How long did you make DD wait to get ears pierced (not a budget ?)

[jgraney106]

My daughter wanted her ears pierced at around 5 years old, but I put her off and said she could have them done when she was old enough to pay for it to be done , buy her own earrings and take care of her ears. Time passed and she is now 20 and has NO piercings anywhere.
I had a hard time sitting through shots at the doctor when she was little, so the thought of putting holes in my little ones ears for the sake of jewelry didn't give me the warm fuzzies. Good Luck to you and what you decide. You are a stronger woman than I am.

 

[mjkacmom]

I went with the "whenever they asked" approach, and wish I did them as babies, like many here do. My older 2 asked in early elementary school. Dd13 is on her second set, as the first ones got infected in the 2nd grade, and we had to have one surgically removed (this was a whole year after getting them). Dd9 has had them done twice, and they both closed, after having to take them out for sports. I'd say do it now, and help her care for them - it's really no big deal.

 

[Pigeon]

I let mine have hers done for her 12th birthday. I'm not a fan of pierced ears on little kids. I also wanted her to be old enough to make sure she'd take care of them and that she'd really want this done permanently.

 

[lizbaby007]

I was told they were not allowed until I was 13. By the time I was 11 I had begged enough that my mom relented! By the time I did turn 13 I got my second hole done.

I now have 7 in one ear (two at the top) and 3 in the other. I rarely wear earrings at all anymore BUT through Junior High and High School every hole had at least a stud in it Granted it probably led to the 2 tongue rings and eyebrow piercings (those were the visible ones) but I can say as a well adjusted adult (who has since removed ALL piercings) I really appreciate my mom for biting her tongue and letting me just be me. The piercings didn't make me a bad person, in fact back in the day (when they were actually rare) most people were fascinated by them! It was a way for me to express myself at that time.

I dont see the harm in a girl wanting earrings. Its kind of a right of passage for most. My vote is go for it...let her have them

 

[lovetonap]

I let mine have hers done for her 12th birthday. I'm not a fan of pierced ears on little kids. I also wanted her to be old enough to make sure she'd take care of them and that she'd really want this done permanently.

This is how I feel as well. I have two girls, ages 7 and almost-10. Neither have their ears pierced yet. I think 12 is a good age.

 

[kinntj]

My feeling on piercings is when my children can do the care themselves, they can have them. I don't have to worry about my oldest (almost 8), she hates needles and doesn't ever want them done. My youngest will probably want them done in the future, but she'll have to wait if she asks too young.

 

[MickeyHereWeCome!]

I waited until it was something dd really wanted for herself. She started begging to have her ears pierced when she was 5. We went in and made it as far as the stool three times, but came home without pierced ears each time. I was certainly not about to force her to have this done.

A year later (she was 6), she asked again. It was a much better experience. She went in, chose the earrings she wanted (and was even about to be reasoned with since her first choice wasn't the type recommended by the person doing the piercing), and came out with beautiful ears on the first try.

She obviously wasn't truly ready at 5, but I am glad that SHE made that decision. She was still one of the first at school with pierced ears at 6, but she was mature enough to have it done and could take care of her ears by herself.

 

[Diabolicdesire]

My daughter was 5 when she got her ears pierced. I waited til she was old enough to ask for them. She made the decision, picked out the earings and jumped in the chair with her baby doll in hand and never shed a tear.

 

[DisneyBrooke81]

My sil took both of my daughters....one was 6 months and the other 10 months. We did not have any problems with them.

 

[britfish]

Odd had them done for her 8 year birthday present. I was so glad it wasn't getting more toys and now people were able to give her earrings for her birthday. She was able to take care of them at that point. We will do that for ydd when she turns 8 as well--if she wants them.

Great idea! I think we will do the same when DD gets a little older. Shes about to turn 6 and I am struggling for gifts because I don't really want more toys. Now I know what I will give her at 8! It seems like 8 is the age most girls can take care of them themselves easily.

 

[tinker22]

I'm actually a teen ager but my mom got mine pierced when I was 1...I barely cried. I think now would be a perfectly fine time to get your daughters ears pierced! If shes really been asking then why not?

 

[wannago]

I always thought that I would wait until dd asked to have it done.....she's 16, I'm still waiting. My ds asked when he was 8. I told him to ask again when he is older. (he only wanted it because a friend just had his pierced) He is 9 now and hasn't asked again.

 

[samshane]

So funny you post this - I let my 9yr old get hers done yesterday.

My 11yr old has no desire to get them done - fine with me (she hates needles). But my 9yr old was asking for a few weeks. My mom let me get mine done when I was 10 or so. I told my DD I'd help her if she needed it, but for the most part she is responsible to keep them clean and take care of them.

 

[Ephany]

DH and I agreed with 8, but only if DD wants them. We're certainly not going to push her into it. I remember a horrible infection with my first set, so I want her to be old enough to turn them and clean them properly. She's mentioned it a few time, but not seriously so if she wants them for her 8th birthday that's fine, if not sometime after. I will make sure it's right after a sports season ends or summer starts so she won't have to remove them for games right away.

 

[MomToOne]

I had originally told my daughter she had to wait until 13, but I just relented and said she could have it done in 2 weeks for her 10th birthday. Because of other things happening right now, her birthday is going to have to be low key this year (no party w/friends, etc.) and so I thought this was a way to make her birthday still feel like a big deal. The two of us are going to get her ears pierced then have lunch and shop - a real girls day out!

I do admit I am wondering if she's going to back out as soon as she gets in the chair, though...

 

[LisaNJ25]

My oldest dd was either 3 or 4 months. My second daughter was almost a year.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I'm *planning* on doing her ears at 10 years old, but if I give in before then (which is likely) I'm going to try to make it a "reward" of sorts, not just a "mommy caved" moment.

 

[averysmom]

Dd started asking right after her 3rd birthday. We held off until she was almost 3 1/2 - just to make sure she wanted it. We told her repeatedlly that it would hurt, like when you get a needle - but she was all for it, and she didn't cry at all - even when they had to do once side twice b/c it didn't go in straight the first time The only problem we've had with them was a pair of Mickey Mouse earrings that caused her ears to react - we know to only do gold earrings now.

 

[robinb]

My DD had her ears pierced when she was 6. She was very brave and didn't cry when they were done. She was also old enough to take care of her ears herself with just a little help from me. It was also a birthday present for my DD and not just something we went out and did on a whim.

ETA: My DD wants a second set now and I have said "no" until she is 18! The law here in Wisconsin is that kids between 16 and 18 cannot be pierced without a parent or legal guardian.

 

[ceruleansummer]

I am one of three girls, and we all had our ears pierced before the age of 1. We love ear piercings. Now we each have at least two holes in each ear! I (19) have two in each lobe and my right cartlidge (got the other ones done when I was 17-18), DS 17 has the same thing as me, and DS 14 has three holes in each lobe! I think if your daughter wants it, you should let her go for it. I would remind her to take very good care of them and clean them often when they're new. Good luck with your decision!