How Many Kids?????????

[gabbysmom04]

So how many kids do you have? I have a DD 1.5 and a DS 8 weeks. I am thinking about selling DD's clothes but I am torn about having more kids. How do you know when you have enough kids?

 

[ThreeMusketeers]

I am pondering the same thing right now, while I want more children and will feel incomplete with just the one. DH is absolutley fine with just one and likes the way our life is now.
I think its a truley personal thing that only you can determine.
But for me, its just how I see my life in the future. And how things are working with the child I have.

 

[Tjaleks]

I have 2 ds's (9&10). For a while we thought about having another, but as time went on, (and my cut off of having a baby by 30 came) we realized that we like and enjoy our life the way it is. 4 is a very good number for us for many reasons. I came from a big family and my parents lived paycheck to paycheck due to having that many kids. Don't get me wrong, I love my family and my parents, but I want more for my children. If we added another child to our lives we would love and cherish him/her, however our life style would change dramatically. I want my kids to have more than what I had growing up.

 

[1of6]

I have 4 (ds9,dd7,ds4,dd2 tomorrow)

If you are not sure, keep your things. As long as you have the room to store things, why not. You would hate to have to buy all new clothes for the next one. Each of my kids got new outfits for every size but I had hand-me-downs as well. Many times you don't have a baby shower for the next children.

I was told by everyone that you just "know" when you are done. I didn't "feel" done after 4...until I had them all at the park on day last year. The 3 big kids were playing and I was running after the baby (just over 1) as she went up and down, up and down, up and down... you get the picture. I was plum tired when we got home. I remember looking at the other moms sitting on the benches watching their kids and thinking I can't wait to do that!

This was my "I'm done" moment.

 

[drakester]

I have 2 daughters (7 and 10). I remember asking my Pediatricain this question and he felt 2 was a good number that way parents were never out numbered.

 

[gabbysmom04]

lol, my husband says the same thing about being out numbered. My DS was born with a lot of different health issues, I think my DH is scared at the thought of having another child with health issues. I must be crazy for even thinking about this now, my DS is only 8 weeks old!!!!!!!

 

[MATTERHORN]

Hi! Well I can sympathize as I just had baby #3 who is a little older than your DS. He is 11 weeks now, will be 3 months on the 20th, and I wasn't so sure even after his birth that I was done. But I have hard pregnancies and the other day I saw this really really pregnant woman at the mall, she looked absolutely miserable (the same way I do at the end, my babies are pretty big, my largest was just shy of 11 pounds!) and I just knew that I don't ever want that to be me again!

Plus the other day I felt kinda sick, almost like morning sickness. We tried for each of our kids and I had to work really hard to get pregnant and stay pregnant each time. So for the first time ever I felt that fear of "Oh my gosh, what if I'm pregnant?" and when I realized that I didn't want to be for the first time ever, I realized that I am done.

Another thing is that with my third birth I finally got the birth I really wanted and dreampt about since the first one. It was really tough and I was supposed to have my 2nd c-section up until the very last moment when they were prepping me for the OR and he came too quick to do anything about it! They don't let you do VBAC's here in Las Vegas unless you have a home birth (I can't due to complications), so the fact that I got that after all is still sinking in for me. I don't want to have another just because of the off chance that it would be a c-section and I would have to end that way instead! The way it lies, I have experienced a ******l birth, a c-section, and a VBAC, so I am very happy.

Well that's probably a lot more than you wanted to know, and you can see why I am on the planning boards as I analyze everything to death! Good luck with whatever you decide, I am so so so happy that I went for the third child. I was scared, but he has just fit right in from the start, just kinda goes with the flow. It is great!!!

Andrea

 

[lizally]

Hello. I have 15 month twins, and I feel that is enough kids for me. It was so hard taking care of two babies at once that I think I was traumatized! I am scared of having another set of twins. I also agree about being outnumbered by the children. Right now my husband and I can each take care of a little one and no one is left out.

However, I am keeping all the stuff, because I could always change my mind (maybe after the difficult memories are replaced by warm, fuzzy ones), and you also just never know what can happen! My mom was 36 when she had my "surprise" brother. I would hate to have to repurchase all of the baby supplies, so they are stored in the garage. I do loan out some of the supplies and clothes to friends, but only after I have labeled them with our name so they don't forget to return them. I think when I hit menopause I'll finally be able to let go of my baby things!

