Helpful book on bringing up teenage girl?

[mommykds]

My first DD is now a teenager & we butt heads way to much. Does anyone have a book recommendation for raising a teenage girl? Yes I was a teenage girl at one point (long ago!) but I could use some help here. Any suggestions as well would be appreciated. Thanks!

 

[MUFFYCAT]

Lock her in her bedroom, take away the phones and computer then wait 7 or so years.

Good luck!!!

 

[mommykds]

Lock her in her bedroom, take away the phones and computer then wait 7 or so years.

Good luck!!!

Oh no!!!

 

[tink20]

My first DD is now a teenager & we butt heads way to much. Does anyone have a book recommendation for raising a teenage girl? Yes I was a teenage girl at one point (long ago!) but I could use some help here. Any suggestions as well would be appreciated. Thanks!

What are you butting heads about? My DD is 15 almost 16, and I can't remember what we butted heads about when she was 13. Now, its about her driving skills or lack of....LOL and her boyfriend being at our house 24/7. So it only gets better.....

Go to the book store and just browse, there are lots of books on this kind of stuff. The main thing with my DD, I try to treat her with respect and trust. But trust me, we still have our moments.

 

[SC Minnie]

DH asked just this past Sunday when it gets better. I told him when she gets to about 22.

DD15 is a good kid but the attitude sometimes .

How do I deal with it? I pick my battles. I don't tolerate back talk at all. If she treats us with respect then she will be treated with respect.

 

[everylastbreath]

LMFAO!!

No book needed- Suck it up, accept the fact that she will probably hate you for the next few years, don't try to be her friend, don't bother trying to make her happy because it will only last a few minutes. Know that nothing you do will be good enough, and wonder how you dressed yourself before she came along to tell you how bad you dress.

Teenage girls are the worst, raised one- wouldn't ever do it again.... they are nasty and angry people who are only nice to their friends.

don't bother with a book- cliff notes: You can never make them happy so don't bother trying.

 

[snykymom]

One of my favorite books on dealing with teenagers (also one of my favorite titles ever!) is Get Out of My Life but First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall? by Anthony Wolf, Ph.D. You know that anyone who could come up with this title knows a thing or two about teenagers! Gives you lots of good hints about what's going on in her mind and how you can get around it, and it's also a fun read.

And then for the humor part, go out and buy a book of Zits comic strips!

Good luck - it does get better, I promise!

 

[mommykds]

LMFAO!!

No book needed- Suck it up, accept the fact that she will probably hate you for the next few years, don't try to be her friend, don't bother trying to make her happy because it will only last a few minutes. Know that nothing you do will be good enough, and wonder how you dressed yourself before she came along to tell you how bad you dress.

Teenage girls are the worst, raised one- wouldn't ever do it again.... they are nasty and angry people who are only nice to their friends.

don't bother with a book- cliff notes: You can never make them happy so don't bother trying.

Your post really brought all this home to me. Thanks, I think I needed to hear this. I have been to "accomodating" & always wanting to please. Thanks.

 

[mommykds]

DH asked just this past Sunday when it gets better. I told him when she gets to about 22.

DD15 is a good kid but the attitude sometimes .

How do I deal with it? I pick my battles. I don't tolerate back talk at all. If she treats us with respect then she will be treated with respect.

Very true.

One of my favorite books on dealing with teenagers (also one of my favorite titles ever!) is Get Out of My Life but First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall? by Anthony Wolf, Ph.D. You know that anyone who could come up with this title knows a thing or two about teenagers! Gives you lots of good hints about what's going on in her mind and how you can get around it, and it's also a fun read.

And then for the humor part, go out and buy a book of Zits comic strips!

Good luck - it does get better, I promise!

Thank you, I love the title, I will look for it.

 

[mommykds]

What are you butting heads about? My DD is 15 almost 16, and I can't remember what we butted heads about when she was 13. Now, its about her driving skills or lack of....LOL and her boyfriend being at our house 24/7. So it only gets better.....

Go to the book store and just browse, there are lots of books on this kind of stuff. The main thing with my DD, I try to treat her with respect and trust. But trust me, we still have our moments.

Thanks for your reply.

 

[imabrat]

As a teenage girl, I can tell you there's no book. I'm a little bit more mature than most of my peers so I get on with my mom well, but when we butt heads it's explosive. I'm the "mom" in my group of friends and honestly, some of them - you just have to wonder what goes on inside their head! So, I can definitely understand some of your frustration.

