Honeymoon fears!! Help!!

[Kate70410]

Hi All!! I'm so glad to find you guys. I've been searching for just this type of forum all over the net so hopefully you guys can help me! My future wife and I are having a Civil Union ceremony in July (yay for it finally being legal now!) and have booked wonderful vacation/honeymoon to Disneyworld. We just figured that because we are gay and because my fiance has a disability, Disney always seemed like the most accessible and accepting place on all fronts. Also it has been years since either of us have been and we thought it would be a great time. We have both been beyond ourselves excited about everything but after reading some of the boards, I'm really nervous now about us being able to be "out" there as we usually are at home and would love to be and be able to celebrate like we want. For instance, I've seen pics of straight couples with wedding ears and such. Would we get into trouble if we bought a set of of the bride ears and wore them? Am I able to hold my wife's hand in public there? Can we say we are celebrating our honeymoon at dinner like newlywed straight couples are encouraged to do? Will we be thrown out for celebrating one of the happiest times of our lives? I know they are big on what is and what is not "family appropriate". I just want to know what I'm getting into before I go. I also want to say before I get any comments that we aren't talking about making out in public or anything like that. Stealing a kiss under the fireworks or something is all I'm saying. Maybe I'm freaking out about nothing, can anyone provide any advice/encouragement/anything on this?

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

First off -- let me offer you CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Hooray for you!!!!

I think several folks here have had wonderful celebratory events (Excepting official commitment ceremonies unfortunately) at the world and were treated with respect, kindness, and that little something special that sets WDW apart. I'm sure folks will pipe up and share their stories -- but in the meanwhile, you might want to peruse some of the history threads here to get a flavor for their experiences.
Public responses to a smooch under the fireworks would be much harder to predict, I think. As an old straight grandma of 6, I can tell you I'd probably tear up a little bit and think Awwwwww, that's sweet!!!! Hopefully, that is what most people would think -- but as you know, probably much better than me, there are some real horse's butts out there. Only you know if that would ruin the moment for you and your SO or not. (Try not to let it let it, though -- it's their problem; not yours.)

AGAIN -- CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!

 

[hmp2z]

Honestly, we've seen many, many gay couples at WDW. Some are holding hands, some are walking together without touching, but it's obvious that they are couples. I don't think of couples of any persuasion (interracial, gay, straight, etc.) as being shocking, and I definitely think that you should both wear the bride's ears for your honeymoon!

As the previous poster said, there are some jerks out there, though, so obviously I can't speak for everyone. Every time I turn on the news, I realize how many truly insane people there are in our world.

Congratulations to you, and best wishes for a wonderful honeymoon! Let me know if you'd like any ideas for a special WDW trip; my husband and I were married & honeymooned at WDW, so I might be able to make some suggestions for you.

Cheers!
Heather W

 

[SandJ]

Congratulations on your upcoming Civil Union!

My partner and I have been to WDW together 5 times, and are returning this March for our Honeymoon. We have always felt comfortable on our trips, and have never had a problem. That's one of the big reasons we decided to honeymoon in Disney.

We aren't big into public displays of affection either, but we have always found that we have been able to show our affection in a way that is comfortable to us. We have held hands, kissed during the fireworks, and snuggled close on the Astro-Orbiter. I think you will find that there are plenty of opportunities to have a romantic moment, and plenty of quiet places to have them.

We have seen many lesbian couples wearing Minnie Bride ears (and even one lesbian couple with bride and groom ears!). We actually have bride ears already and will be packing them for our upcoming trip. We'll be happy to give you a full report when we get back.

 

[Kate70410]

First I want to say thanks to everyone who has replied. Your thoughts and encouragement really helped put my mind at ease. I'm now totally sure that we made the right decision on Disney and are really excited now. I just wanted to take a minute to reply to everyone.

Stacy: Thanks for your restaurant rec. I'm looking into that, that's sounds really fun! The answer to your question was yes! we are

Tuck: Thanks for all your enthusiasm, we really appreciate it. There are jerks out there and one of the things I'm working on this year is not letting them get to me as much. It's one of my things It just stinks that we can't have ceremonies there like others can. Oh well, if they don't want our business in that, that's their loss.

Hmp: Congrats on your wedding and honeymoon there. Thanks for your advice and offer. I would love to hear some of your ideas. I'm trying to surprise my bride to be with some events while we are there so any of your ideas would make my life grand.

