I don't get this - Celebrity deaths

[ozarkmom]

I don't get it either. A while back I walked in on my mom boo hooing. It was the anniversary of Elvis' death and she was watching the footage of his funeral. Being the smart aleck I can be I asked if they were pretty close. I know I shouldn't have but I did.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I don't get it either. A while back I walked in on my mom boo hooing. It was the anniversary of Elvis' death and she was watching the footage of his funeral. Being the smart aleck I can be I asked if they were pretty close. I know I shouldn't have but I did.

See, that's the thing. They were close.

Elvis just was close with her via his recordings and film.

 

[mhsjax]

I think it is just plain weird for people to cry over celebs. I see videos of them crying when they die and of them crying at concerts and stuff like that. Oh and if I did ever come face to face with Brad Pitt it wouldn't do anything for me. I came face to face with a celeb that I adored at that time and I didn't even blink an eye. I just don't get it. I don't see how people can be so wrapped up in someone they don't know.

 

[binny]

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Its one thing to lose a talent IMHO its another to lose someone who made a significant impact through their actions. Someone who left the world a better place than it was before. Those are the people who should be mourned at their death. Grieving hysterically over someone just because they had talent doesn't make a lot of sense as far as I'm concerned.

Don't get me wrong, I appreciate talent. I have my favourite actors and musicians. When they die I will be a little sad but I cant see standing by grieving my heart out for someone who, other than their talent, did not make a significant difference in the world. Nor can I see myself openly wailing and making a spectacle out of myself for someone I did not know on a personal level.


just M2CW

 

[Jennasis]

Well folks, I think if you don't understand why people cry over celebs, you probably never will. Again, they just form a connection on some profound level. Emotions are a craaaaaazy thing. People have a hard time understanding their own emotions, so it stands to reason that it would be extra hard to understand someone else's emotions.

As long as nobody is passing judgment on those who cry (and we know nobody here would EVER do that), then it;s all good. As the OP said, people handle grief in many ways...their OWN ways.

 

[binny]

Reading additional posts that I missed the first time sorry.

As for crying when a character dies that is something totally different IMHO. Its easy to get wrapped up in a story and shed a tear or two, it isnt like you are basing your feelings on that grief. It was a touching scene, so you shed a tear. You are not wailing or setting up a shrine in that characters honour.


I can see shedding a tear at a concert, not crying because youre seeing a band but crying because a song touches your heart. I dont unedrstand crying when you meet someone. I have met my favourite band several times and have managed to carry on resasonable conversations with them without crying. LOL

 

[SC Minnie]

I cried watching Diana's funeral procession. What really got me was seeing her boys.

 

[MomofKatie]

I don't get "upset" when celebs die.

However with JFK JR and Princess Diana I think it is more you mourn the loss of what they were going to be to society, if that makes sense.

I still hate it that they are dead.

These two are the only celebs I got teary over. The sudden and tragic loss of such potential, at such a young age, was what made me sad. The thought of the two young princes growing up without their Mum, and of the Kennedy clan burying yet another of their own much too soon saddened me.

I do feel a momentary sadness for any celeb death- after all, they were people, and it is sad to think of someone dying. But I don't dwell on any celeb deaths, or feel the need to create a memorial or anything. I just pause and send a little thought to their loved ones who are grieving them.

 

[mhsjax]

Well folks, I think if you don't understand why people cry over celebs, you probably never will. Again, they just form a connection on some profound level. Emotions are a craaaaaazy thing. People have a hard time understanding their own emotions, so it stands to reason that it would be extra hard to understand someone else's emotions.

As long as nobody is passing judgment on those who cry (and we know nobody here would EVER do that), then it;s all good. As the OP said, people handle grief in many ways...their OWN ways.

See that is where I think celebs get into trouble with fans who go over the edge. (stalker) You can't have a true connection with someone you don't know. And no matter how much info is out there about a person unless you "know" them, you can't have a true connection.

 

[smiley]

I cried watching Diana's funeral procession. What really got me was seeing her boys.

I didn't cry over her death, but when I saw the boys walking in the procession I lost it.

On the bright side of things, when celeb's do die and their fans leave all those flowers, just think of how many florists they are keeping in business.

 

[Jennasis]

See that is where I think celebs get into trouble with fans who go over the edge. (stalker) You can't have a true connection with someone you don't know. And no matter how much info is out there about a person unless you "know" them, you can't have a true connection.