I can tell you that we are never pleased so don't get upset if/when it comes up. I think you should just take it as it comes and do what YOU think is the best parenting move. She may say she'll hate you forever, but she'll only end up hating you for only, eh, 7 years or so. Just kidding! to you, OP.

 

[FSUDisneyGirl]

My mom and I didn't really butt heads when I was a teenager. I actually have been trying to figure it out...I think she had a good balance of letting us in on how hard she worked to support our family, so we respected her, and she demanded respect, but not in a loud shouting way. No attitude was ignored...many kids at this age want to be "cool," and if there friends walk around with attitudes, they use them and don't think twice. If I ever started with an attitude, my mom would sort of question me without jumping on me about it...and I realized that I had an attitude with her for no reason (I didn't even realize it before), and stopped it immediately.

Maybe that will help? I don't know...I would come down hard on the attitude. I taught a 6th grade class today (I teach them once weekly) and they've been developing some attitude/listening problems...but when I called them out on the attitudes and moved one kid to sit by himself, things were better.

 

[lovetoscrap]

Since I am pretty sure it may take a miracle for us all to survive this, I would recommend the Bible!

I love Muffycat's suggestion. But about the only time we aren't fighting is when she is on the phone or computer!

She had her 13 year well visit yesterday and I asked the Dr. if it was possible to get her an attitudectomy. He said no, but he recommends I start drinking.

That book title does sound good-- I may look for it also. I think it also does help to talk to those that have been through it and are going through it with you, just to remind us that it really is mostly all normal and we will make it through the other side, and will probably have a pretty great member of society when we get there.

Until then, pass the wine. . . .

 

[JoiseyMom]

If that doesn't work..try to keep communication open. My dd13 and I talk about everything...I just hope it stays that way!!

 

[mommykds]

She had her 13 year well visit yesterday and I asked the Dr. if it was possible to get her an attitudectomy. He said no, but he recommends I start drinking.
Until then, pass the wine. . . .

 

[The Mystery Machine]

How about Stephen King's "The Stand"?

I feel for you. My dd's are 13 and 18.

 

[2Kds2K9]

I still remember the day I turned 13. (Many, many moons ago) My mom sat me down and had a talk. She said that I was now a teenager and that life was going to get harder and more complicated. She said that the teenage years are the worst in that you are expected to act like an adult, yet aren't always treated like an adult. That you don't know who to believe or follow. Who really has more knowlege? Your parents or your friends. That your body is changing and you have all these weird feelings that you don't know what they are and what to do with them. She said that there would be days that I would hate her, and she would probabably feel the same about me. BUT, that no matter what, she would always love me and be there for me and that she would be on the other end waiting for me when we could be real friends again.

She was right!

My mom isn't around anymore, but I'm sure that she's up in heaven laughing her butt off as I'm now the mother of two teenagers. Ah, a mother's revenge - Grandchildren!

 

[mommykds]

I still remember the day I turned 13. (Many, many moons ago) My mom sat me down and had a talk. She said that I was now a teenager and that life was going to get harder and more complicated. She said that the teenage years are the worst in that you are expected to act like an adult, yet aren't always treated like an adult. That you don't know who to believe or follow. Who really has more knowlege? Your parents or your friends. That your body is changing and you have all these weird feelings that you don't know what they are and what to do with them. She said that there would be days that I would hate her, and she would probabably feel the same about me. BUT, that no matter what, she would always love me and be there for me and that she would be on the other end waiting for me when we could be real friends again.

She was right!

My mom isn't around anymore, but I'm sure that she's up in heaven laughing her butt off as I'm now the mother of two teenagers. Ah, a mother's revenge - Grandchildren!

Wow, your mom sounds like a special person who had alot of insight. Thanks for sharing that with us.

 

[JoBird]

Oh boy- do I have the book for you guys.
It's called "Have a New Kid By Friday".

Here's the website-

http://www.haveanewkidbyfriday.com/default.aspx

You can get it on Amazon-- look at the reviews.
http://www.amazon.com/Have-New-Kid-Friday-Character/dp/0800719026/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top

It is unbelievable.

My Mom sent it to me (I have three kids- 14, 10 and 7-) and I started reading and couldn't stop. ANd then I had an opportunity (or two!) to use the principles in the book------- OMG---- it was absolutely crazy how dead on this man is with his strategy, what he says will happen when you use it and what the outcome will be if you stick to it.

I really and truly have learned so very much from it-- I've told lots of people about it b/c it really does work.

It is an easy read, too- not one of those books you start and then drudge thru it.

HTH--- it sure has helped us!

Jo

 

[Golf4food]

I would recommend the book of Job from the Bible - all about suffering! Ha.