charming23
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I am sorry if this gets a little long but I need to get this out.
How would you feel if certain family members basically wrote you off after the death of your father?
A little background. My dad has two siblings a brother and a sister and when I was little they were around for almost everything. In fact my uncle is also my godfather. After my Grandma died in 1994 we became an even closer family unit. My uncle would take friends and I on day trips to Sea World, Cedar Point, the zoo, etc and my Aunt would take me out for lunch and movies or just take me to her house for the day.
My uncle got married and while we did not see him as much we were all still pretty close with regular phone calls and making time to get together.
Fast forward to 2007 when my dad got sick. My Aunt was around always visiting him and keeping in touch with us on a regular basis. My uncle while he did not visit my dad that often we understood as he had a young child and was still working full time. So when my dad died in June of 2009 we all came together again and we pretty close for a few months. We got together for dinner often and talked fairly regularly.
Well now we barely hear from them. We try calling them and our messages go unanswered for weeks. I have not seen my Uncle, his wife (my aunt) or cousin in person in almost a year and my other Aunt in over 6 months. They have not sent birthday cards even though we send them ones and they always have an excuse when we invite them to do something.
It just hurts me because I feel like I am no longer apart of the family since my dad died. My mom's side has been great and nothing changed but with my dad's side we do not even hear from the extended family members we used to. Like we did not find out about a death in the family until a month later.
I know I am 25 and do not expect the attention I used to get as a child but a little acknowledgement that I exsist would be nice.
Thanks for letting me vent.
How would you feel if certain family members basically wrote you off after the death of your father?
A little background. My dad has two siblings a brother and a sister and when I was little they were around for almost everything. In fact my uncle is also my godfather. After my Grandma died in 1994 we became an even closer family unit. My uncle would take friends and I on day trips to Sea World, Cedar Point, the zoo, etc and my Aunt would take me out for lunch and movies or just take me to her house for the day.
My uncle got married and while we did not see him as much we were all still pretty close with regular phone calls and making time to get together.
Fast forward to 2007 when my dad got sick. My Aunt was around always visiting him and keeping in touch with us on a regular basis. My uncle while he did not visit my dad that often we understood as he had a young child and was still working full time. So when my dad died in June of 2009 we all came together again and we pretty close for a few months. We got together for dinner often and talked fairly regularly.
Well now we barely hear from them. We try calling them and our messages go unanswered for weeks. I have not seen my Uncle, his wife (my aunt) or cousin in person in almost a year and my other Aunt in over 6 months. They have not sent birthday cards even though we send them ones and they always have an excuse when we invite them to do something.
It just hurts me because I feel like I am no longer apart of the family since my dad died. My mom's side has been great and nothing changed but with my dad's side we do not even hear from the extended family members we used to. Like we did not find out about a death in the family until a month later.
I know I am 25 and do not expect the attention I used to get as a child but a little acknowledgement that I exsist would be nice.
Thanks for letting me vent.