I'm not talking about "stalker" type connections. It's obvious you don't get it. Frankly, I don't get it. Then again, we don't have to get it. It is what it is.

I don't get people who are gaga over a sports team. My favorite example are guys (or girls) who talk about the team as if they are actually ON the team or have some vested interest in the game.

For example: "WE just traded so-and-so for whats-his-name".

"WE won against Dallas yesterday."

and so on. Again, I don't have to get it. It is what it is.

 

[moon]

I cried when John Lennon died. I was very young, and had just "discovered" The Beatles earlier that year (1980). I was pretty crazy about them. That, plus the way John died -gunned down- made me feel awful.

Just thinking about him getting four bullets, screaming "I'm shot!" and running desperate and hurting, in panic, towards the doorman at his building broke my heart.

He was just minding his own business one minute and mortally wounded the next; an innocent victim of a madman.

It was awful, and like I said I was very young and cried in my room. However; I didn't build shrines, or kept "mourning" months or years later. So yes, I think that's bizarre, but I also realize there's a lot of loneliness in this world, and perhaps some build a special attachment to celebrities to fill a void in their lives.

 

[C.Ann]

I cried in the 60's when JFK died and I cried when Princess Diana died.. Not the same kind of grief as it would be for a family member, but still it was grief..

No "one" person in the world grieves in the same way - for the same reason - or for the same amount of time.. It's a personal thing, so I try not to question it..

 

[muffyn]

interesting that so many have mentioned Princess Di.
yes, we never KNEW them personally, but so many have been in our lives, with film, tv reports, anything that gives us an insight into them. THEY made an impact on the world.

now I don't get the whole wheeping crying in public, like with MJ & other celebs like him, but have had some very bigtime sorrow (at home) for a few major 'celebs'.
Princess Di
Jackie "Kennedy"
Lucille Ball
etc.

also, fav's such as Red Skelton & Captain Kangaroo (guess its who you grow up with)

(but then , like others, I cry at commercials)

now my daughter has told me the ONLY personality she has ever cried for was Shari Lewis ( she LOVED her & Lambchop).

 

[Becky2005]

On the bright side of things, when celeb's do die and their fans leave all those flowers, just think of how many florists they are keeping in business.

I never thought of that. As soon as I read it, I just pictured the florist say sitting there after the shop closes or something & saw the news I guess my first thought if I didn't know them personally would be "QUICK...get to the shop & put everyone on call...we are going to super busy".

 

[maelstrom]

I cried when Maurice Gibb (of the Bee Gees) died. I didn't go on about it for weeks or months, but I did cry. The music of the Bee Gees has been an important part of my life.

 

[mhsjax]

I'm not talking about "stalker" type connections. It's obvious you don't get it. Frankly, I don't get it. Then again, we don't have to get it. It is what it is.

I don't get people who are gaga over a sports team. My favorite example are guys (or girls) who talk about the team as if they are actually ON the team or have some vested interest in the game.

For example: "WE just traded so-and-so for whats-his-name".

"WE won against Dallas yesterday."

and so on. Again, I don't have to get it. It is what it is.

I so get what you are saying especially about the sports teams. I Think it is a fine line between stalker and having a perceived connection, because most stalkers actually do feel that they have a connection. It is a fine line to walk and thankfully most don't cross it.

 

[phorsenuf]

I get the whole I cried a bit when so and so died. I'm talking about the people that carry on for months and years even after a death. I read about people who say they wake up at night and still cry about it. Or how depressed they are or how they miss them soooo much. I's not like they knew these people personally and miss having lunch with them everyday.

I just can't help thinking what they must go through when someone they "really" know dies.

Just a curious situation I guess.

 

[disfan07]

I also don't get the whole crying when you meet a celebrity thing. I have met a few celebrities and yes it is exciting (especially if it is someone you admire) but i dont think its scream and cry worthy.

I don;t knwo if you can really have a "connection" per se with someone you don't really know but i think some of it might have to do with admiration more than anything.

For me, the celebrity that i was the most excited to meet was mary mccormack because i really admire her, and i was very excited when i met her the first time and i do get excited any time i get to see her now but nothing screaming and cry worthy. I know it sounds really cliche but they really are just people who happen to be famous...i can't imagine going up to someone who you don't really know and screaming and crying

And in reality (ive heard this a few times), many of the celebrities really do appreciate the fans but the screaming and crying is over the top especially if its in public.

 

[olena]

South Park was a laugh riot last week! The Dead Celebrities episode can be viewed, along with all others, at the South Park Studios web site.

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