what kind of hoops he's jumping through for Mother's Day. We will get the full story tomorrow at work. He will be exhausted and we will have to buy him a beer.

 

[Kimberlyfamilyfv]

My husband and i have an unspoken rule don't waste money. Don't spend much needed money on un needed things ie. mothers day fathers day birthdays. I much more enjoy our money being spent on our children. We like to take vacations and my children are in all kinds of things at school which costs money. Setting these boundries ahead of time saved a lot of hurt feeling between the two of us. Besides usually if I wanted something bad enough or needed enough I would have bought it myself.

PS. If you don't like your mothers day present . May I suggest a present swap. I am sure there is another mother out there who might swap. And inaddition, I think being honest with your husband will give you positive results. Explain, that you love that he thought to give you the gift but it is the wrong style for the area which it would be place. Besides if you can't be honest with your husband then who.


IMOP

Kimberly

 

[Robinrs]

Wow!

I wondered why this thread was all of a sudden 4 pages long and since I first peeked at it earlier today and now I see why.

Lots of nasty remarks, lots of judging about judging, lots of assumptions, lots of misconceptions and lots of explanations.

Not a lot of happiness.

I spent the day just miserable because I don't have my Mom. The pain just got so much worse and it hurts more now than I first lost her. The only gift that could possibly make me happy is to have her back with me, and that's one gift I will never throw away.

I went over to my sister's house and we cried together. Afterwards we laughed and laughed at the memories of Mom.

I never remembered one gift I gave my Mother, nor would I expect her to remember them either. What we do remember is that she was so awesome and Mother's Day was the day we showed it to her, with love, respect and just being there.

Sorry, I just felt the need to say this.

God bless and Happy Mother's Day to you all,

Robinrs

 

[MeanLaureen]

(((((((Peggie)))))))) I'm so sorry your sons aren't giving you the attention you deserve. You are one of the kindest and most thoughtful people I know - and I hope you know how many people on the DIS - especially the collectors clan - love you.

As far as throwing the gifts away - that makes me so sad. If it was just a rose and a candybar, it seems to me it was just a token of his affection anyway - seriously, how many DD's would that have been? Less than $5? I think he just wanted to give you something tangible to show you he loves you and appreciates you.

I always go by the old saying "don't look a gift horse in the mouth" - you know why? Because for at least those few minutes that it took him to pick out the flower, the card, the candy - he was thinking about you and cared. What more of a gift could someone want?

As far as you paying for his vacation- I don't get this whole thing Does he not work? Are your incomes not shared?

 

[nana2tots]

How sad it is too be so Selfish, wanna know what i did today, i cooked a big huge dinner for my daughter and her family, and yes my MIL., hey my hubby didn't get me anything, bet you can't figure out why? I'm not his MOTHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, sometimes i feel like it though!!!!!!!Happy Mother's Day 2 every1!!!!!!!



nana2tots

 

[nana2tots]

I feel for you, i also lost my MOM, 27 yrs. ago, and i was only 27 yrs. old, so people had better be thankful that their MOM is still there for them, but yet for some reason they are so busy w/ their own life that they can't take a few mins. a day for MOM!!!!!! H ow sad. nana2tots

 

[NHAnn]

Originally posted by gymnasticsmom68
I can't imagine I've ever heard anything more selfish and self centered in my life, and you should be ashamed of yourself!!!

And I can't imagine when I've seen a such judgemental nasty tone from a DIS poster...but wait...it was on the Billy Joel thread recently...same poster ...and not the first time....what a surprise!

Poohlovr, you should know by now where you can post or PM on the DIS in order to vent about personal things. Sorry about your Mother's Day.

To the OP....sorry you didn't like the fountain...maybe it'll "grow on you" in light of the occasion and the thought behind it?


Happy Mother's Day to all....

 

[Ragmop]

So, a card, flowers, or just a Happy Mother's day would sound great to me right now. Peggie [/B]

Hugs Peggie.

 

[GailT]

Not to sound ungreatful but my son, 21 bought me a $100.00 gift card to the mall. While that is a great gift he couldn't understand why I told him I don't need it, you want summer clothes, use it for that. The one thing I will never take from my son for a gift is money, he works hard, is a full time college student so his money should be his money. I would of loved a yankee candle. Oh well, I think that Movado watch I looked at is headed my way, Happy Mothers day, Gail from Gail.

 

[LScot]

Peggie, your post made me sad for you. I am sorry for the hurt you have felt today. I'm wishing you a Happy Mother's Day even though I don't know you nor are you my mom.

RobinRS, you know I love you and am sending many hugs today, your first Mother's day w/o your mom, right? My mom says she never gets over missing her mom. I keep that thought in the back of my mind at all times, trying to always love her to the fullest knowing that one day I will not have her.

To all who don't like their gifts, I'm sorry you were disappointed but maybe rethink your feelings about your gifts. To the judges who criticized so harshly, maybe think twice about how you state your posts. I know you don't care who you hurt but there are better ways of saying things.

My day has been good. I spent all day just DD and myself (DH is working today). She gave me 2 small rocks from Cades Cove (shame on her for taking them home from the Park LOL) one was shaped like a heart. And a stick that is about 5 inches long which she whittled one while camping up in the mtns while with her daddy not long ago.
Do I want a stick? Not really. But it came from her and from her heart and she was very excited for me to have something that she carved.

 

[DSNY FN]

Poohlovr don't worry about Gymnasticsmom she seems to be like this all the time. I gave my wife one of those Italian charm bracelets and when she opened it I asked her if she would actulally wear it her answer was sometimes. So I asked her if I should take it back I don't want her having soemthing she will not use or want. I am sorry your hubby didn't listen a little closer and get you something you wanted or would like. I hope you have a great rest of your day and HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO ALL THE MOMS ON HERE.