I am so angry...

[Disney Anna]

mainly at myself. I was married to DH for over 13 years. Have been divorced for over about 4 years, but we never really parted. I had to divorce him due to his alcoholism.

Nonetheless, even tho we live in different homes, he has still been "my guy." He was doing great with AA for a while. Could never hook up an entire year of sobriety, but has about 2 years or so with small relapses in between. My hope sprang eternal.

Well, now about 2 weeks ago he relapsed again. Today, I called him during a break in a meeting to learn that he quit his job. He got into some argument with a co-worker, jumped to conclusions and quit his job. Whatever.

I am so mad at him I can't think straight. I'm trying to practice detachment, et al, all that Al-Anon stuff, but it is just so hard. I am just plain disgusted.

 

[LuvOrlando]

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[Mackey Mouse]

I am so sorry.. and I hear you tonight. Alcoholism is such a terrible disease and causes havoc in families. Try to get him to go to a meeting, or call his sponsor, see if you can encourage to get back on the wagon and get yourself to Al-Anon.. You need to have some support as well..

 

[TaraPA]

How have the last few days been for you? Maybe this will the the "rock bottom" that he needs to start turning his life around. Good luck to both of you!

 

[goofydad621]

Sorry to hear of the struggles you are going thruogh. Not an easy situation for anybody. An alcholics mind works in such a strange way. Find the support you need for yourself. Try to remember it is the disease and not your man or ex man or whatever doing it.

When you take the alcohol out of an alcoholic your left with the ic(k) unless he gets help and fills the void left by the alcohol and disease is still very much present.


Ok enough bable from me, I will say do not give him sympathy but understanding. Maybe forgivness but not forgetfulness, he will always be an alcoholic but has a choice to live in recovery. From my standing point until I learned that life was gonna happen but misery was optional I couldn't change allot of the old ways.

Send me a pm if I can help

Oh yea 18 years of being clean and sober sometimes a day at a time sometimes a minute at a time

Dave Goofydad Dionne