Help -sadness over kitty = eating

[kestral]

Yesterday my DH and I had to put our darling kitty to sleep. It was very unexpected - he was only 9, and up until 3 days before seemed perfectly healthy. We thought we were bringing him to the vet for fluids, since he was not eating or drinking. But it was advanced liver disease.

We feel cheated - we got Romeo as an adult from the pound. Six years seems too quick.

Now I feel like everything in the house that is digestible is fair game -Its not that I have a lot of "bad" stuff in the house - its the quantity!
Not to mention feeling like running out to every fast food place in town.

I'm grateful for this forum - it even helps to post this. Thanks for reading.

 

[DoeWDW]

Oh, Kestral, here's an extra large for you!! How terrible to lose such a precious part of your life so soon! Isn't it amazing how much love and how many smiles our furbabies give us?? I bet Romeo gave you many happy memories and had a good life with you. Try to focus on the good stuff, although it's hard right now. He didn't have to suffer and that's a blessing, but I'm sure it was quite a shock for you.

I also eat when I'm terribly sad or feeling uncomfortable / anxious. It is so hard to fight it!! I try to realize that I'm not eating because I'm hungry or need nourishment but out of hurt emotions. But the eating doesn't make those emotional hurts any better. It just means that I have to deal with the emotions AND with feeling guilty for eating all the wrong stuff.

You might take a small detour off plan for a few days, while you work through your emotions. Try to get some healthy snacks to munch. When you're ready, you'll be able to get back on plan. Don't be too hard on yourself right now, OK??

Here's another . Take care of you! I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[honeymo78]

Hugs I'm so sorry for your loss. Give yourself some time for you and don't beat yourself up if you go off plan. When you are ready you'll be able to get back on track.

 

[perfectmatch300]

Kestral, I'm so very sorry to hear about your loss. I just lost my little furbaby Max a couple of months ago under very similar circumstances. In our case it was her kidneys that went. I still miss her, but the 2 I have now help keep me smiling.
Like you, I wanted to eat everything is sight. What I did was to allow myself a few very carefully selected comfort foods to get me through the first 2 days, then I got right back to my plan. I did make an effort to up my exercise as a stress reducer, & that worked pretty well for me, too. I knew if I dodn't get right back on track I'd be even more depressed than I already was, & getting up & active really did help. I also found that talking about it helped me a lot so if you need to talk please PM me. In the meantime I'm sending some & some kitty pixie dust your way.

 

[disnygoof]

Oh kestral, I'm so sorry about your baby We have 3 and I can't even imagine what I'll be like when they go to God some day. Here's a few big hugs from me to you

I definitely eat emotionally, so I understand when this happens, it's like "who cares?" I completely understand. And it's not bad, it's part of being human. But you can do things in substitute for food. When you're feeling upset, call a friend or family member and chat. Get on here and post or just read. Go outside for a walk (bundle up if it's cold!) Do something for YOU that will make you feel a little bit better but not something harmful. Your baby kitty wouldn't want you do get off track - he wants you to be healthy and live a long and healthy life.

Again, I'm so sorry about your loss. You gave him so much love during his life -- I'm sure it was a fufilling life for him.

 

[tiggerlover]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I understand exactly how you are feeling as I lost my beloved Max, who was one month shy of his 17th birthday on September 4th. After having him for 16 years he was so much a part of our family and the grieving was intense. After binging on everything I could find I realized this was not what I should be doing and instead I channeled my grief into exercising instead of food. I know you are hurting and missing your companion, but you also have to think about yourself and stop hurting yourself by eating.

When I posted on the CB about Max I got a lot of support and the following was posted by Dan Murphy and I would like to share it with you.

RAINBOW BRIDGE

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.

There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.

There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.

The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never
absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...


If you are interested in looking at the link there were also some suggestions for pet loss web sites. R.I.P. Max can be found here: http://disboards.com/showthread.php?threadid=433269&perpage=15&highlight=max&pagenumber=1

{{{HUGS}}}

 

[Claire4dpins]

Thinking of you in the loss of your kitty - I know how you feel after a sudden unexpected loss. About 11 months ago now we lost our cat Jasmine - she was only three - she was killed on the road. We still have her brother Jasper - who seemed to miss her even more than we did. We still think of her each day - but the happy memories really help to lessen the pain. As well as Jasper we have recently got two kittens Figment & Mischief. I hope that in a few months you will be able to consider getting another cat - because it really does help.
Many hugs to you,
Claire

 

[lulu201]

to you, Kestral. You're in a difficult place right now after losing a precious part of your family. Be gentle with yourself. You'll get yourself back on track soon, don't worry.

With my sympathy,
Erin

 

[mowsie dreamer]

I'm so sorry to hear about your kitty. Your Romeo had six wonderful loving years with you, years he may not have had without you. I'm sure he felt very loved.

Sending you some PD for strength while you are going through this tough time.

 

[JessicaR]

I'm so sorry to here about your kitty Try and think of the positives. You gave him a wonderful loving home and rescued him from the pound. He had to be a happy boy! Don't be so hard on yourslef with the eating. I think many (me included) are emotional eaters. We're just looking for comfort and think food is the answer even if we know it isnt. Before you know it you will be back on track.

 

[nativetxn]

I'm just now finding this. I'm so sorry to hear about your kitty. It hurts so much when our beloved pets die

{{{HUGS}}}