Relax? Disney? lol.......
In all seriousness it will all depend on a number of key variables...
- budget
- time
- goals
We haven't always been AP holders but decided over the past 2 years to utilize our Residency and go more often. One of the ways that this impacted us, which was kind of expected to a degree, was the notion that we were not 'burning' a day / access into a park if we just fancied popping in for an hour or so and then go somewhere else. We found ourselves going in and out of the parks when we wanted and then going on some impromptu trips to different parks depending on how we felt etc... The luxury of being there at the Poly and WL onsite for 2 weeks as well as having AP's made this last trip the best we have ever had. More time to do things, more time to do things over and over and the freedom to just chill out and do what we wanted. We rented a cabana at the Poly Pool and had family come and visit for the afternoon, it was great. Using the hotels facilities was fun, we then popped into the park for an hour or two if we wanted to just go on one or 2 rides.
We found that front loading the trip with plans, FP's and dining experiences allowed us to take a subconscious breath and relax a little once we had achieved a lot of our intended goals (again, going back to the goal variable). We then made decisions around a framework we had planned using the crowd calendar and cross referenced with weather forecasts etc..
Obviously, if you are going for a lot shorter than 2 weeks it may be more difficult, but there are ways to break up the 'go go go' feeling of the parks. I think the biggest thing is a mindset change, changing from a 'what am I missing out on' to a 'what i am doing now is great' mindset also really helps with my family. Having them focus on the 'now' as opposed to 'what could be' created a huge mental sigh of relief. We had lots of fun as a family this last time, more so than ever. Towards the end we were at the point for the first time ever that we were a little 'Disney'd out'! And I never thought I would ever hear my kids say that!
My wife is a Disney Commando to the max, and while I may gripe and moan about being always on a schedule, i think at the beginning this worked great for us. We knocked out all the big attractions multiple times that took a little psychological pressure off for the remainder of the trip and we were able relax a little more. So perhaps doing that would work for you? We also enjoyed our dining experiences like the Sci-fi diner that helped create some element of calm, afternoon naps / breaks were very welcome too. However, only you know your family and what will or will not work.
Hope you have a great time!