How do I get dh to disney

[jazzielady]

this year??? We've been 4times in the last 5 years.

He is retiring and getting a lump sum check by sept at the latest for more than the most expensive disney trip.

he wants to remodel the kitchen and the bedroom, both of which desperately need done, but there should be more than enough money for a trip.

so how do I convince him????

PS. For those keeping track, we have reconciled, obviously.

 

[minkydog]

Good luck with that. I've been trying to get my DH to agree to a disney trip for almost 2 years now. We got a healthy tax refund and I thought maybe we could go down for 4-5 days. Nope. Got new thermopane windows on the front of the house. Oh well. We needed them. And are *are* beautiful...sigh...

 

[wdwfan16]

this year??? We've been 4times in the last 5 years.

He is retiring and getting a lump sum check by sept at the latest for more than the most expensive disney trip.

he wants to remodel the kitchen and the bedroom, both of which desperately need done, but there should be more than enough money for a trip.

so how do I convince him????

PS. For those keeping track, we have reconciled, obviously.

I would do the remodels and then after they are all done, if there is money left, I would talk to him then about a trip.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I would do the remodels and then after they are all done, if there is money left, I would talk to him then about a trip.

Ditto. Remodeling always costs more than you think.

 

[Cornhusk]

You don't. Remodel the rooms first and then if there is any money perhaps take a trip or put the money away for a rainy day.

 

[Shyvioletisme]

you don't. do the remodel and then if there is any money left for a trip, plan a trip somewhere that everyone wants to go to. If he genuinly doesn't want to go, it doesn't seem right to force him into spending his money on it. I think it would be better to plan a trip somewhere else that he would like to go to as well.

 

[wvjules]

this year??? We've been 4times in the last 5 years.

He is retiring and getting a lump sum check by sept at the latest for more than the most expensive disney trip.

he wants to remodel the kitchen and the bedroom, both of which desperately need done, but there should be more than enough money for a trip.

so how do I convince him????

PS. For those keeping track, we have reconciled, obviously.

Personally, its his retirment money. Let him do with it as he wishes. If he wants to remodel then let him. If he wants to spend a week fishing with the boys let him. If he doesn't want to go then don't make him go. Let him start off retirment enjoying it; not being miserable because he was forced to go somewhere he doesn't want to go.

 

[Acklander]

Personally, its his retirment money. Let him do with it as he wishes. If he wants to remodel then let him. If he wants to spend a week fishing with the boys let him. If he doesn't want to go then don't make him go. Let him start off retirment enjoying it; not being miserable because he was forced to go somewhere he doesn't want to go.

Agree. You've been to Disney 4 times in the last 5 years, so I can understand where it might not be a priority for him. his money, his choice. Maybe you can pay for a Disney trip out of your money?? or offer to raise half of it?? That might get you back to Disney

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Since you brought up the reconcilation, are you sure that you are not starting up something to fight about?

He doesn't want to go and you won't accept that, creating tension in your marriage. I am just saying it is common for partners in reconcilation to go back to old ways and fight.

Just something to think about.

 

[Gigi22]

Just finished a mini kitchen remodel--and the final price came in at about 20% higher than the estimate--due to a couple of 'surprises' in the remodelling process. It is normal for this to happen, particularly with older homes. And, with a kitchen remodel there is always a good chance that you will wind up replacing some major appliances as well. You may not have the money left over for a trip. My advice is to get the fixes for your house done. Think of it as an investment.

 

[diznygirl]

this year??? We've been 4times in the last 5 years.

He is retiring and getting a lump sum check by sept at the latest for more than the most expensive disney trip.

he wants to remodel the kitchen and the bedroom, both of which desperately need done, but there should be more than enough money for a trip.

so how do I convince him????

PS. For those keeping track, we have reconciled, obviously.

His money - his choice.

 

[luvmy3]

I totally disagree with those saying his money his choice, it may be his retirement but it is their money the same way that they would share household income. That being said, I would take the money and do what is needed with your home, if there is something leftover and you can agree on a vacation then take one. I wouldn't put any pressure on him to do anything, especially when you know he doesn't want to.

 

[Missy1961]

Since you brought up the reconcilation, are you sure that you are not starting up something to fight about?

He doesn't want to go and you won't accept that, creating tension in your marriage. I am just saying it is common for partners in reconcilation to go back to old ways and fight.

Just something to think about.

Good points. I remember the divorce thread & one you started in January. Please think about this.

 

[GeorgeG]

My logic is that before tackling any renovatiion project one should spend at least a week at WDW to get mentally prepared. Also, I've been retired for almost five years and there is always time for home projects. If he still doesn't want to go, take me!

 

[cabanafrau]

I have no idea what your marital issues are or were, but I disagree w/ the notion of "his money, his choice" AND trying to twist his arm to vacation somewhere he doesn't want to -- particularly you have been there 4 times in the past 5 years. Neither of those attitudes spell healthy marriage to me.

 

[Planogirl]

It's VERY expensive to remodel a kitchen so if you haven't gotten into pricing yet you might be in for a surprise.

Maybe you can take a budget trip when it's all done?