How is everyone dealing with loved ones being away for the holidays?

Discussion in 'United We Stand' started by StephandSteve2004, Dec 17, 2003.

  1. StephandSteve2004

    StephandSteve2004 Earning My Ears

    May 8, 2003
    This is the first time my brother will be away for the holidays (he just enlisted in the Army in January and is now in Iraq). It's been hard on my family, especially my Mom, and I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to cope with him being away for the holidays. Thanks!
  2. Keli

    Keli <font color=darkcoral>We're smarter than the avera

    Oct 27, 1999
    Does your brother have internet access? What Titus' family did on thanksgiving was really cool. They created their own chat room in yahoo messenger and a lot of family got to chat with Titus and each other all at the same time. Sort of like a giant dinner table except everyone was all over the world, not in the same room. It was a real moral booster for Titus and I'm sure it helped his family cope with his absence. You might try doing something like that if possible.
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  4. phorsenuf

    phorsenuf Not so New Rule author

    Feb 21, 2003
    This is the first year my son will be away. He left right after Thanksgiving for Germany. This has been so hard on me! I know they grow up and move away but usually not THIS far! I've been real depressed. This is gonna be a real hard Christmas for me!:(
    I'm having a hard time getting in the spirit.....
  5. mudnuri

    mudnuri <font color=deeppink>I HATE it when I miss somethi

    Oct 21, 2003
    My cousin who is a Marine is heading to Iraq very soon. he's in Cali right now. He was suppose to have leave in January- they cancelled it, due to deployment.

    We JUST got word that he will be able to make it home on the Sunday after Christmas, but he has to be back on Friday. My family is forever grateful that we get these 5 days!...

    My aunt is taking it VERY hard, it's her "baby" whose leaving to fight for our country. My Grandfather, and 3 uncles are vetrans, so my aunt is well aware of the goings on....2 of my uncles were in the Gulf...

    Prayers and pixie dust to all of you..

    that yahoo chat groups is a GREAT IDEA!! I'm sure it boosted EVERYONES spirits!

  6. 01Sweetpea

    01Sweetpea DIS Veteran

    Aug 13, 2003
    The holidays can be very hard. My brother has been in for 11 years now, and the holidays are always the hardest on my mom, as it's her "Sonny Boy" she can't talk to. No real stragedies to cope. Hopefully your brother can write a letter, get an email out, or, if lucky, call. Even if it's not on the actual holiday. Just getting some type of communication around the holidays always helped my mom.

    Good luck to your family.. May your brother be safe, and come home soon!!
  7. powellrj

    powellrj DIS Veteran

    Mar 2, 2003
    no advise, but I can offer (((((HUGS))))).
  8. StephandSteve2004

    StephandSteve2004 Earning My Ears

    May 8, 2003
    Keli, that's a GREAT idea, but unfortunately where he is right now, there's no Internet access, but I'm going to keep that in mind if he ever gets it. That must be such a morale booster! Thanks for the tip!

    To everyone who is going through the same thing I am, I'll keep everyone in my prayers and to everyone offering support, I truly appreciate it!
  9. 4nana

    4nana God Bless America, Land of the Free and Brave

    Sep 10, 2000
    It is not easy, we feel your pain and pray for your loved one. ^i^

    Luckily, our son is not in the war, but we share in your seperation and loneliness. When ours first joined the Army 10 yrs ago it was quite an adjustment, specially some holidays when he could not be home with our family. When he was away for special training or missions ~ thinking about what he was going through was very depressing. I almost made myself sick with worry and then one day I remember what he once told me - he is doing what he loves, why worry? Easier said than done!

    For us - it helps to have placed it in God's hands and say special prayers daily. We have no doubt his guardian angel is protecting him and we are united in spirt. We do whatever it takes to get thru the seperation one day at a time - place his pictures around, keep a candle burning in his window, have bows on trees outside, decorated our Christmas tree in red, white, blue, etc.

    As of lately we have are very fortunate. He bought us a webcam before leaving the country and we are able to talk/see him via cam. Christmas Eve, which is also his BD, we all got to sing HB to him via webcam. It was wonderful!!!

    If you do a search, there are many military sites for families to console and share stories that may help.

    Take care and keep the faith ^i^
    ~ Sandie

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