I am surprised people are asking...

[Cinderellafifi]

My DH has found himself in a bit of hot water of late and people are actually asking me if I support him. I find this insulting. Just because I don't agree with what allegedly happend (it is a financial thing), doesn't mean I love him less or want to leave.

I am really hurting and so is DH. It doesn't help that busy-bodies are trying to snoop into our personal relationship.

I would appreciate any words of advice or "been there, done thats" to help me find an appropriate comeback and some strength in a very difficult time.

Thanks.

 

[zurgswife]

I don't have any advice.....but {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

 

[jan/cape]

How about,
" Why do you need to know?"

 

[glo]

{{{hugs}}} We all make mistakes and if we love eachother we forgive and move on. It is no one elses buisness!!!

 

[SuiteDisney]

(((hugs)))
It's a shame people can't mind their own business.

 

[Otimon]

A big hug to you and your DH. You are under no obligation to answer anyone who asks such personal questions of you. If they are rude enough to ask, be rude enough to tell them, with a big smile on your face, it's none of their business!

Best wishes to you and know that everything will work out in time.

 

[disfanatiks]

How about your wedding vows...this is just a little bit of that "for worse" part and it sounds like you are doing an excellent job of honoring your vows!!!!

{{{HUGS}}}

 

[doxdogy]

I would look them straight in the eye and tell them that first it is none of their business. But, since they seem to be so insistent on finding out how you feel. Tell them that you love your husband dearly and that no matter what you will always love him. Then ask them that what do they propose you do, take him out and shoot him? Also, say the last time I checked NO ONE IS PERFECT, we all make mistakes.

(((HUGS))) from me to you.

 

[Tuffcookie]

Hugs to you for standing by your DH! How about, "This is a very private matter that we are not discussing but I appreciate your concern". This way, you make the idiots feel like you think they're worried about you (which we know they aren't!) and they will want to be thought to be even more considerate by dropping the subject!

TC

 

[C.Ann]

How about......

"You know what? You're right! Could you loan me $10,000 so I can get a place of my own?"

Personally I would just tell them to back off!! End of conversation...

Hope things work out okay for the two of you..

 

[helenabear]

No advice here... just {{HUGS}}

 

[Serena]

I'm sorry, that's personal.

And you need to know because....???

It's really none of your business.

Mind your own business.

 

[cgcw]

How about

"Of course I do! Wouldn't you?".

Best of luck! It's hard when put into an ackward position by other peoples inconsideration.

 

[Disneygal]

I agree with Serena's post. It's what I do.
I live in a little town where everyone has nothing better to do than talk about people or stick their noses where they don't belong. I'm constantly telling neighbors "none of your business". I don't care what they think of me. If they really cared about me, I would think they'd be more sensitive about my feelings. On the other hand, it does let you know who your friends are.

 

[bumcat]

Why are you asking or why do you want to know always shuts them up.
If they have children just ask them would they still support and l love their child if their child did something similar or their own parents if they did something.
Good luck to you...

 

[Krisu]

I agree with "why do you ask"? and "why do you need to know"? Hope things get better for you.

 

[SnowAngel]

I usually just look at people and raise my eyebrow and say nothing. It usually makes people uneasy. Then I change the subject. If someone is really persistent I just say "life is full of none of your business stuff isn't it"

I hope all gets better soon. {{hug}}

 

[Cinderellafifi]

Thank you to everyone! It is touching to see complete strangers offer advice and support.

Things are very difficult this morning because now our "dirty laundry" has hit the media. We already got one call from a "friend" claiming they can't believe this, etc., and had to cancel our plans with them.

It is funny how in our society so many think that because there are allegations, they must be true. (Sigh)

Thanks, again!

 

[AirForceRocks]

Does he work for Martha Stewart by any chance?

 

[Cinderellafifi]

LOL! No, but if he did, maybe I could afford all of this mess!