hot saucing (inspired by the SHUT UP thread)

[aimee11621]

My cousin did that to her three year old son . When he went through the biting stage. He would bite friends and family leave them black and blue.

When mother in law (old old school) found out told her to get hot sauce .

Boy, only did it once NEVER again !!!!

Taught him a REAL good lesson about biting.

 

[AmazingGrace]

Wouldn't work on Grace. She LOVES hot sauce. In fact, knowing her, she'd probably act out just to get more hot sauce!!!

 

[grinningghost]

I admit, I did this ONCE, long before I ever heard of "hot saucing" as an actual, recognized punishment.

It was with my niece who at the age of about 4 used to walk up to anyone's glass and start drinking out of it. Mind you, this would be for ANY drink, milk, kool-aid, martini, whatever. I got really tired of it, and it could have been dangerous for her at some point -

I took a DROP of Tabasco and put it in my soda glass. When she came and grabbed my glass, she took one sip and that cured her FOREVER. She never drank out of anyone else's glass again.

 

[janette]

No, I can't imagine doing something like that. There are also people who will take it too far. Baby's death is linked to chili powder

 

[CJMickeyMouse]

Clothespins???? YIKES.

Now the hotsauce I can live with. Or soap. Or spanking. Whatever works for the child.

Too many people these days use NO discipline instead of the proper discipline for their child.

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

Y'know...I opened this thread thinking it was about whether or not a parent should use hot sauce as a thumb-sucking deterrent. I know my parents did this with my sister, but it never worked. They tried EVERYTHING..hot sauce,pepper, sour apple stuff...even a thumb shaped lollipop covered in a rubber thingie that tasted horrible. But it didn't stop her from su cking her thumb and she did so until she was in middle school.


I will never look at Blair the same way again..

TOV

 

[jennyanydots]

I never hot sauced, never washed either dd's mouth out with soap, and only recall spanking the girls once or twice when they were very very young and I' d tried everything else, and even then I really didn't hit hard.

my girls are generally well behaved and know how to conduct themselves in public. a little spoiled, perhaps, but well behaved young ladies.

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I would not do it. Too cruel in my mind.

 

[jeffemy]

I wouldn't do either one, I agree, too cruel.

 

[charlie,nj]

This is a reader review from www.amazon.com get a load of the other "corrections" Blair uses on her kids.

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This book is filled with all sorts of parenting advice, including positive reinforcements, corrections, guidelines for
spanking, how Scripture comes into play, etc.
On the positive side, the book was very well organized, with many tips from people across the country. I liked how she used
Scripture to back things up. She even explained why it is so important to use Scripture when raising your children. The
positive reinforcers were really good and are things I'd like to try myself. She also made a point that her way of parenting
wasn't the only way, and that you have to decide what is best for your family when it comes to child discipline.

As for the 3 rating...I am a Christian parent who believes that we should not let our children get away with murder. But I
have some problems with some of the corrections she mentions. Some were good, but I would not want to use some of what she
suggested. First, I've never liked the hot sauce/vinegar/soap treatment. Second, she mentions spraying water into the face
of a toddler who has a temper tantrum. I'd feel like I was treating my child as a housepet if I did that. Then she
mentioned things like letting a child go without a meal for failing to do a chore. I do believe strongly that you should
never threaten to withhold food from a child, for any reason.

Another example of something I wouldn't try is when the child refuses to hold your hand when going across the parking lot.
She mentions giving the child a choice: either hold the child's hand or hold the child's hair. If I was leading my child
around the parking lot by the hair, I'd be afraid the someone would sick Child Protective Services on me.

And finally, she mentions that if a child has a temper tantrum, make them go to their room and have them cry for 10 minutes.
First, what if the child is physically unable to do that? Second, this one hits too close to home for me. I had a
babysitter who would hold me down by my wrists on my bed and make me scream because I supposedly screamed at her. I ended up
with bruises on my wrists. Now, that WAS abusive.

I think with this book, I'd recommend using the corrections with much caution. Use a discerning attitude towards this book.

Take what helps and leave the rest.

***

 

[lulu71]

I got hot sauced once...didn't work. I mean, come on! We're from New Orleans!! HELLO mother, did ya really think it would work? LOL!

 

[Judy from Boise]

Discipline is all about helping a child develope self-control.......the practices she is describing are punishments pure and simple.
As a mandatory reporter I wouldn't hesitate to report anyone to CPS who used with holding food as a form of so called discipline !

 

[shortbun]

You guys that were punished in this way-what were your
crimes? I'm curious to know when parents thought this
was necessary.

 

[jeffemy]

Well, they say if you keep something long enough, it'll eventually come back in style. I'm waiting to dust off the rack and the Iron maiden I have in my basement

 

[Tess]

Two friends of ours use this method of punishment for sassy behavior. Frankly, I'm not convinced it did any good for at least one of the 5 children disciplined this way. The other 4 are well-mannered kids. BTW, two of the 5 are now 18+ while the balance range from 8th-5th grade--they are none the worse for wear.

BTW, one of the friends is a teacher and former principal in a parochial school. The other is a current principal in a parochial school and a former therapist with child sex offenders! The latter said she didn't care what it took--her kids were going to be over the top disciplined because she saw what a lack of discipline created in others! Me thinks she may go a bit overboard with her kids and holds the reigns a tad too tight.

Edited to add: I should say that we didn't use this discipline because our children are very well-behaved and mannered--even as toddlers. It's a good thing too because our son has been eating Mexican food since he was 9 months old (full set of teeth then) AND loves hot, spicy food. Our daughter has a little bit of sensitivity to something others would consider very hot! Guess it wouldn't have worked for us anyway.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Originally posted by shortbun
You guys that were punished in this way-what were your
crimes? I'm curious to know when parents thought this
was necessary.

I got fed lime juice, maybe twice. Both times were for swearing at my mother.

I was a bad seed....

 

[aimee11621]

Saucing may help with biting children.. This happens quite frequently in preschools and kindergarten.

I hope once would do the trick. But according to some other posts it takes 2-3 times. After that just showing the saucing bottle will do . LOL

Sorry! This is serious. My child is getting in to the biting habit she is three and although I personally have not done it. It maybe a possibility.

I heard of little ones being expelled for biting from school. And good schools are not easy to come by.

 

[stinkerbelle]

aaaahhhh...i foundly remember the days...sitting alone, in the bathroom, on the toilet lid, sucking on a bar of ivory.



I did get slapped once...called my mom a *itch...totally deserved it (I think I was 12 or 13)

I still have a potty mouth...

 

[KristiKelly]

Clothespins That's awful. DS7 loves Texas Pete hot sauce so he might think I was rewarding him for something.

The things that work best for my kids are taking privleges away such as going to a friends house, having friends over, X-box, TV, gameboy, etc. I have popped my kids from time to time, but not very often. All of these seem to work & they are both happy, well-behaved kids. I don't think I could ever put a clothespin on the tongue, that seems like abuse to me.

I remember a few years ago hearing as a form of punishment, the Amish would rock over a childs foot with a rocking chair - OUCH!!!! Also, one (Amish) dad tried to do this to keep his son from stuttering

 

[hipporina]

We don't hot suace, but we have been known to use "special soap" more commonly known as baking soda. Tastes terrible, but won't make a kid sick like soap can. Great for "crimes of the mouth" such as biting, lying, cussing, etc. Just a tiny bit of baking soda on the tongue leaves a good reminder to control that mouth!