Hubby doesn't want to go back :(

[WishMom09]

I am just crushed!!! I have been trying to talk my DH into going back this summer.....especially since we got a free dining pin!
And last night he flat out said NO...he wanted to wait til next year!
I got MAD....and SAD!!
Anybody been in these shoes???
What did you do??
I threatened to go without him!!
And I would if it was closer!!!
But driving 2 days with 3 kids by myself doesn't sound like much fun!!

 

[sweetdana]

I am in your shoes, except I fly.. My DH likes to go, but not as much as I do ..
I have gone one trip with DD5 alone and when she was 3 her and I went for 11 and hubby only came for 5 days.
No second thoughts GO if you want to GO! You will be so disappointed and even resent him. Live your life if you have the $$.. THEN GO! Don't look back.

Can you fly, take a train, or a bus? Or find a friend with a kid to go? If so do that, it will be easier even if it takes 6 hours more for travel time.


I am thinking of going in May, and I have foreshadowed this a few times and get a raised eyebrow every time. We went in Sept for 12 days, DD5 and I 5 days in Dec, Family in Jan for 12 days and going in Sept for 10. I do not think he wants to go.. okay I know he doesn't and I will probably go without him. I have a reward point thing at work that I am 2 weeks away from what will be = to 2 round trip tickets. Being AP and DVC.. there will be minimal other costs.. and YES I WILL GO in 2 seconds without him. If I can get the extra reward points, and get in using points we have. I WISH I HAD A FD PIN That would make it even better.

 

[Fantasmic23]

I feel your pain, I really do. While driving home from our WDW trip in February, DH said that we probably wouldn't be back until February 2011 ... or February 2012. I just nodded and kept my mouth shut. "DH will come around," I thought. "He always does." Of course, I had to "guide" him.

The week after our WDW trip, I rented two Disney World documentaries from Netflix - Modern Marvels: Disney World and Walt Disney: The Man Behind the Myth. DH usually hates documentaries, but he watched these two documentaries with great interest. The Disney Thaw was beginning to melt.

The week after that, we ran into some old friends. These were actually the friends who put the Disney Bug into our heads. In private, we referred to these friends as The Disneys - They were always talking about Disney, preparing to go to Disney or just getting back from Disney. We thought they were crazy, but this was back when DH and I didn't "get" the whole Disney thing. The Disneys inquired about our recent trip and then they said, "You should really see WDW at Christmastime." Now, DH is a Christmas Freak, so his interest was peaked. He began asking all about WDW at Christmastime and The Disneys were really selling it. Again, I kept my mouth shut. I began to see the twinkling Christmas lights at the end of the Disney Tunnel. The next day, DH saw me dropping the change from my wallet into a jar and when he asked what I was doing, I replied, "Oh, just starting a Disney Fund ... You know, for when we go again someday." DH said that was a good idea and told me to start adding the change from his wallet, too. Well, I never.

A week after that, DH and I were on the the Disney World website and I said, "Let's put in some late November dates and other information and just see what the price would be." DH's eyes nearly bugged out of his head. "Wow! We can get all that for that price? That's not bad."

And a week after that ... DH booked our late November/December trip!!

But that's my DH. At least your DH wants to go back next year ... and maybe he'll agree to this summer if you give him some time. Don't threaten to go without him. Never a good idea ... At least it's never worked for me when I resorted to threats (and vice versa). Ask him exactly why he doesn't want to go back. Is it financial? Is it boredom with Disney? Maybe he has something else lined up (vacation-wise) for the summer. Maybe some kind of compromise can be reached. OR maybe just calmly explain that you and the kids would like to go back in the summer and would it be okay for him to stay at home. I agree with the PP about taking along a friend. Your DH might feel much better about your trip if he knows you'll have a driving/travel companion.

Good Luck and keep us posted!!

 

[Daytona99]

My hubby does not like to go to Disney much - he thinks it's a long way to go to go to a "theme park." He just doesn't get it - I keep trying to get him to understand, it's not JUST a theme park! It's another world, a special feeling, and you can immerse yourself in the whole Disney experience. I would go back once a month if I could. My DS10 feels the same way - he's my Disney Bud and we just go ahead and go together and leave DH HOME!! We would like it if he came along, but, oh well. He's not going to keep us from going to our favorite place on the planet.

 

[antree]

double post

 

[antree]

Can you fly? About 3 yrs ago my DH didn't want to go back, there was a few family members that would be there and I wanted to go. He knew how bad I wanted to go and finally we agreed I would go without him. This would be my first trip without him and on a plane with 2 kids. I finally convinced him to meet me there for a few days towards the end of our trip since I was going for 2 weeks alone with kids. 1 day after we left he missed us terribly. 3 days later he had me change his flight and he flew right down.
The following year we went through it again. We left without him and 2 days later he was there.. Brings us to this year. We wanted to go in Feb. with family he didn't want to go. Finally we agreed to go in April together and we leave in 10 days

We do go every year for the last 12 yrs. and he just wanted a break from the money of it. So we didn't go last year, in the beginning it was sad, but the year flew by and now we can't wait to get there.

