How often do you call

[PrincessMom2002]

I should also add, my dd calls her dad daily when shes with me and calls me daily when with her dad. The daily phone calls isn't bothersome (unless it's during dinner or family talk time).

I think after reading what I wrote, it isn't about the phone calls itself, it is the content that is in the calls/texts.

This is the situation with my ex and me too. It's usually an evening call to the kids, and also a short chat with the ex about stuff going on. I will be happy though when my kids have their own phones because I don't always need or want to talk to dad, but we only talk via our cell phones so it's free. (we are long distance)

It is very dependent on the situation. My ex and I get along rather well, so it doesn't cause problems to be in regular contact.

 

[paintnolish]

When the DCs are with their dad every other weekend, I don't hear from them unless it is about something specific. DD has a phone for "emergencies" but sometimes texts me. When they are home with me, their dad does not call.

 

[Minnie_me]

My husband and I are recently separated. I have the kids with me, and he sees them on weekends (but never for the whole weekend, since that would interfere with his young girlfriend's demands on him).

I NEVER call when the girls are there. My 12-year old does have her phone with her, and she'll text me once in a while. But I know that if I call, she'll want to come home. I want their time with him to be free of mom-guilt.

 

[jfoofj]

My DS goes to his Dad's everyother weekend and one night during the week. We split holidays and he takes him extra during the summer. I generally call to say good night, but that is because my son gets upset if I don't... although I've noticed he doesn't mention it if I don't call anymore so he may be outgrowing it. He has free access to call his Dad anytime, as much as he wants (in fact, he called him at 6am one morning shortly after he memorized his Dad's phone number just to say hi). His Dad initiates the calls about once a week, and DS probably calls him once a week, sometimes more, but never less.

My DSS is with us a lot, more these days than ever before. It is pretty much a 50/50 split even though their agreement just says "mutually agreed upon". His mom hardly ever calls our house anymore, she will text me or DH to have DSS call her, and DSS hardly ever asks to call, but he knows he can anytime. We send a lot of picture texts to the kids "others" when we are doing something fun ie swimming while at the beach, getting a haircut, just being goofy. It makes them feel like they are more connected, I guess. At this age, when boys get on the phone it is pretty much one word answers anyways.