I am stunned!

[poohandwendy]

First of all, I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how devastating her passing must have been for you, her children and your family.

That said, what a total "insert really bad word here"! I don't know how he can sleep at night taking the life insurance money and not feeling the responsibility of making sure her funeral was paid for with that money, via reimbursing the money you paid. He should NOT need to be asked.

There are no words for how callous and selfish that is, IMHO.

vent away, I completely understand.

 

[Muffy]

OMG, how terrible. I'm so sorry for the loss of your DD.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Sorry for your loss...

 

[JPN4265]

My dd (26) died this past April leaving behind 2 kids (not her husbands). She and her husband had signed divorce papers but they hadn't been filed. She had a life insurance policy but hadn't changed the beneficiary because she hadn't expected to die (brain aneuyism). I just found out that he received the money ($75,000) and has paid credit card bills and invested some and put the rest in his personal saving account. My parents and I paid for the cemetary lot and gravemarker thinking we would get "reimbursed" when the insurance paid out. I feel a little awkward asking him about it without appearing greedy. money is tight right now because I have attorney fees trying to get visitation of my dgd (10) who is living with her "dad" who never had any type of custody or visitation due to his heroin addiction. I have the 3 year-old. I guess I really don't expect any solutions here, but it is nice to vent.

I would have a meeting with him, present him with the bill, and hope for the best. If all else fails, you can always take him to court. I don't see why you should have to pay when your daughters life insurance policy was there to cover these expenses.. God bless.

 

[MidgeD79]

There was no will (what a mess)and he knows the situation with dgd because he compains about not getting to see her often enough. He only sees her when I see her and then for maybe a few hours. He's only 24 and doesn't have a clue sometimes about asking for opinions. ex: he wants to remodel the attic to make it a 5 bedroom house (already 4 br) for better re-sale and not do anything to the basement that floods. He's painted 3 of the rooms very odd colors. I suggested to him that he contact a realator and ask the realator what needs to be done to the house to help sell it. He didn't seem inclined to do that. he wants to sell the house himself ("by owner"). I guess I need to realize that the money is "gone" and let him learn the lesson. I'm just frustrated that with some of that money I could use it to get custody of my dgd.

 

[drgnfly30]

Wow is all I can say... I realize that the kids aren't his but can't he see that those kids may need some financial support, setting aside your atty fees & funeral expenses?!

My brother died unexpectedly as well (thankfully no kids) he too had never changed the beneficiary of his life insurance from his ex-fiance. However, when the insurance paid out, she divided it ($75000) between my parents & my sister & I. We felt blessed that she would do such a thing without hesitation.

 

[Miss Inga Depointe]

Wow, I'm so sorry! What a sad situation!

He's creating a whole lot of bad karma for himself, if that's any consolation.

 

[minkydog]

I am so sorry this guy is being suck a d***. Something similar happened to my mom when her DH died. He apparently had never changed the beneficiery on his old, old life insurance and the whole thing went to the first wife, who he had been divorced from for over 30 years! My mother, who was married to him for the last 20yrs got very little. She even asked the first wife about the money and was informed that "Dave" wanted her to have it, so she would not be returning the money. Certainly it was her right, but "Dave" is probably whirling in his grave.

 

[Disfan3]

that is awful...I hope you and the children can find peace in this situation. I hate to ask this but why seperate the two kids? Are they natural siblings?? I bet they need each other at a time like this...Sorry to be nosey but that is my first thought...the kids. I am sorry your $$ is tied up and I will say a prayer for you! God Bless you!