Good luck!

 

[kwitcherkicken99]

Remind him about the remodel next year so you need to go now so you see everything one last time... then you can go back when it's all done in like, 2-3 years to see what they've done with the place!

 

[3boys4me]

I say go without him. If you are o.k. with taking 3 kids alone, I say go. A plus to leaving him home is that now you are open to any on site resort with only 4 of you . If my husband didn;t want to go I would have noooooo problem going w/o him. Go and have a gret time.

 

[stacy6552]

Dump Him! Kick him to the curb! Clearly something is very very wrong with him.

 

[Kaler131]

I have NO PROBLEM going without my husband....and I often do!! He's not into Disney as much as I am....so he only goes with us every few years. I went by myself with my three sons last June (of course, we flew) and I am planning a trip for this November by myself and all four of my kids. We are most likely flying...but we will drive if there is a big difference in plane tickets.
This year, I am even going to camp at FW with my four kids by myself (we haven't tent camped since my youngest was a baby-he's going to be 7 in June) so it's going to be a challange....but soooo worth it to be in WDW!!

 

[v.t.]

Exact same shoes as you, DH refuses to go since we went last year. The kids and I have the disney bug BAD! We are going with DH's family to Alaska in Aug. yet I am on the disboards all the time. So today I was checking airfare for Seattle, when oops! I happen to find $84 to MCO. I think we are taking the GPs and leaving DH at home. Of course, if he wants to go, we might let him. So now I am off to plan a budget trip at the end of May. Anyone want to help?

 

[RMulieri]

Yes, I often do go without him..but in fairness we went 2x last year and once the year before that and this year we need to replace the deck on the house so no vacation( we only do vacations when we have the CASH in FULL to pay for them) so we are going next year, but I am thinking I would rather do a nice trip to an island somewhere just me and the hubby since we never had a real honeymoon( well..disney , but only for a 3 day trip in between my husbands residency rotations) Plus we want to wait till the Fantasyland rehab is mostly done too,

 

[WishMom09]

Thanks guys! WE do already have a trip planned for this summer....to the beach...Pensacola beach. That is why I thought it made sense to go ahead and add the DW trip...we will already be 1/2 way there!!
We can't afford to fly...for even 4 of us it is another $1000!
I might ask my mom to go....but we always but heads....and I HATE to spend all those days arguing!!
But she would love to go and would even help pay for a lot of the trip!
Also...let me say that we really have a GREAT marriage..rarely argue...I think that is why this is hitting me soo HARD!
I just don't understand why he isn't ready to go back!!

 

[okeydokey]

If you've been recently (like in the last year or two) then let him have his turn to pick a vacation and go back to Disney next year as he suggested. He is an equal member in the family isn't he?

 

[HunnyJar]

Do you have a friend or family member that might be able to go with you to help out with the kids and take shifts in driving? That could be a solution. I honestly can't imagine what I would do. Luckily, my husband loves Disney and seriously cannot imagine taking a trip somewhere NON-Disney right now. Of course we'd love to go to Europe, but he says, "What if it's not as great as going to Disney World?"

 

[okeydokey]

Weird, I can't see my post to this thread even though I see the check saying I have posted?

 

[persimmondeb]

If you're going to be in Pensacola anyway, depending on the length of the trip, couldn't you leave him, possibly with a kid or two, for a few days and take just yourself and any interested children to Disney for a quick fix? Or tack a day or two (or three-since I figure that's an 8 or 10 hour drive) onto the end of the vacation and all go? If you split up one of you would probably have to rent a car, but it would still be cheaper than flying.

 

[WishMom09]

Weird, I can't see my post to this thread even though I see the check saying I have posted?

I see it! He is an equal member of the family. BUT....doesn't help my feelings any!! Guess I am just being a brat!
I guess he just wasn't bitten by the Disney bug like I was!!

 

[WishMom09]

If you're going to be in Pensacola anyway, depending on the length of the trip, couldn't you leave him, possibly with a kid or two, for a few days and take just yourself and any interested children to Disney for a quick fix? Or tack a day or two (or three-since I figure that's an 8 or 10 hour drive) onto the end of the vacation and all go? If you split up one of you would probably have to rent a car, but it would still be cheaper than flying.

That's what I was wanting to do...just add a few days onto the trip....but got shot down!

I really want to go at Christmas time...so maybe if I keep working on him I can turn him around??

 

[worm761]

I am in Pensacola. Disney is only an 8 hour drive from here. It would be a shame to come all that way and not go to Disney. But there is a Disney store over in Mobile if you don't have one close to you. That helps with my Disney fixes. It is about an hour from Pensacola to the mall over there. I so wish we could go to Disney this year. I am the one stopping us. DD is just too young. She is almost 4 months old and I just don't want to deal with bottles, formula, and all that at Disney. So we aren't going until next May!