How do I not let DS7 feel left out? Ideas?

[Ladyw/theTramp]

We are taking another Disney Trip in Oct with extended family and my DD and 2 DNeices all have a birthday right within a week or do of the trip. My SIL called the travel agent and told her and the agent said she will make sure that there is something special for them.

Now, this being said, we have gone several times at this time of year for the crowds and prices, etc and DD's birthday has been recognized before. This year DS asked if we could go in Feb since "his sister ALWAYS gets to have her birthday at Disney and he NEVER does" I felt bad that he sees it that way.

Any ideas on something special to do with him or for him while he is there to make up for this?
I know it's really not a big deal and he should be grateful just to be there, etc... but I'd like to make sure he knows that it isn't planned to be EVERYONE"S birthday trip but his!

He does really well in school... I wonder if I told them, maybe they'd send something to the room with a note about that...or I could send it as Tinkerbell again...
(My wheels are turning.. )
Or maybe a special Tinkerbelle gift left just for him the night that the girls get there surprise...???


Hmmmm.. any other ideas out there?

Thanks!

Amy

 

[seashoreCM]

1. Next January ask DS if he would rather have a "growing up party" in September (when you schedule the family trip) instead of a birthday party in February.

2. Do you already do something really special for DS in February, although not missing any school days then? Is there a Disney Store nearby where you can take him to pick out a special gift?

3. On your next October trip, invest a few hours on DS up front. On the first day head for the park you think will have the biggest crowds and aim for rides with the longest lines telling DS that this is what February looks like at Disney.

4. Although the DD's and DN's may have birthday cakes, do not give each a character meal where she is the center of attention without giving DS one too.

5. Do not have periods of time or gift opening sessions where the girls are doted on and DS has to stand watching. Have a parent split off and do something else with DS instead. (Good time to execute #3 with Dumbo but don't abort the mission ten feet from the boarding area for punctuality's sake.)

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[dsnymomof4]

I think his feeling are justified, especially since you have gone around DDs brithday in the past, and especially since it seems like he will be the only child NOT celebrating a birthday. We are going in April and DD9 will be celebrating her birthday while we are there. I am concerned about the other kids feeling left out. So, we have told them that we plan to go on (or around) each of their birthdays at some point in the future. If that's possible for you, maybe you could let DS know that maybe next year or two you will plan a trip around his birthday so he can be the one celebrating. In the meantime, on this trip, I think it would be wonderful to do something special for him. Talk to him and explain that you understand how he feels and ask him if there is something special he wants to do. Maybe he could plan out a day that he gets to pick where you eat, which park to go to, etc. Or maybe you could celebrate his "un-birthday". Whatever you decide, I think you should definitely acknowledge his feelings and let him know that you want him to have just as good a time as well as the birthday girls.

 

[Disneyland_emily]

Give each kid one day thats "theirs" whether its their birthday or "their special day" giving them each a day to shine-

 

[pookybean]

this happened with us last year. my dd's 6th b-day is may, and we were there on her b-day, she got the pins, special treatment to the nines. my son (who was 11 btw) was annoyed that she "got to go to disney for her b-day" and i dont ever get to do anything on mine. he is a christmas eve baby and its very hard to get a party together around that time. when we were there we said we are not her FOR her b-day it just happened to be her b-day while we are here (truth!) soooo....our plan to stop the bad feelings???

PLAN ANOTHER TRIP LOL we will be there dec 19-30 just in time for DS's
13th b-day. LOL it was the only right thing to do only now "his trip" is going to be longer than "hers" and on top of that all the aunts uncles and grammies are going, so we will be having a grad gathering as well. i suppose i will hear about that from her and then we will have to plan ANOTHER may trip.....oh well life is tuff huh?

megan

 

[tjmw2727]

How about letting him do or pick something special he wants to do, maybe even 1-1 with you or your dh? It could be an afternoon at DisneyQuest, maybe the pirate cruise, renting water racers or even something as simple as a game of mini golf and an ice cream with dad.

As for the birthday, I personaly would keep the celebration to one day with one special meal at least for your daughter. My dd's have each been lucky enough to have a birthday at WDW and we found just the one day and one meal was enough. I think more than that would have been overwhelming for them both.

Enjoy

TJ

 

[Carrie772]

Consider a half-birthday party.

There's a girl at our church whose birthday is Dec 24th. No way to have a party. So, in June, she has a half-birthday party with water slides and cook-out treats. A neat idea!

 

[KimD]

Maybe take one of the days or activities you are doing during your trip and celebrate his "Un-birthday". I've read about others doing this and it seems to work out great and what better place to celebrate an Un-birthday than Disney! It would give him a little extra special attention and maybe not feel so left out. The CM's even make a big deal about an unbirthday too. Could be fun?!

 

[RichNKatHolly]

Consider a half-birthday party.

There's a girl at our church whose birthday is Dec 24th. No way to have a party. So, in June, she has a half-birthday party with water slides and cook-out treats. A neat idea!

The BF and I (bdays 12/7 and 12/20) are doing the June 1/2 bday thing soon. We are having a big party since all our lives we never got one

1/2 birthday is a great idea!!! Each of the children should get a special day during your trip. Call Disney now and make a special something for him on his day too!!