If you were in your best friends wedding (which was costing you around $300 for attire & other financial contributions) and a serious financial emergency arose 1 1/2 months before the wedding and this emergency required you to take a loan from another person you are very close to (think SO, immediate family member etc.) You know that person worked really hard (scrimped and saved) to save up that money for dire emergencies. would you... 1. Drop out of the wedding. Life happens. Tell your bff that something serious came up, you had to take a loan from another close friend and need every cent you have right now to pay it back. 2. Stay in the wedding party but drop out of all related activities (bachelor(ette) parties/showers etc.) and not give a large gift and use that saved money to give your other friend back their money sooner. 3. Pay your loan back over time and expect that person to be okay with your spending at least $300 on unneccesary stuff (being in someone's wedding party = a want, not a necessity) while they wait for you to pay them back. 4. Take option 1 BUT be always bitter towards the person who gave you the loan for wanting their money back so soon and think the person who gave you the loan is selfish for thinking their loan repayment is more important than your BFFs wedding. I'm curious as to what people would do. I would personally choose option 1 & I asked my two best friends, who both said they would do the same. We all also agreed we would never hold it against each other if we couldn't be in each other weddings due to financial reasons. Edit to add, the person who took the loan, and the bff are men. The person who gave the loan is a woman. Not that it matters.