how would you feel about this...

[Dznypal]

my M&F inlaw always has to see the birthday or anniversary couple right on the day.

OK thats nice we liked it.

this year however they never acknowleged our anniversary (which was 10-13)

they were over last weekend for a visit my DH got me a beautiful new watch so he said (to his parensts) did you see her new watch--I got it for our anniversary (the last part just slipped out--we didnt want to point out the fact that it was our anniversary)

they said the watch was very nice but not one word about our day!!! this has never happened before

about a year ago we did have hard feelings but it was nothing to major but my b-day was this summer and that they remembered--I got a nice card and a gift--its not about the gift either--it just seems so odd not one word about our special day--it was our 27th!!! and DH has no brothers or sisters so they couldnt have confused us with anyone else.

We just found the whole thing so not like them

 

[aprilgail2]

Thats odd especially if in the past they always acknowledged it. In my family we don't send anniversary cards to anyone, just birthday so to us that would not be odd...

 

[mtemm]

any chance they sent flowers or something that might have been misdirected? they might be wondering why you never acknowledged them or something. just a thought.

btw, happy belated anniversary!

 

[Dznypal]

it sure has us dumbfounded.

about the flowers--that would be a good idea but theyre not the flower sending type--but are the type to ask if you recieved something--

one other odd thing-

about a week or so ago she called about Christmas ideas---my mom and dad sent us a gift card to one of the malls here and we bought a couple of pieces from "The Christmas Story" we both love that movie so we got the house and a figure--so I gave that as an idea

I casually mentioned that with a gift card we got from my folks we bought these pieces--she asked why they sent us a gift card--without even thinking I said it was for our anniversary. She didnt say another word.

Our sons anniversary is in Feb Im couriuos if she'll remember theirs.

Like I said this whole thing has us so stumped

its just not like them

 

[famofsix]

Maybe they are having a hard time financially and thought if they did not mention your day and you would think they forgot and then they wouldn't have to admit that they were not buying anniversary gifts anymore

It's funny because I told my parents years ago not to send money on our anniversary but my mom always did anyway. So this year she sent a card but never mentioned our anniversary when she talked to us. Our ann. is in OCT (our 14th ). So I said thanks for the anniversary card and she goes "uh-huh". I thought that was weird.
But at least she acknowledge the day. She was mad about some stuff earlier in the year so I am not sure what the deal is (punishment or finances). Either way I ignored it; and ever since then we've been good.

Weird OP? I'm not sure what to say except maybe she did forget and now she doesn't want to own up to it because she is embarrassed.

If other things are normal between you I would just let it go.

 

[Brooknwdw]

That is odd. Hmmm..did they always acknowledge it every year?

My inlaws have been hit or miss with remembering (or acknowledging). The first few years straight it was a $20 check and a card signed "love Mom & Dad"..every year! But the last few years we've only gotten a card about 3 times (this June will be our 15th).

How old are they? Maybe they just forgot.

 

[magicmato]

I know people may disagree with me here, but my suggestion is to ask them. Have your husband call his parents and casually ask if there is something wrong. If they ask why, have him unemotionally note how they have been ignoring the fact that you just had an anniversary and while you did not expect any THING from them, he is curious if something upset them and made them not even acknowledge it with a word or two when the subject has come up.

I know it will be hard, but really, these family issues would not be blown out of proportion if people would just cut to the chase and communicate.

But, I will add, you know you inlaws better than I do and if this would cause a huge blow up, ignore me.