How long do you stay with a sinking ship?

[barbeml]

My DH is loyal...to a fault. He works for a small company, started by a fellow he used to work with. When this guy started his firm, he asked DH to take the risk and join him. I guess it has been about 9 years now, and the company has been on shakly ground financially for at least 3.

The big problem is that the architects & construction management firms they work for are apparently all crooked, because they don't pay their subs. I know that is the truth, because the AG is investigating at least one of them. While the boss is a brilliant engineer, he is not a great business man and I don't see this lasting much longer. But DH has turned down offers and I know he won't look for aother job until this place folds.

When is it enough? DH works 60 hours most weeks and is under crushing stress, and it is not like he's getting six figures. How can I convince him to look out for himself?

 

[lisajl]

My DH was in the sort of situation over 8 years ago.
His boss was a horrible person. My DH would work his butt off for her and she would promise to pay him overtime and then she would not.

Well.. got pregnant with our last one and I told him I was tired of him being taken advantage of.
I helped him look through through the paper and found the wonderful job he has now.

He has to want to move on too. I think when I showed all the jobs my Dh could have, he thought, it's time.

Good luck to you.

 

[gradtchr]

That's a question my DH and I are dealing with ourselves. If you figure out hte answer could you pass it on?

 

[Lyn5]

While the boss is a brilliant engineer, he is not a great business man and I don't see this lasting much longer.

That is the problem with many engineers and other technical people...very intelligent, but sometimes too trusting or not savvy enough or maybe not too outgoing or personable...If things look bad he should be looking elsewhere since he's #1 loyalty probable is your family. You don't want to get caught in bad economic times when noone is hiring engineers....