I am a terrbile mother...

[mowsie dreamer]

I am going to chime in on your DD’s side, too, Briar Rose. I don't see a thing wrong with what she did.

It sounds to me like she has been attempting to take the high road. After all, the other girl made the “I hate cheerleaders” remark several times and has even managed to manipulate things to make her miss cheerleading practice. I think that wearing her favorite outfit was a nice non-confrontational way to let this girl know that she wouldn't be pushed around. My guess is that the girl may be a little easier to get along with next time.

If the girl continues her rude behavior, DD should talk with her dad about it. He may need to limit the amount of time that his friend's DD spends at his house when your daughters are there.

 

[Disney Doll]

Aren't we all making a bit much of a non-tiff between 12 year old girls???? For Heaven's sakes, they are kids. Kids are going to do nasty things, they are going to fight, they are going to be mean to each other.

Every little thing is not a major trauma or a major life event.

So this other kid is a brat. Probably has good reason to, since she's from a broken home. So Briar Rose's kid acted less than perfect...s*** happens. Let them duke it out. Kids can handle stuff better than we think if we let them.

 

[snoopy]

Former cheerleader checking in.

BR, if your daughter continues to be a cheerleader, let me just say that is is my experience that she has a lot more years left of this kind of jealousy from other girls. She'd better get used to it, because this is the way girls are. I would encourage her to take the high road, because girls that age can be very vindictive and mean toward one another.

 

[goofy4tink]

And to think that there are people out there that think being a mother is an easy job!!! Obviously they've never had to deal with girls this age. It really is hard to take the high road when your child has been hurt/insulted. I've been trying for 2 years to get my 9 y/o dd to stand up for herself. While I wouldn't encourage your dd to get in this other girls' face BR, I sure do applaud her gumption and creativity!! Well, let me restate that...I wouldn't encourage you to encourage her, if that makes sense. But, when someone hurts your kid, well, that someone could be looking at an enraged mama bear. Have to say BR, that just your being concerned enough to ask about your response here, tells me that you really are a terrific mom. Keep it up!!

 

[suzannen]

I agree with goofy4tink that your DD showed a very creative, non-confrontational way of standing up for herself. This other girl has repeatedly make derogatory remarks about "dumb cheerleading" as a way of putting down your daughter. Why should your DD have to continually put up with that? I think she handled it in a pretty mature way.

So I must be a bad mom too!