I am the worst mom ever

[Sonya]

DS made a big mess in the playroom again and decided to tell us that it is his playroom he can do what he wants. His room is a mess too. I had enough of the backtalk and refusal to clean things up so I carried him to his room, got him in his jammies, and told him it was bed time and a lot of toys will be going away.
He is in his room asking where his "loveable mama" is. Breaks my heart but he has to learn to take care of his toys!

 

[golfgal]

Sounds to me like you are the BEST mom ever for teaching your child to be responsible .

 

[cheermom1]

I tell my kinds when they say "your the meanest mom ever" good then I'm doing my job right!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

No, just a mom. I am ready to kill my kids. They are teens and not fond of cleaning.

Wait until they make their own food and wear tons of clothes.

You'll be missing the toys.

 

[daisy2]

Your not a bad mom your just showing your child that you love him and care enough about to make him responsiable for his actions. I am sure he will learn from his mistakes. Don't beat yourself up.

 

[TerryKitten]

Thats what I would do... There are days once and a while when my son (who just turned 5) has no toys, books, anything in his room (except his stuffed friend) because of backtalk and such. He earns them back by being good, following directions and me forgetting what he's in trouble for .

 

[LaraK]

My kids fear the days when I come into their rooms with a trash bag and a 'tude.

You're doing your job when they call you mean. My son's pet name for me is mean mommy poopiehead.

 

[Nancy]

No, just a mom. I am ready to kill my kids. They are teens and not fond of cleaning.

Wait until they make their own food and wear tons of clothes.

You'll be missing the toys.

oh yeah I came downstairs this morning to a mess in the kitchen, someone (my 19 year old) decided to cook..so there was a pan and a casserole dish on the counter, shredded cheese not cleaned up and other assorted items either in the sink or on the stove and counter. I was NOT a happy camper this morning. I need to figure out what she was making

 

[TheZue]

Ohhhhh I remember my dad threatening to "get the shovel" to deal with my toys

 

[Diva of Dragons]

Awwww. It would be hard for me not to say, "She left with my loveable DS!". LOL!

 

[cheermom1]

Awwww. It would be hard for me not to say, "She left with my loveable DS!". LOL!

i used to say momma flew the coop.

 

[golfgal]

Awwww. It would be hard for me not to say, "She left with my loveable DS!". LOL!

I probably would have said she was buried under all the toys in the playroom

 

[Binnie]

My DD3 is at the why, why, why stage, and there's no satisfying her with any answer, including "because I said so." So I've started just telling her that it's because Mommy's mean and evil.

I realized too late that I was opening the door to a ball of wax I wasn't quite ready for, but the door is open, and now she asks why I'm being evil--and then cackles! (Who's really evil, I ask...)

But seriously, bravo to your for making your munchkin clean up after himself. As one of the parenting gurus says, being a parent isn't about making your kids happy, it's about raising them to be productive human beings.

 

[justjudy]

oh yeah I came downstairs this morning to a mess in the kitchen, someone (my 19 year old) decided to cook..so there was a pan and a casserole dish on the counter, shredded cheese not cleaned up and other assorted items either in the sink or on the stove and counter. I was NOT a happy camper this morning. I need to figure out what she was making

Boy, do I remember those days! Our DD is now 24, has her own apartment, and we have to TAKE OFF OUR SHOES at her place so her carpet won't get dirty!! Hang in there moms of younger ones -- better days are coming!

 

[doxdogy]

Want to know how we broke our dear nephew from leaving stuff on the counter? Told him if he did it again, it would end up either on the floor of his room or his bed. He thought we were joking, until the day he came home and found an empty bread wrapper and empty chips bag on his bed.

oh yeah I came downstairs this morning to a mess in the kitchen, someone (my 19 year old) decided to cook..so there was a pan and a casserole dish on the counter, shredded cheese not cleaned up and other assorted items either in the sink or on the stove and counter. I was NOT a happy camper this morning. I need to figure out what she was making

 

[Sonya]

dh actually did the shovel once. Obviously it didn't do much good!

 

[Darsa]

Absolutely the right thing to do! Mollycoddling and spoiling the kids, I think, is what has gotten us where we are nowadays, IMHO! So I think you handled this perfectly

 

[RitaZ.]

DS made a big mess in the playroom again and decided to tell us that it is his playroom he can do what he wants. His room is a mess too. I had enough of the backtalk and refusal to clean things up so I carried him to his room, got him in his jammies, and told him it was bed time and a lot of toys will be going away.
He is in his room asking where his "loveable mama" is. Breaks my heart but he has to learn to take care of his toys!

Yeah, they all say things like that at one time or another. He'll survive and you're not a bad mom.

ETA~ My neighbor (guy in his 50's) likes to tell the story of the day that he returned home from school to find all of his things, every single item, strewn over the front lawn. His mother got tired of telling him to clean up, so she threw everything from his second-story window. He cleaned up after that.

 

[slo]

Good for you for putting your foot down!!!!
I'm always at battle with my girls to keep things clean - it drives me crazy!!!!
Good luck to all of us

 

[flying_babyb]

good for you!