How do you get your DH's to go back to Disney every year?

[bdiddy]

Do they love it as much as you do or are they just sort of indifferent and just go along with it?

My DH was very hesitant about our 1st trip and didn't think he would like it but thought it was one of those things you just have to try once. We all had a great time and he was pleasantly surprised and really liked it but did say he couldn't see going every year and we could go back but not for like 5 yrs or so. He likes to travel and just says there are too many other places to go to give up your 1 vacation to Disney every year.

Well....fast forward a year and we have free flight credit (long story) and free dining is extended so I said to DH "let's go back" and he actually said yes and was excited about it! So, our 2nd trip was only 15 months after our first (we went in Dec). Once again, we had a great time but I think he is all Disney'd out. Just the other day he actually said all the continous Disney talk is started to drive him crazy. And now he says we are definitely not going back until the kids are 8 and 10 or so (they are 3 and 5 now).....and he'd like to wait until after the changes at MK are done.

So....what I'm wondering how do I get him to go back sooner? I would go every year if I could but my DH isn't the type to sit back and not care or not have an opinion and like I said he likes to travel around to other places too. My best friend goes every year and her husband pretty much defers to her but my DH isn't like that - he definitely has an opinion about everything!

Do I just stop talking about it and then every once in awhile casually mention a deal they have going on? Hope that as time goes by he realizes that he wants to go back too?

Just wondering if anyone was in a similar situation??

 

[tam626]

We've went the past two years & plan to go this year. Dh loves it as much as my 4 yr old & I do. Not sure what to tell you about your dh, if he's sick of hearing it, I would'nt mention it too much more. Maybe price some other vacations & show him the plus & minuses of those vacations compared to Disney. Good luck.

 

[jkstewart1800]

i could list a few ways you could convince your husband to go, but this is a family chat board and I don't want to get in trouble....

all I will say is just think of Barney (the dino) little friend......


enough said!!!

 

[J'aime Paris]

Ask your in-laws to go with you!

That's what I did for our upcoming trip and it worked!! Plus, it was a family xmas present.

DH mostly goes for DD and I. He's not much into travel, but I love to.
DD and I have gone to WDW several times just the two of us. Maybe that's an option for you, or bring a relative who could help since you have 2 children.

 

[donaldsgirl]

The Barney idea could probably work.
My husband is just as bad as I am, we go every year at least once for 2 weeks and we own with 2 different vacation clubs there. Is there any other place that he wants to go or is he just being anti-disney (GASP!!). It is funny really, we talk about going other places but when we sit down to start planning we automatically start a Disney World Vacation . Tell him that you really enjoy it and would like to make it an annual thing, even if it isnt for a whole week. That is where you will probably win this war, sister. Either that or find a new Disney fanatic to marry. (just joking)

 

[Darcy03231]

My DH went on the first trip (over 20 years ago now) and has refused to go back. My solution - I take the kids and go without him. I'm happy, he's happy (he goes on a camping/fishing/kayaking trip with his buddies while we're gone) and the kids are happy. He and I take a vacation without the kids each too, usually either a cruise or an all inclusive resort.

 

[Petraman]

I do feel your pain bdiddy, but the problem is I AM THE DH!!! My DW and 2 DD's think their dad has lost it. I LOVE Disney! I have already booked our 2010 trip, our 2011 trip, and can't wait to see if we pull off the new Disney Hawaii location for DD15's graduation trip in 2013.

So let me ask, what other things does your hubby enjoy? Maybe the best approach is to make your WDW trip more multi-faceted. Instead of just the parks, how about a day or 2 at the beach, Sea World, Bush Gardens. Orlando area has much more to offer. Does he like to golf? Why don't you look into getting golf package at the Disney courses? If he is a golfer, he will love these world-renowned course. They also have some reasonable packages that include a lesson as I remember. He plays golf and you and the kids hit the parks!

