how do you respond

[Wendy1985]

How do you respond when someone comes over regardless of the relationship with out notice

I freak out like almost panic attack especially if my roommate is not home

Do you welcome it or freak out like me

 

[jdb in AZ]

I have a "peep hole" in the door. If it's someone I don't know or don't feel like visiting, I don't answer.

 

[Wendy1985]

I have a "peep hole" in the door. If it's someone I don't know or don't feel like visiting, I don't answer.

I am somewhat on the short side so can’t see out of it had a ring but having technical difficulties with it I have gotten better at ignoring a knock on my door although harder for me to ignore then other people

The reason it is harder because the knock seems so loud I would do anything to stop it

 

[AnnaS]

The only one knocking on my door without a prior call might be a neighbor needing something. This is very rare too since we have phone numbers with close ones and they will also make a quick call. It does happen but it's usually for some message/asking for an egg or something. Not an "official" visit to come in.

Once/twice a year, one of my sons might make an unplanned/unexpected quick stop - very rare - but even then, they will call from the car to see if I am home. They have keys so if they needed to come in for whatever reason, they are welcomed to do so.

We have had a friend here and there stop by to drop something off. Sometimes the conversation is carried outside - it all depends on the circumstances.

Are there people today showing up at someone's door expecting to go in and have tea.

 

[Wendy1985]

The only one knocking on my door without a prior call might be a neighbor needing something. This is very rare too since we have phone numbers with close ones and they will also make a quick call. It does happen but it's usually for some message/asking for an egg or something. Not an "official" visit to come in.

Once/twice a year, one of my sons might make an unplanned/unexpected quick stop - very rare - but even then, they will call from the car to see if I am home. They have keys so if they needed to come in for whatever reason, they are welcomed to do so.

We have had a friend here and there stop by to drop something off. Sometimes the conversation is carried outside - it all depends on the circumstances.

Are there people today showing up at someone's door expecting to go in and have tea.

Nope only happened to me once I was very lucky one my roommate was home two it was a female repair woman at the wrong condo

I was just wondering if it was normal to be anxious if someone comes over unexpected

 

[LuvOrlando]

You are perfectly normal. I had a home invasion and a very bad interaction with a workman when I was young so I will not open any door ever for someone unexpected and am not the slightest bit bothered to leave an uninvited person out there. If it is someone that should be there they know how to call otherwise just nope, my safety is more important than someone else's comfort.

 

[nw6675]

You are not alone. I have a camera, and honestly, even if I know them I may not answer.

 

[_19disnA]

If someone you KNOW randomly shows up uninvited to 'visit' you can simply tell them now isn't a good time or you have an appointment and are leaving soon. Unless they are clueless, they will probably get the idea and call first before they show up next time.

If it is a repair/service person that perhaps your roommate had arranged for, they should have let you know that ahead of time in the event they are gone when that person arrives. A repair person is there to fix something, it's not a social call.

Personally, I would never just drop in unannounced at someone else's house to visit regardless of who they are. It is just inconsiderate and they may have other plans or be in the process of cleaning the house and not prepared to entertain visitors.

 

[Wendy1985]

If someone you know randomly shows up uninvited to 'visit' you can simply tell them now isn't a good time or you have an appointment and are leaving soon. Unless they are clueless, they will probably get the idea and call first before they show up next time.

If it is a repair/service person that perhaps your roommate had arranged for, they should have let you know that ahead of time in the event they are gone when that person arrives.

Personally, I would never just drop in unannounced at someone else's house to visit regardless of who they are. It is just inconsiderate and they may have other plans or be in the process of cleaning the house and not prepared to entertain visitors.

Then I would call and confirm with the roommate before sending them away

 

[Meriweather]

I have a video doorbell.....so I can see who it is.
We only have one neighbor that comes knocking and we usually know ahead of time.
Any other knock I ignore it.
If I didn't have video I would never answer the door.

 

[tvguy]

How do I respond? I say "come on in".
But as a kid my parents friends were always dropping by unannounced.
My friends as a teen always came by unannounced.
My wife's up bringing was the same, her parents friends dropping by unannounced.
Same with her friends.
So I guess it just depends how you grew up. But I do understand that it is less common and less accepted than it used to be.

 

[soccerdad72]

I guess for me it depends on who it is and why they dropped by.

 

[Wendy1985]

I guess for me it depends on who it is and why they dropped by.

even if it was a emergency they can call on the way over

 

[DisneyHardin]

We don't have a lot of people stop by unannounced, but I would welcome them in. We have a camera doorbell, but if I am home, I always answer, even if I don't recognize the person. We have a storm door, so I just don't open it and talk to the person through the storm door to confirm why they are there.

 

[Wendy1985]

We don't have a lot of people stop by unannounced, but I would welcome them in. We have a camera doorbell, but if I am home, I always answer, even if I don't recognize the person. We have a storm door, so I just don't open it and talk to the person through the storm door to confirm why they are there.

You are braver then me I will not answer the door if it is someone my roommate and I don’t know

 

[ronandannette]

How do you respond when someone comes over regardless of the relationship with out notice

I freak out like almost panic attack especially if my roommate is not home

Do you welcome it or freak out like me

I don't welcome it, and I don't freak out. If someone comes to the door, I answer it. I wouldn't be thrilled to entertain unexpected company but I would do it, if a friend or family member dropped in. If it's a service person or salesman or whatever, I'd just deal with that accordingly - no biggie. One thing we have found out from several other threads lately though, is that people all respond to this differently.

 

[luvnwdwgal]

We have lived around the corner from my in-laws and just up the road from my husband’s twin brother, for over 40 years. My father-in-law would come over all the time and just walk in the house without even knocking or saying anything. He was an odd man. Husband’s brother just walks in too but at least he says “hello” before walking through the secondary door into the house. I’ve never liked it but my husband has no clue, just like the rest of his family.

 

[fla4fun]

If one of the neighbors comes knocking, it’s usually because they got my mail by mistake (our delivery person gets it wrong more than most), so I answer. Neighbors on our street aren’t known for visiting each other’s homes really. We are cordial as a group, but keep to ourselves.

If it’s not someone I know, I don’t. If the No Soliciting sign doesn’t deter them and they continue knocking, which has happened a couple times, I speak to them through the small bathroom window adjacent to the front door, so they cannot force their way in. Since I did not invite them I don’t feel that’s particularly rude.

 

[aprilgail]

I say come on in and hang out. I don’t need advance notice when friends neighbors or relatives come over.

 

[evilmommie]

My two adult kids that live near by come over all of the time without announcing themselves or knocking before they come in. I look out the door and answer it, if someone knocks. If I don’t have plans and they need something, I will help. If a neighbor or relative wants to come in and say hi…come on in. I’m from So Cal, but my hubby is from Alabama. I’m glad I learned some southern hospitality from his momma. Her porch/house was always open for a visit. Lemonade or Sweet tea? I miss her!