How can I feel like this?

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Tonight I was surrounded by friends. Yet I was lonely. So lonely and unhappy.

I just want someone to hold me.

 

[DocRafiki]

but you know what is much worse? being with your S.O. and feeling lonely. At least you're not in THAT situation.

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Oh Jenn! I don't know what to say. I think we both need that.

 

[robsmom]

It happens to many many people so you are not alone. Try to remember that you are perfectly "normal" and that you obviously have friends. If you keep feeling this way, it could be medical/chemical - think about going to a doctor or seeking some help. If you can't do this - call one of your friends the next time this happens - trust me they would be sad to know how bad you are feeling and would jump to do anything to help.

 

[browneyes]

Being lonely when you're surrounded by those that love you is the hardest kind of pain.

 

[Pop Daddy]

hey

 

[Dan Murphy]

Hi Karen. Nice to know a friend is most often here to talk to. And soon you will be among many at the World, doing what you are dreaming of. Looking forward to sharing some time next month.

 

[Serena]

Originally posted by mickeysdsnyprncs
Tonight I was surrounded by friends. Yet I was lonely. So lonely and unhappy.

I just want someone to hold me.

I know how you feel.


I would go to the doctor. Just to make sure it's not depression. It's one thing to be lonely, it's another for it to be caused by some chemical in your brain that isn't at the level it should be.

 

[DisneyObsessed]

I agree with the posters above. You may seriously want to share this feeling with your doctor. I went through years of my life thinking that was a normal way to feel. Do you get overwhelmed easily? That was part of it for me. Finally, at 44 years old, my doctor prescribed something. (I have a loooong family history of depression. ) I was so dead set against taking meds, the first day I had an anxiety attack. Once I realized it was ok to take something, I can't believe how I feel. It has COMPLETELY changed my life. We're here for you.

 

[ibouncetoo]

One of the things that helps me when I have that feeling is to make an effort to get more physical contact. I make it a point to hug the people who allow it, touch the person you are talking to, hold the baby. It's a shame that our society has such a problem with casual physical contact and it's something this human organisim needs. For several years, years ago, we had a hug-a-day group at the office...you knew who to go to if you needed one! Boy those days are long gone!

I just spent a three day weekend with a group of people I went to high school with...some I hadn't seen in 36 years! A couple of us who organized the event decided that whoever shows up is getting a hug with their first hello. A couple of people were 'surprised' with the first one but by the end of the weekend people were getting hugged for just walking BACK into the room.
(Yes, we did pay attention to see if anyone was uncomfortable with hugging, fortunately we didn't have to employ the pre-arranged signal for "Do Not Hug".)

So here's a for all of us!

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

I don't always feel like this. I usually if I do it hits be hard. I think I am still getting over past relationships. But then at times I think I am over that and ready to date and that is why I am lonely.

As Dan said, something that is keeping me "up" is the fact that i am going to Disney to participate in the Walt Disney World College Program. This excites me, but it scares me too. (I have posted on that before) Ultimately I am very excited just nervous about being 1,100 miles from anyone I really know.

But part of my issue is that i would like to start dateing again, but I have an overwhelming passion to making sure other people are happy, and I will be leaving and if I or someone else got attached how could I put them or me through the fact that I am leaving for atleast 5 months.

So I leave myself with the decision as to if I should risk hurting someone else.

But last night I just don't understand it. I was surrounded by a whole lot of people, I didn't know all of them bu some of them were my close friends. And they were acting goofy being their "normal" selves (is that even a word???) And I was just sitting there. I could understand if I was exhausted or tired, but i wasn't I was wide awake. Weird. If it doesn't go away, I will go talk to my dr. But for now just talking to my fellow DISers makes me feel better. Thank You all.

BTW looking forward to Chicago Dis meet Dan.

 

[Rajah]

I agree, if this occurs very often (even if it's not all the time), go talk to your doctor.

In the meantime:

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

Maybe this is your way of starting to detach yourself from being with your friends. You know in a few months that you will be leaving these people.

Lori

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

I never thought of it like that Lori, that is an interesting observation. Thanks for that insite.

 

[monkeyboy]

 

[ilovepcot]

Researchers have proven that the HUMAN TOUCH is therapeutic! Studies have shown that preemies who were cuddled and talked to on a regular basis grew and improved at a higher rate than those who only had their very basic needs met. Why should this need totally diminish as we grow older? I don't think it does.

DH and I have 3 couples we're very close friends with. We always have a great time when socializing with all 3, but one couple (the one we've known the shortest time) stands out above the others. It's the one that hugs each time they see us......coming and going. They have a genuine warmth that can't be "faked" and you know they really cherish your friendship. You can't beat that!!! I always know beforehand that a visit with them is going to make me feel good. I believe everyone on this planet needs that whether they'll admit it or not.

 

[Ilove8Trax]

You're not alone. This happens to me at times (sometimes often) also. I was feeling that way before I left for WDWCP and honestly, going to Disney was the best thing i have ever done for myself. I got away from the conflicting thoughts i had while being home and lived my life! If you want to talk pm me.

 

[yourtravelpro]

Originally posted by DocRafiki
but you know what is much worse? being with your S.O. and feeling lonely. At least you're not in THAT situation.

This is SO true!