The advice someone else gave was good, best thing to do is just let him know your desire to make it a yearly ( or maybe he'll settle for every other year) event. My DW sat down and talked about how fast our kids are growing up and decided we wanted to figure out a way to make Disney our BIG thing every year.

You know in your heart the best thing to do is figure out a way to sit down and work on a compromise that satisfies his desires and yours as well. Good Luck!! May ther be many "Magic Disney" experiences in your future!

I Forgot... Another great option is a Disney Cruise! I didn't think I would like cruising but we went for our 20th anniversary and fell in love with it. You get the Disney experience onboard, as well as seeing a new beautiful part of the world every morning. And let him know, the boat is NOT just about kids, there are some fantastic things just for you & him to enjoy.

 

[katie111]

Like some of the other posters said, I go without him. My husband went once before we had kids and once after, when my 2 oldest kids were 2.5 and 4. WE had a great time on both of those trips. He hasn't gone since & I've been back 4 or 5 times without him. I usually bring my sister along instead as she loves Disney too. Once I just took my 2 older kids by myself and left the baby at home with DH which was fantastic. I'm a SAHM so I obviously have way more vacation time than my DH. We also do family vacations that he enjoys, like Mexico or the Carribbean. I agree with your DH there are so many places to see besides Disney. If I couldn't afford both I would go somewhere we would both enjoy. I feel like if I drag my DH to Disney he's not going to enjoy it anyways. He usually takes a weekend while where away & goes skiing, which he loves & I'm not really into. My sister & I are taking the kids again next month & I can't wait!

 

[mom2maggie]

Deluxe Dining Plan - That's how I do it. I show him the food porn threads on here, and he gets excited just thinking about it!

 

[bdiddy]

Thank you guys for all your suggestions! And LOL on the Barney....

I honestly couldn't imagine going without him - we really do everything as a family and he's definitely not anti-Disney....he did really like it and wants to go back, just not every year. He loves the beach and we have gone on 2 cruises before kids so maybe I can work that angle in there. He's not into golfing/camper/fishing, etc.....and doesn't really do that stuff with friends so I can't use that one. He's big into movies (he saw 6 last week while on vacation - good thing my brother is a manager at a theater!!) so I'm not sure how I could work that one in.

He mentions all these other places to go but I keep telling him "what are our 3 and 5 year old going to do there"....when we went on our trip last year we took 2 wks and drove and stopped at friends on the way down and back but we also went to the beach for a few days (which the kids only last a few hours) and then to Savannah for a few days to check out the town but it really didn't work out too good with a 2 and 4 yr old - just not kid friendly. He does know that I'd go every year because I've told him and if he doesn't want to that's fine but we definitely need to find a compromise!

I think I'm just going to lay off the Disney talk for awhile except for casually mentioning deals and see what comes up when it is time to talk about vacation again!?!

 

[Nero39]

I was just like your DH. I went reluctantly the first time, but loved it. We now own DVC points.
The best argument I can come up with for you is:

The rest of the world will still be there in in 10 years time, the wonder and awe of your young kids will not be.

My kids have grown up visiting the world every 2 years, the only reason we don't go more often is that the flights are very expensive for 5 from the UK.
In the years we don't come over the pond we have been all over the UK and I also took my 2 boys to Switzerland for 2 weeks camping with the scouts. Even with all of that, the only holidays the continually talk about are the ones to Florida.

Despite the fact I love visiting Disney, I am certain that in a few years time we will stop coming and start to explore the rest of the real world when there is just me and DW.
Then when we have the pleasure of being grandparents in the very distant future we will be able to experience all of the excitement of bringing our enlarged family again.

 

[Keri]

My DH keeps saying "we can't go EVERY year" and my answer is always "why not??" Basically, I've convinced him the last 3 years with "but this is the last year ..." (we don't have a baby, the baby is easy, the baby is free)

I don't know. My feeling is, they LOVE it now. Will they love it at 8 & 10? I don't know. But I know they love it now. We have fun, we have the money. It's easier than most other vacations we take because of the transportation to & from the parks & not having to take carseats with us or rent a car. I just keep selling him on the pros, get the kids involved in talking it up, and then when a good deal comes out, I win

 

[*Toadstool*]

I asked my hubby, and he said I'd have to take my boyfriend.

