How can I convince my dh we can start planning a vacation??

[Mermaid02]

Some of you might remember that we cancelled a trip in December 2001 because I couldn't stand the thought of putting my kids on a plane so soon after 9-11. My ds took it very well but my dd is still angry and I really don't blame her- we had a WONDERFUL trip planned- a once in a lifetime kinda trip! This one won't be as grand BUT... I want to start planning for a trip later this fall. I will graduate in June and there are plenty of jobs around here in my field- my dh doesn't want to even TALK about a vacation. We have NEVER had a real vacation and I'm afraid we never will with his attitude. How do you coax a reluctant mate??

 

[helenabear]

Um, I am not sure how you do that. With mine on my last trip I just pleaded and begged until I think he was so tired of hearing about it that he just gave in. I did a lot of research before hand and gave him my budget and he liked it and I ran with it. I want to go again in December (I realize vacation at that time of year for me is very good for me emotionally). I am already looking up hotel rates and just yesterday I said to him "I AM going in December and if you want to come for part of it, that would be wonderful" He just smiled at me and didn't say no. So I guess both pleading and just telling him the way it is going to be worked for me. If anyone has some really effective ways I'd love to know myself.

I think though if you research the trip and costs and explain why you want this trip so much, it might help. Good luck!

 

[Dan Murphy]

Get him involved on the DIS.

 

[allshookup]

1. You only live once and you can't live that life in constant fear and uncertainty.

2. Your children will be grown up before you know it and then it will be too late to enjoy those family vacations together.

3. Isn't that what life is all about? You work hard everyday to makes ends meet and the children work hard to get an education. To me life is all about reaping the benefits and having a great family vacation, whether it be to Disney World or anywhere else for that matter. Relaxing and enjoying time together without the stresses of everyday life is what is most important in our family.

 

[lisajl]

I agree with allshookup and Elaine on this one.

LIfe is short. It seems to be a very scary world out there and we need to have fun!

Like Elaine, I did a lot of research and got a lot of help from everyone here on how to save money.

My husband was very reluctant at first, but he had such a great time. Look for the best deals...tell him you all deserve a vacation.


Good luck!
Lisa

 

[4greatboys]

Since Im not really sure why he wont plan a vacation I'll go the financial route. If you go in the fall you can get some great deals on resorts. Keep checking the resorts board, they post discount codes on there. maybe if he see what a wonderful trip you can have and it not cost lots of $$$ maybe he will get into a little more.
Also I would order the Disney vacation video and play it for him and the kids. If everyone in your house is all excited about the vacation maybe it will rub off on him too.
Good Luck!

 

[Mermaid02]

Oh sorry- primarily financial reasons yes. It looked as though he may get laid off a couple of months ago but things look better now- and with me so close to graduating (and I have already talked to human resources at the hospital I would like to be employed at- chances look excellent).

I agree 100% that our kids won't be young too long- our dd is already 13 (going on 25 ) I want to make some memories that they can look back on and say "Wow that was fun." I doubt we will go again before she is out of the house.

 

[pegasusEH]

If it is primarily financial reasons, could you start saving (and tentatively planning) yourself and then once you are certain you can afford it - how about trying to convince him again.

My partner too is facing an uncertain future at work at the moment. We booked for this June in May of last year. I have the money to pay for the holiday and job or no job we will definitely be going - you only live once!

 

[Verandah Man]

I'm not the one to answer this question, I'm ready to go on a vacation at the drop of a hat and so is my DW!!!

 

[Luckymommyx2]

If you want to really be brave just plan one without him then surprise him for his birthday, your birthday, or ??. I also agree with Dan's idea!