How to go about asking?

[laliwalden]

*Before anything, if this is in the wrong spot, I'm sorry!! I still new!!


Anyway, we are going in December. We have planned on staying at CSR. Well, long story short, my MIL lost her job. It wasnt a surprise, but came about 2 months earlier than expected.

My MIL and FIL had planned to join us for part of our trip. (they are HUGE fans, go every year, sometimes more than once) Now with this coming early, they are not sure they can afford to go?

Well, I priced it and if we downgrade to Pop, we could take my MIL with us for only $200 more.

My ILs are wonderful people and I would love to take her with us. They do alot for us and I would love to do this!! She has never been at Christmas time and I know she would love to see her grand-daughters first trip there.

My issue is this, how do I go about asking her? It's not that we are leaving my FIL out, he is a teacher and cannot get all the time off. I would love to do this for her, so any suggestions??

Thanks!!

 

[Hannathy]

My ILs are wonderful people and I would love to take her with us. They do alot for us and I would love to do this!! She has never been at Christmas time and I know she would love to see her grand-daughters first trip there

Substitute they and her with you and say this to her!!! Emphasize how much it would mean to you and her son for her to be there for her granddaughters first visit. Throw in there how much your DD would love to have grandma there and I bet you'll have her packing!

 

[disneydreamersx4]

I like pp suggestion.

Also, maybe send her a thinking of you card with the invitation to go with you for daughter's first trip.

 

[laliwalden]

I like pp suggestion.

Also, maybe send her a thinking of you card with the invitation to go with you for daughter's first trip.

That is a good idea.

My main concerns are 1. I don't want my FIL to feel bad and 2. I don't either of them to feel bad about the money!!

 

[bouncycat]

They're gonna feel bad about the money, trust me! I bought a trip for my mom for her birthday and she feels bad about the money, and isn't talking to me right now, even tho the trip is in 20 days. My sister the same way, but she voices her feelings a little better. Just tell her, and tell her it comes from your heart, and you REALLY want to do this for her. It may help for you....even tho it didn't for me. But,that's a different story!

 

[MSSANDRA]

How kind of you to try and make this trip work for them! My only concern would be your FIL. I would make sure that your FIL really would not be able to go because he might come up and surprise you and choose to take the time off as well.

As far as the invite, I love the idea of it coming from you DD. Be sure to be clear that you are paying!!!

 

[msumissa]

If you normally exchange Christmas gifts with them, can you tell them it is a Christmas gift and they are not allowed to comment other than to have a great time? I would tell them this is as much for you is it is for them.