How should I have responded?

[Pembo]

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[singingpixie]

I'm not a confrontational person either, but this is one issue where I make myself be at least a bit assertive. I probably would have said "Actually, I disagree. I believe that God loves each and every one of us the way He created us" and left it at that. I wouldn't have made a huge deal about it, but I wouldn't have let him assume I supported his position.

That said, don't beat yourself up about it now. It's not like you can really call back tomorrow and clarify your opinion. Maybe next time you're in a similar position you might feel more confident to speak up!

 

[OrlandoMike]

In person I'm very quiet, and would have not said anything. I would however take my business elsewhere.

But in my secret life.....

I would have dug my Joan Crawford Jungle Red nails into his arm, grabbed him near me, and whispered...."You know my brother is gay, they throw the best orgies, you really should come over some time!" Just for fun!

But seriously, there is only so much you can do. Sometimes its just best to let it be.

 

[ConcKahuna]

But in my secret life.....

I would have dug my Joan Crawford Jungle Red nails into his arm, grabbed him near me, and whispered...."You know my brother is gay, they throw the best orgies, you really should come over some time!" Just for fun!

Really though, everyone interprets the bible in their own way. In my opinion, people shouldn't think of the Bible as a "rulebook." There are way too many conflicting bits of information for that. Also, if you read the Bible the whole way through, God has changed what he accepts several times. The Bible is more of a "Spiritual Roadmap." You can take the sideroads and still get to your destination, as long as you're headed in the right direction.

 

[autumnl78]

as a friend of several bi/gay individuals ive had this one happen before. being im a total smart **** (and feel that if god says treat those as you should be treated etc that karma will be a ***** to close minded people in the end) i just say "well as one can not truley know what god/buddha/fill in your deity here truley feels about this situation until they come face to face i feel you should let people live their lives without negatively impacting them and realize in the end the only person whose actions and choices you need to worry about are your own and that karma is a ***** so just remember treat people the way you want treated."
usually, that works. and if not, i just well like i said im a smart **** so i let loose on a rant that spans all over the spectrum to include things like about love is love and whose right is it to judge who you love and how and how 15 years ago biracial couples were the devil and going to hell so who says society wont pull its head out of its **** in 10-15 years (hopefully sooner) and realize that there are more important things to worry about in life and that refusing people the same right of marriage, children etc based on who they love is ridiculous as look at how wonderfully well ALL straight marriages go, not, and then launch into how marriage should be respected and if straights dont do it whose right is it for a bunch of old men to use their religion to control who should and shouldnt be married as most life partner relationships ive seen are very stable and impressively loving etc etc etc etc etc.
but also, id just say, you know as a doctor arent you suppose to be open minded or at least have the sense to keep your opinions and discussions with customers on a professional level not knowing what long term customers you may offend and or loose? and then say and just so you know, my dog is gay and i still love him and tell the dog its ok boy and walk out.

 

[Notatourist]

"And isn't it great that God created all sorts of people to teach us how to love everyone...and lose the ability to be bigoted, discriminating and moronic? You do remember that Christ loved everyone, even the weak minded."

That's how I would have answered.

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

Personally, given the circumstances, I think you did the only thing you could do. He took you off guard, and was expounding on things that had no meaning to the purpose of your visit.

I would take my business elsewhere and that will send the absolute message that you did not agree with him.

Also, since you didn't say you DID agree with him, he did get that message too.

Thank you for being such a concerned and caring person.

 

[Pembo]

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[TuckandStuiesMom]

But in my secret life.....

I would have dug my Joan Crawford Jungle Red nails into his arm, grabbed him near me, and whispered...."You know my brother is gay, they throw the best orgies, you really should come over some time!" Just for fun!

OH MIKE!!! What a good giggle! I think I'm gonna go paint my nails red right now in honor of you and Joan. "Don't **** with me, boys. This ain't my first rodeo!"