 

[floridascgirl]

After our 1st trip, my DH said, "We need to wait a bit before we go back again. It's too expensive to go every year." Then, I found the DIS and learned the ins & outs of discount codes and such, so he coudn't use the too expensive excuse anymore.

After the 2nd trip, he said, "We need to wait a bit before we go back again. It's crazy to go every year." I simply said, "No it's not."

After our last (4th) trip, HE booked a Bounceback trip!

 

[dis75ney]

Is he a Star Wars fan? That's how I get my DH to go every year...

 

[tlh0726]

I asked my hubby, and he said I'd have to take my boyfriend.

I think you may be married to my husband

He travels for business and as soon as his plane lands he calls me on his cell and says sorry to disappoint you but the plane has landed safely.
On his return flights he says the same thing and then follows up with have your boyfriends out of the house in about an hour.

 

[busyshrew]

I think you may be married to my husband

He travels for business and as soon as his plane lands he calls me on his cell and says sorry to disappoint you but the plane has landed safely.
On his return flights he says the same thing and then follows up with have your boyfriends out of the house in about an hour.

To the OP - Here's how I view the annual Disney trips:

DH and I have developed an "embrace the moment" mindset.

So, when we were young & childfree, we travelled to Asia, rode our motorcycle everywhere we could, got a very high-energy dog, renovated an ancient old house, did the drinking, partying, pub-crawling nights with friends, you name it, we were game. And that was our fun, selfish time of life.

Now, we are parents to a young child who is at that wonderful, "wonder-full" phase of her life. She BELIEVES. With all her heart! In Santa Claus, in the Tooth Fairy... and of course in Disney. She really, truly believes Cinderella lives in that castle! So we're going to WDW every spring - for a while - to enjoy that Disney magic while we can. Soon enough, we figure, school will get tougher, her life will get busier, her friends will become more important, and she won't see everything with that same sense of innocence.

So I'm with you - enjoy it, go back!

 

[starsweeper]

My DH grew up an hour from WDW, so he went more times than he could remember. He was very skeptical about our 1st trip in Feb09 with two 2.5-year-olds. We ended up having a great trip and he was open to going in another year.

I recently brought up a trip during a warmer time of year. DH's work is in high gear March through October, so he can't go then. Instead, my Mom is going on a trip with the kids and I this May. However, I was shocked when DH asked if we should buy DVC membership because he thinks I'll probably want to go each year. I can't get my head around $18,000+ for DVC, but it probably would be cheaper in the long run. I just hate to tie up that much money when there are so many other things to do when they are older--go out west, Washington D.C., etc.

 

[tlh0726]

However, I was shocked when DH asked if we should buy DVC membership because he thinks I'll probably want to go each year. I can't get my head around $18,000+ for DVC, but it probably would be cheaper in the long run. I just hate to tie up that much money when there are so many other things to do when they are older--go out west, Washington D.C., etc.

We have not researched or discuss in depth doing DVC, but our first thought was how can it really be chaper when you take into consideration Initial cost (plus interest if borrowing), yearly dues, and still having to purchase tickets, how can we justify it??

 

[*Toadstool*]

I think you may be married to my husband

He travels for business and as soon as his plane lands he calls me on his cell and says sorry to disappoint you but the plane has landed safely.
On his return flights he says the same thing and then follows up with have your boyfriends out of the house in about an hour.

My hubby calls from offshore to tell me he is coming home, and he tells me to get "Jody" out of the house. All the men offshore joke about how Jody is the boyfriend that their wives have while they are offshore.
Sadly, I bet some of them really have a "Jody".

My hubby says we are only going to DW once.. that is it.
I'm hoping since he has never been that he will change his mind after we go.