How (or Would you) answer this e-mail from my Ex?...LONG

[rayelias]

DO NOT DELETE OR ANSWER THE E-MAIL. You need to save this e-mail and any other communication you may get from him as proof that he is harrassing you. You will need to present it to the authorities before they will issue a restraining order or take action should it be necessary. Please file it under a separate heading in your e-mails and keep any correspondence which looks fishy along with it.

I was just about to post this same advice, but I figured I'd better read the rest of the replies first. Saved me some typing!

Good luck with this and most of all, don't let it interfere with your upcoming WDW trips. Have a MAGICAL trip!!!

 

[Jamesbyr]

Okay, I know I will probably get flamed for this and I honestly am not trying to stir the pot. I feel very, very sorry for you and there is a very good chance this jerk will find you no matter how many precautions you take. However, I do not think you are helping yourself by coming to a public BB and detailing every move you are making. I am one of those that feels like we shouldn't put too much out there in cyberspace to begin with but if I was being stalked by some idiot, I wouldn't advertise where I live, that I am moving, when my business will reopen and the dates of my vacation and the cities I am visiting. Again, this guy sounds like the kind of creep that will track you down no matter what but I would at least try and make it a little harder on him. Good luck. I do agree that you need to contact the police ASAP.

Lisa

DO NOT RESPOND!!!!!
And, I totally agree with the posters here, and the experts that they are quoting.... DO NOT BLOCK HIS EMAILS.

I know it is soooo hurtful for you to think of any further emails that you might receive from him. But, this is VERY important.... These emails are the EVIDENCE that you will need to get a restraining order, and to prosecute, if necessary. You know, the same principal as keeping the obscene caller on the line, until a successful trace can be made. This evidence may be crucial to your protection.

As mentioned earlier, the fact that he was able to find you DEFINATELY qualifies as stalking/harassment. He has had to take the initiative to find you... It is not like "Hey, I just ran into her at the mall".

Please take all of this advice, and take every precaution.


My answer:

I quoted two successive responses. While I agreed with the popular advice, NOT TO RESPOND, I was impressed by the second one, which was basically to gather evidence. (This may not necessarily have been a threat, but you never know.) If you are going to consult the police, they will give you better advice about this than I can. Yes, ask them.

At the same time, the first person I quoted has a very good point. You give a LOT of information about yourself on these boards. Your photo signature is unique (those mirrors) and I have seen it here many times before. Anyone can go back and read a lot of your old posts.

Why do people do this, I ask? I mean reveal SO MUCH of their personal life to thousands of unknown readers? (Therefore making it available to whomever.) I have one DIS poster in mind who claimed to have an unlisted phone number, but described their job, detailed their commute route, and displayed which car antenna topper could be seen in any season. Lots more too. Not smart.

I hope I am not off base on this.

 

[crazee4mickey]

PhotobearSam--I am glad you have chosen not to respond and to contact police. Keep copies of the emails, don't block him but don't respond an document everything you can think of. It's just creepy that he tried to pretend he was someone else you knew to try to reach out to you and after so many years--sounds to be unstable and untrustworthy.
Try to keep a low profile for awhile which sounds like it may be hard with "Donald Trump" for a father! Keep safe and have a relaxing trip, we'll all be thinking of you!

 

[Sillyminny40]

I would actually delete this whole thread. People can find anything on the internet and if he knew how this was affecting you it would feed his fire.

You are worried enough. Erase as much personal info and blogs as you can. This is not a normal situation.

Print out everything you can, file it away and do not respond to anything. Go to the police.

 

[grlpwrd]

I agree with LisaR. You're sharing way too much info here. I've been stalked and harassed online and I guard my private info as much as possible, even with ebay. Yes, I may share a pic of my baby girl, but not close ups, recent shots, or anything too specific.

Go immediately to the RCMP in your province. They will know the harassment laws and what to do. American harassment and stalking laws are much different and stricter. At the least contact his ISP in case any harassment continues.

Take care and yes, get this thread deleted!

 

[ericamanda01]

Delete and block.

 

[SnowWhite]

The very first thing I would do is talk to the local police and find out what options LEGALLY you have. I don't think they will have a problem with you emailing this guy back and making it very very clear you wish no contact from him electronically or personally and letting him know that you have contacted the police. This email should be sent to him and cc to the local police dept for proof that it was sent. Also he will see that you are serious about NO CONTACT.
This is my temporary solution for your situation, not really knowing alot about either of you. I am sorry to hear that you had such a rough time with an ex. I have had friends that have had similar situations and they are never fun especially for the one that wishes out. Good Luck, remember that Disney is coming soon and Mickey is a Kung Fu expert and will keep you safe in Disney. Seriously though, I would give another thumbs up for getting a BIG dog while you are at work alone. See you at disney...........

Rob (Snowwhite's DH)

 

[twojo21]

i would delete it, not respond & block his address. if youre contacted again i would contact the police like snowwhite suggested.

 

[Desiree]

PhotobearSam--I am glad you have chosen not to respond and to contact police. Keep copies of the emails, don't block him but don't respond an document everything you can think of. It's just creepy that he tried to pretend he was someone else you knew to try to reach out to you and after so many years--sounds to be unstable and untrustworthy.

Exactly what I was about to say!

Hope you guys can relax about this and have a wonderful trip to the World!

 

[QuiltTeddy]

DELETE. Don't look back, look at the wonderful life you now have.

 

[MazdaUK]

I haven't read through everything, but could your boss send an e-mail saying you have left the company and that your website will be updated shortly?

Agree not to contact him at all, and let police know if you are frightened.

 

[PhotobearSam]

It's my company and I am the boss...so that won't work.