 

[OrlandoMike]

OH MIKE!!! What a good giggle! I think I'm gonna go paint my nails red right now in honor of you and Joan. "Don't **** with me, boys. This ain't my first rodeo!"

After I posted that last night I chuckled to myself thinking of all of us sitting at our computer in our PJ's! Some wild gay life huh? I always laugh when I hear the stereotype of gay people, constant parties, drugs, loud disco! Geesh, no wonder I dont have enough time for yard work!

 

[jamieandben]

After I posted that last night I chuckled to myself thinking of all of us sitting at our computer in our PJ's! Some wild gay life huh? I always laugh when I hear the stereotype of gay people, constant parties, drugs, loud disco! Geesh, no wonder I dont have enough time for yard work!

Sounds like a new thread To me.
"THE PARTY LIFE OF THE GAYS"

 

[mikelan6]

I would also tell my friends not to use this vet any more as well.

 

[Boston5602]

Really though, everyone interprets the bible in their own way. In my opinion, people shouldn't think of the Bible as a "rulebook." There are way too many conflicting bits of information for that. Also, if you read the Bible the whole way through, God has changed what he accepts several times. The Bible is more of a "Spiritual Roadmap." You can take the sideroads and still get to your destination, as long as you're headed in the right direction.

That is the best description of the Bible I've ever heard !!!

Thanks

 

[bullet875]

I've found that usually guys like your vet, are also the type who go to church every Sunday, come home, and mistreat their families...

I have always felt that, no matter what your convictions, it is extremely unprofessional to discuss personal opinons regarding sex, politics, and religion with clients.

 

[rosiep]

I'm not a confrontational person either, but this is one issue where I make myself be at least a bit assertive. I probably would have said "Actually, I disagree. I believe that God loves each and every one of us the way He created us" and left it at that. I wouldn't have made a huge deal about it, but I wouldn't have let him assume I supported his position.

That said, don't beat yourself up about it now. It's not like you can really call back tomorrow and clarify your opinion. Maybe next time you're in a similar position you might feel more confident to speak up!

I really liked your post. The older I get, the better I become at finding my voice.
I have found myself in similar situations and very confidantly stated " I disagree. The Bible has been interpreted by men, and men are fallible". The conversation usually ends there but I walk away feeling good about myself.
That said, I also remember when I did not know what to say and so said nothing.
To the original OP: You showed great character coming here to post. I bet next time you'll be prepared and your own voice will be heard.

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

To the original OP: You showed great character coming here to post. I bet next time you'll be prepared and let your own voice will be heard.

DITTO RosieP's sentiment 100%

 

[mickeyfan1]

Ann Landers says "I'll forgive you for asking if you'll forgive me for not answering".

Miss Manners says "What ever would make you ask a question like that?"

It is so hard when people put you on the spot and you are at a loss as to what to say. Sometimes silence speaks louder than words, but if you are going to reply it is often best to not get dragged into a discussion you don't want to have, but to answer with a statement that lets the person know you felt they were rude in asking, but you won't be rude in anwering.

FWIW I too would have switched vets. But not until I brought in a gay man with an ill pet that needed to be looked at and after all was taken care of, let it be known that the vet may have sullied his rep by accepting a gay patient!

Oh wait, that would be rude!

 

[TinkerValkyrie]

I would have let him know I disagreed and then I would have left immediately without giving him my business. However, I have a tendency to be confrontational.

I will always take my business elsewhere if someone proves to be intolerant. I also won't give my business from people who try to push their religious beliefs/morals down my throat.

 

[PghLybrt]

All of you are so nice (and this is probably why I am not alllowed in the general public much), see I would have said something like .... "Oh darn, does that mean your wife wont be staying over after our date this weekend?" See how I get my self into trouble?

I think what you did was fine, my girlfriend would have done the same thing.

As you can tell I would not be going back to that vet and he would know why. (I would also post it on our cities web chain but thats just me)

 

[Pembo]

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