How do you know.....

[mudnuri]

Your in love?

a couple friends and i were talking about this last night and nobody had a real answer.

Whats your thoughts? How did/do you know your "in love" with someone....

Brandy

 

[ilovepcot]

I imagine they'll be as many answers for this as there are people.

 

[Micca]

If it's for real, there are no doubts.

 

[Shugardrawers]

When your life becomes about what's best for your partner and you become #2. At least it was for me. When the relationship became my focus rather than just me I knew this was it.

 

[olena]

When your life becomes about what's best for your partner and you become #2. At least it was for me. When the relationship became my focus rather than just me I knew this was it.

Exactly.

 

[TimeforMe]

When the thought of being without them hurts your heart.

 

[Alaska Catdog]

I didn't know my future husband well at all. We were co-workers and I'd driven him on an errand. We stopped at McDonalds for a quick dinner and as we were chatting I said "I could talk to you forever" as soon as these words left my mouth time stood still and bells rang in my head because of the truth in that statement. It was so weird and a bit awkward because I barely knew him but at that moment I knew I'd know him for the rest of my life. It felt like I'd just won the lottery.

 

[Boo'sMom]

if you have to ask...you aren't..you just sort of KNOW

 

[mudnuri]

I get that you "know" when its the one....but how do you know...whats the feeling.....you all must know what it feels like.......and might be able to explain it better than some

Brandy

 

[hiwaygal]

whoever said "you just know"...it's so true but so hard to explain.

for me it began with a feeling of comfort (kinda like what Alaska Catdog said about "I could talk to you forever")...there is no fear or apprehension that you will say or do the wrong thing.

Later it was a confidence that this person felt the same way. There was no doubt in my mind that he loved me...

I also agree with what TimeforMe said...when you feel so "lost" without that person, not a "dependency" so much as a "completion". It's not that you COULDN'T live without them, it's when you realize that you don't want to...

Life just seems so much fuller because you know there is someone there who will share all the little moments of the day with you...no matter if they are good or bad.

It is really hard to explain...but when it happens, it's magical!

 

[shortbun]

I agree that if you have to ask-you're not in love. It hits you like a very comfortable ton of bricks. When I first saw my now husband-my first thought was, "I want HIM!" and not in a lustfull way either although lust was definitely there. He was just too good to waste lust on!!!! lol!

 

[mudnuri]

whoever said "you just know"...it's so true but so hard to explain.

for me it began with a feeling of comfort (kinda like what Alaska Catdog said about "I could talk to you forever")...there is no fear or apprehension that you will say or do the wrong thing.

Later it was a confidence that this person felt the same way. There was no doubt in my mind that he loved me...

I also agree with what TimeforMe said...when you feel so "lost" without that person, not a "dependency" so much as a "completion". It's not that you COULDN'T live without them, it's when you realize that you don't want to...

Life just seems so much fuller because you know there is someone there who will share all the little moments of the day with you...no matter if they are good or bad.

It is really hard to explain...but when it happens, it's magical!

that is a perfect explaination!!!

Brandy

 

[hiwaygal]

glad you like it

 

[LoveWDW]

I agree with what was written above. The difference between a crush and love is that there is reciprocation. There is a feeling of comfort that comes from knowing that the loved one loves you also, and this causes the love to grow.

I felt that my sweetheart completed me. We started out as friends, and then he became my best friend and from there we fell in love.

For a crush, you can yearn for the other person and want to do all you can for him, but until it has the element of his being in love with you too, it is just a crush.

Before I fell in love, I asked a friend how you know. She said "You'll know." And it was true.

In a crush there is joy in your heart, but there is always uncertainty. In love there is a joy of a depth that....you do know.

 

[Stacerita]

There are a few lines from "When Harry met Sally" that I always think about when someone talks about knowing when you are in love......

I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.

It is so nice when you can sit with someone and not have to talk.

You say things like that, and you make it impossible for me to hate you.

 

[Tiffann4k]

If someone has to question if they are in love or not then chances are they are not.


I thought I was in love at 15, 16, 17 & even 18 but it was never true love, even got pregnant when I was 18 with one of the men I thought I was in love with......didnt know what true love was or the feeling of really being in love until I met my now DH after my daughter was born , I just knew it was love...... we were married 3 months after we met

 

[Stitchfans]

You now you are in love when the things that really annoy you don't annoy you as much when they do it.

In spite of all the annoying things DH does I still stay with him and still love him.

 

[Goofball]

For me, it was being in my favorite place on Earth without my boyfriend and wishing I could be back home with him instead. This was at 18 years old, though; I look at 18 year olds now and think they're way too young to be in love! LOL

I don't quite understand the idea that if you have to ask it isn't love. Especially if it's your first time being in love, you just don't know what you're feeling, and throwing around the L word is something you don't want to be wrong about!

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

It snuck up on me. On our second date!

For some reason, I had to keep biting back the words, "I love you"! I couldn't figure out where in the world it was coming from. I've never done that before with anyone else.

I remember telling my mother about it the next day, and she was like, "Lord, you do that and you're going to scare him off!"

We were together every day after our first date and about a week later, I confided to him what I was feeling. Would you believe he told me he had been feeling the same thing on our second date too???

Something strange happened that night. Neither one of us can explain it. You just know.

 

[KAMLEM]

I have to agree with everyone who says that if you have to ask, you're not in love. It's so hard to put it into words, it's just the most wonderful feeling ever. What makes it even better is when you still feel that way after 13 years of marriage!