husband giving me the run around about the trip!!!!

[shinediaz]

hello you guys,my husband is giving me the run around on whether we should go or not to Disney.this is my 3rd time postponing the trip.

when it comes to planning things we can never come to an agreement .we do have challenges in our marriage prior to planning a trip but because we are from new orleans and going through these hard times i thought it would be awesome for the kids. i purchased costumes,tickets and booked the room and dining.

He promised that we are going for Mardi Gras but i believe he's lying.



PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME!!!! THIS IS IMPORTANT

 

[SCBuzz]

Are you saying that he wants to go to New Orleans instead of Disney ? And are you saying that you have already made the ressies for Disney?
Are you guys displaced by the Hurricane?
Personally I would rather have the children go to Disney. There is so much there for them to do and take their little minds off of New Orleans. Parents like us also have lots to do at Disney and just think of all the time you can spend together just walking through the parks or riding the rides and laughing.
Go to Disney.....

 

[shinediaz]

we are from new orleans,and we currently live in orleans,we were displaced for 2 months only.

 

[lisametairie]

Hi I'm from metairie displaced by the hurricane now in georgia. We took our first trip last may to Disney with our 3 children and believe me my husband had nothing to do with any of the planning. I just told him what day to get in the car and drive!!! He's not a theme park person but then again I was going for the kids so I felt he should have sucked it up and went along with it. He complained alot but I know he had a good time in the end, did I mention that he's cheap too? I love him but he's got different views than myself. Iam planning our trip again this year for May 10-16 and will follow the same procedure. After the horrible mess that has happened to us you and your children deserve to get out and have some great family fun.



Lisa

 

[dixipixi]

We live north of NO and had a lot of damage as well, so I can sympathize.

We were planning to go at Mardi Gras, but we had to postpone due to Katrina. We've had a lot of damage to repair...you can't very well go running off with no windows, doors, or roof on your house!!!

We finally made the decision to go in June. We made this decision the night before Christmas. I'm just so tired of looking at destruction and construction!!! At least we've gotten most of our house finished (there's still lots of "little things" to do). Once we had our major expenses behind us, we felt better about planning the trip.

No way I'm cancelling this one. I think we all desperately need this trip. I'm so looking forward to seeing the beautiful grounds at Disney. My yard is a disaster. I lost all of my flower beds and a good deal of my flowering shrubs and ornamental trees.

I think DH is dreading this trip because he knows I'll come home with lots and lots of ideas for landscaping...and a blank slate to work with!!!!

 

[tmli]

Go without him!!

 

[dizcrazee]

I have a couple of suggestions for you - first, if his issue is the expense of the trip, come up with a detailed budget to show him and try to make it as economical as possible. Then have a plan to give him on how you can save money toward the trip between now and the time that you leave. Of course, his issue may be the money but he doesn't want to admit it, so I'd go ahead and do the budget for him even if he hasn't complained about the expense at all.

Secondly, if he doesn't enjoy the parks that much, give him some information about other things he can do - the golfing, sports, or whatever he is into...

You're going to have to do a sales job on the guy, probably! Emphasizing the benefits to the children and to your relationship with each other may be helpful, too...but I'd be careful not to phrase it in such a way as to make him defensive!

I consider myself very fortunate that my DH like WDW almost as much as I do! However, I can do a sales job on other things when it's called for!

 

[shinediaz]

i would love to go without him but i have a newborn,4 yrs and 6,so i find it almost impossiable to do it alone.

but yes,i'm very sick of the curfew on the stores the debris and garbage,so i could use a different scenery.

not to mention that every conversation my kids have is including the words HURRICANE KATRINA and FLOODED!!!

so it would be nice that they can have new words in their vocabulary.

 

[gris gris]

I was going to say go without him too!! Especially if he's going to be crabby about it. That's no fun!! Althought I think there is something about Disney that doesn't allow people to be crabby Is there another adult you can bring to help you out?? I hope you figure out a way to get this done because it sounds like it would be great for you and your kids.

 

[mel]

How sad! I think it would be awesome for all of you! I would sit him down and try to find out why he won't commit to the idea. There are lots of plans to be made so the sooner the better. I hope it works out for you!

 

[Teacher03]

I was going to say go without him too!! Especially if he's going to be crabby about it. That's no fun!! Althought I think there is something about Disney that doesn't allow people to be crabby Is there another adult you can bring to help you out?? I hope you figure out a way to get this done because it sounds like it would be great for you and your kids.

I would also suggest bringing another adult along. My kids are all grown now (almost!), and my husband has always worked long hours or varied shifts. I learned early on that I had to do some things without him. I hope it all works out for you.