How Would You Feel/React if...

[tinkerbell12]

So how would you feel if you and one of your good friends just had this convo?

Me: Ohhh I'm soo bored.
Her: Omg me too.
Me: I don't have anything to do.
Her: Me either.
Her: Why don't you go play with your brother?
Me: Because I don't like to do stuff with him. He always quits.
Her: Well I like to do stuff with him. He's awesome. Always do what I want.
Me: So you take advantage of him?
Her: No! I just make him do what I want, that's all.
Me: So you take advantage of him?
Her: Gosh, Emily. He's a lot easier to do stuff with than you. He's so much nicer, too.
Me: So you're saying because he lets you step all over him that he's nicer than me?
Her: Pahhahaha. No. Because he actually does stuff that I want.
Me: I ALWAYS let you do what you want.
Her: No!
Me: Yea. Yesterday we DDR-ed when I didn't feel like it. We played Monopoly when you know that game is starting to get on my nerves. We just ran a mile because you told me to my face that I needed to lose weight.
Her: Oh. I gotta go sorry. Dinnerr timeee!

She said the last line in the peppiest voice. The voice that showed that our conversation didn't have the slightest impact on her.

What would you do?
I'm just not sure how to take that.

 

[KidGoofy]

It sounded like to me you were trying to start a fight.

 

[Sparkle_Cherry]

Talk to her in person, because then she can't very well ignore you.

It's a known fact that if a person stays and fights, they love you, and if they just change the subject or walk out of the room, then they don't. Because if they stay and fight the argument, then they respect you, and want to hear what you have to fight about. If they just leave, then they think that you're not worth their time, and they don't value what you have to say. Think about it, it makes perfect sense.

If you talk to her in person and she dismisses the subject, then she doesn't think what you have to say is important. That means that she doesn't respect you. And if there's no respect in a relationship, then I would seriously rethink that friendship.

 

[GirlWithSpunk]

It sounded like to me you were trying to start a fight.

Yeah me too, I mean you didnt have to get so into it.
But maybe I think you were trying to tell her that you do alot of things she wants and you didnt have another way until she brought up the little brother thing.

She also sounded like she didnt care at the end, so I agree with what Sparkle Cherry [I dont know your name, sorry!] said.

 

[Sparkle_Cherry]

Yeah me too, I mean you didnt have to get so into it.
But maybe I think you were trying to tell her that you do alot of things she wants and you didnt have another way until she brought up the little brother thing.

She also sounded like she didnt care at the end, so I agree with what Sparkle Cherry [I dont know your name, sorry!] said.

Psst. It's Caitlin.

 

[GirlWithSpunk]

Psst. It's Caitlin.

Haha thanks, I dont know if you know my name, It's Alexandra-just call me Alex.

 

[Sparkle_Cherry]

Haha thanks, I dont know if you know my name, It's Alexandra-just call me Alex.

Thanks, I didn't know yours either.

 

[STOPxmickeytime]

Talk to her in person, because then she can't very well ignore you.

It's a known fact that if a person stays and fights, they love you, and if they just change the subject or walk out of the room, then they don't. Because if they stay and fight the argument, then they respect you, and want to hear what you have to fight about. If they just leave, then they think that you're not worth their time, and they don't value what you have to say. Think about it, it makes perfect sense.

If you talk to her in person and she dismisses the subject, then she doesn't think what you have to say is important. That means that she doesn't respect you. And if there's no respect in a relationship, then I would seriously rethink that friendship.

i'm not sure i agree with that.
sometimes there are people that fear confrontation.
but i don't think she's a friend if:
a. she told you that you need to lose weight and
b. said she liked your brother better than you.

you just have to decide if this fight is worth losing her as a friend over, because there's always that risk in any fight with friends.

 

[Sparkle_Cherry]

i'm not sure i agree with that.
sometimes there are people that fear confrontation.
but i don't think she's a friend if:
a. she told you that you need to lose weight and
b. said she liked your brother better than you.

you just have to decide if this fight is worth losing her as a friend over, because there's always that risk in any fight with friends.

Yeah, that's one way to look at it. She could just wants to change the subject because she's trying to avoid an awkward conversation, where she might have to do some apologizing.

 

[Lil_Tink]

It sounded like to me you were trying to start a fight.

Yes it kinda did.

 

[Sparkle_Cherry]

It didn't sound to me like she was trying to start a fight. I just got the impression that she was asking a simple question. I mean, when you're friend says something like that to you, I think you have the right to probe and find out what they mean.