SandJ: CONGRATS TO YOU AND YOUR PARTNER!!!! that's so awesome. Only the best to your and your bride, I hope you have a blast! I can't wait to hear about it when you get home if you have a moment. Thanks for the encouragement about the ears. My gf has been so excited about them from the moment she found pics of people in them. The thought that we might not be able to get them had her worried. You made her day! Although it is slightly heteronormative, I'm also considering doing the top hat hat like that couple did only because I'm not the wedding veil type. I'll be wearing a suit in the wedding. The tophat goes with the whole outfit. My gf is totally the veil type though, she's looking forward to the hat because she's not doing the whole veil thing in the wedding

Again, thank you all for all your thoughts...

 

[Viki]

You're good to do and if you want details of how super it can be to celebrate your anniversary at WDW, please hunt up my Trp Report on the TR boards - this was back in August, we stayed at AKL and they treated us like ROYALTY!

 

[hmp2z]

Hmp: Congrats on your wedding and honeymoon there. Thanks for your advice and offer. I would love to hear some of your ideas. I'm trying to surprise my bride to be with some events while we are there so any of your ideas would make my life grand.

Hi! Here are some of the things that we've either done or plan to do on wedding/anniversary trips to WDW:

- Stay concierge level - the pampering is lovely! It's so nice to return "home" to find treats at all hours of the day. Our favorite is the wine & cheese offering at the GF; nothing beats sipping wine & listening to the orchestra play, while watching the castle.

- Get a special room, like the honeymoon room. The GF has nice ones with jacuzzi tubs, balconies, and castle views, or else turret ones that may or may not have soaking tubs & a castle view (3 in 6 chance for these). The WL honeymoon room has a lovely, long jacuzzi tub, totally private balcony, and 2 of these 4 rooms have MK views.

- Do special dinner events, like V&A's (Chef's Table, if you feel like a splurge, or Chef's Table in the main room if you like the romantic atmosphere), California Grill, Flying Fish, Kimonos (great if you like sushi & a much more adult atmosphere), etc.

- Do a MK fireworks cruise, on the Grand One, if you want another splurge. You will be guaranteed a memorable evening. You can have Private Dining arrange for food to be served to you on the yacht, either a full dinner or else snacks like chocolate covered strawberries.

- Do something memorable like the parasailing. We did this on our honeymoon, and it really marked the event for us, to do something cool that we normally wouldn't do.

- Do a horse & carriage ride at Ft Wilderness. We haven't done this, but have heard good things about it.

- Do a spa treatment. Again, we haven't done this one, but the GF spa does have a couple's treatment that sounds dreamy.

Congrats again!
Heather W

 

[mickeysaver]

Congrats! You can rest your minds on this one. WDW is a pretty cool place to be. We occasionally will hold hands, but there is no doubt that we are together, even though we look a bit like Mutt & Jeff. lol

We celebrated our 7th Anniversary at WDW in September. We were congratulated at checkin at CBR. We got a surprise of balloons and a personalized signed card from Minnie & Mickey in honor of our anniversary! I was shocked and extremely pleased!

We have experienced no trouble ever at WDW with being a lesbian couple. I guess we behave ourselves pretty well.

We have done the Afternoon Tea at the GF. We have gone on a carriage ride at FW. We have dressed as silly witches and gone to MNSSHP. We have walked hand in hand through the Osborne Lights. We have taken many late night swims.

WDW is a great place to just let yourself go. It's about the only place in the world that my inner child gets to play all of the time. I encourage you to take note of the special moments that your partner's inner child comes out. One of my favorite memories of our times at WDW is of Gabby running up to and hugging the stuffing out of Pooh. I swear, she was all of 3 years old at that moment, which was a regression of about 25 years. It was so sweet to see that side of her.

Ok, now that I have had my warm and fuzzy almost teary memory moment, I will stop posting. Happy Planning! Maggie

 

[CanadianGuy]

I'm not married yet.. (And at my age my mother is starting to get to the point where she's long ago given up on the 'girl' marriage and she'd settle for ANY marriage.. )

But reading this thread literally brought tears to my eyes.. Congrats to all on the happy occasions and hopes for MANY MANY MANY more...

And absolutely WONDERFUL post Maggie (MickeySaver)...

J