 

[lclark0621]

We only have 1, DS (2.5) & know we are not done yet. We want at least one more child, maybe 2, we will see.

I just know our family is not "complete" yet.

 

[crisi]

You always have one more than you can handle. Or your spouse can handle.

Often if you have a great kid first (and second), you keep going until you get the kid that makes you understand why some parents have a continual "deer in the headlights" look. One of my girlfriends and one of my cousins both had this kid as #3. The first two were independant, quiet, good listeners, well behaved, self potty trained, slept through the night kids. The third was the "every bedtime a battle," timeout chair needs to be equiped with duct tape, volume always set to high and speed set to fast kids. That's when they knew they were done.

 

[tmt martins]

1 and done

I went to the docs sat up and watched to make sure he did the job right.

 

[gabbysmom04]

I have that deer in headlights look right as I type! I think my children have sent me so far over the edge that I think I want more kids!

 

[1of6]

My dad has a saying like yours. "You always have one too many kids!" LOL I think of it all the time with my youngest. She does not know the term "pushing the limits", she is too far past it! But I love her just the same and can't imagine her not in my life.

 

[Camping Griswalds]

I always wanted 3. Just knew in my heart that I wanted 3. Well after 9/11 I decided to be happy with my 2 happy and healthy kids. Of course then I got a "surprise" and his life never began, heartache and guilt. Well then I became OBSESSED with having another baby, and after 1.5 years of really trying, finally got pregnant and she was /is healthy. We have talked about #4, mostly because there is such a big age difference btween my kids (boys were 12 and 8 when DD born) and I don't want DD to be like an only child. BUT I think after all of the heartache of my third pregnancy and still remembering that I had decided to be done after 9/11, I am complete. I just feel it. Of course I won't let husband or myself "fix" anything, but I am pretty sure almost positive that I am done. Of course after this scheduled trip to Disney, there will always be one person "out" as so much of the world and rides are made for even people that I may change my mind. But to be honest I am complete. I'd welcome any other baby with open arms, but for the first time in my now 13 years of being a Momma, I can honestly say I am complete. And that is what most other mothers have told me, they "just knew" when they were done. I guess it could be at one or six depending on who you are!

 

[WAHMto5]

We have 5 children and believe we are done. Dh would like to have one more, but I think that we are complete and feel VERY blessed to have the five that we have. We both wanted a large family and were planning on 6, but looks like 5 will be it for us!

 

[EthansMom]

We had considered having 2 or 3 kids until I was pregnant with number 2. I had some minor complications with my second pregnancy; after DD was born, she suffered from colic for several months; also, DD suffered from terrible diaper rashes. Basically, DD needed extra attention as a baby and chasing around DS while trying to take care of DD really made me see that two was enough.

I had my tubes tied in Dec. After having recurring bronchitis, both DS4 and DD1.5 were just diagnosed with asthma last week. I told DH, "I love our kids, but I'm glad I had my tubes tied because I can't imagine caring for three kids with asthma and bronchitis."

 

[4lilpoohs]

I have 4 boys ages 16, 12, 5 and 2. Up until a couple of months ago I wanted another one really bad. I knew we wouldn't have one but I wanted one. Then all of a sudden I felt complete. Crisi I know what you mean about #3

 

[sara74]

Here I am 8 weeks PG with a very much wanted and planned for #3. I always wanted 3, just felt that would be right. DH didn't want a third and then changed his mind so we went for it before he could reconsider! Now I am only in the 1st trimester and I know things could still easily go wrong, but I feel done already. I feel like if this baby is meant to be then it will come in August, but if not and the unthinkable happens then I have a wonderful DD and DS already and will be done just the same. I told DH to get the 'fix' appt, but he's not up to that mentally yet! Of course my mom is telling me not to do anything radical. She would love as many grandchildren as we could serve up to her!

 

[dismom9761]

I have four-10,8,6 and 21 mths.My DH felt done after two but I didn't.I felt done after the third .Now that we have four I am DEFINITELY done.I feel VERY complete-especially as I listen to two fight over the playstation and one screaming because I gave her milk instead of juice.

 

[java]

4 here as well and we just realized that we have outsized ourselves for hotels! My two youngest are 3 and 10 months and wow that is the handful but...I wouldn't trade any of them. Did we think we were going to have 4 kids- nope- it just worked out that way and our family is just perfect for us.
Oh and I'll tell you if you get rid of the clothes- you WILL get pregnant- it just seems to work that way.