Help!! I need your advice !!

[EdiePA]

There's a guy from my past that I've been talking to on the phone. He said that he'd be in my town on Saturday and that he'd "stop by". Well, he stopped earlier than planned, didn't call, and I was just getting out of the shower. So, he got to see me with wet hair and no make-up. He couldn't stay because he had to get back to a golf tournament.

Now, maybe I misunderstood, but I thought stopping by would be a little more than a fly-by. I had food planned and rented a couple videos, etc.

Well, I haven't heard anything since. He was really embarassed that he just showed up without calling. I tried calling him last night, but only got his answering machine. Ugh!

So, should I try e-mailing him and asking "What's up?" (I really thought we had made a connection) or should I just chalk it up to another bad experience and another blow to my trust?

Edie

 

[FroggyinArk]

give him today,,, then call again, i'm betting he is like the golfers here,, and maybe went out and did some stuff after th tourney,, he may not have even made it home yet. If he was interested enough to come by at all, maybe his schedual had changed and it was neccessary to come early and run,, hope it works out

 

[powellrj]

you made the next move, so I would say the ball is in his court. I wouldn't take it as a blow to your trust, I would just assume something came up and he has not been able to get back to you. Was he there with other people like his boss or co workers? While he should have called before he dropped by, it may have been the only break he has had.

 

[Serena]

I'd give him a chance.


And I've heard guys like to make a surprise visit, to see how you'll react.

 

[Cindy B]

Hey some guys Love the natural look... and hey you were just out of the shower..

I know tons of men that like that!

 

[Saffron]

Did you leave a message on his machine? If so, I would leave it at that and let him make the next call or move. If not, try e-mailing him or calling him again.

 

[TigerBear]

Don't chalk it up to a bad experience - chalk it up to a learning experience!! That is what dating is all about - learning what characteristics are important for you. If you had agreed on a time, I think what he did was rude. Do you want a man who treats you like that? Now on the other hand, if he contacts you and is apologetic that might be a different story. I definitely would not contact him though.

 

[DoeWDW]

I say the next move is up to him. If he contacts you and apologizes, consider it a learning experience. If he doesn't contact you, then I guess it's over.

Best wishes for an outcome that makes you happy.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by Serena
I'd give him a chance.


And I've heard guys like to make a surprise visit, to see how you'll react.

Ha! I had one of those this week, only I wasn't home! LOLOLOL! He was about 10 minutes too early. Now, if I hadn't stopped at Starbucks on the way home from taking DS to school, I probably would have been there. Ha! I get a kick out of it.

I would probably let it slide for today. But send a note tomorrow if you haven't heard from him. I was supposed to have lunch with someone last week. When he didn't show, I knew a meeting must have run over. Did he bother to even say...sorry, I was stuck in a meeting and couldn't make it. NO! A couple days later I e-mailed him. He says we're still on for lunch...never did get an explanation. So now we're still trying to reschedule. Good luck!

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Well, I agree with the others that it is possible something came up and he is not around.

However, I think if it is found out that he is not calling you back or responding because he "wasn't impressed" with the natural you, you should forget him and find yourself a good guy who deserves you.

Any man who'd judge you because you had wet hair and no makeup is not someone you want to be with.

(spoken from a lady who has not worn make up in 15 years!)

Sheri

 

[monkeyboy]

Originally posted by EdiePA
He couldn't stay because he had to get back to a golf tournament.

Well if he actually left a golf outing to see you that says something about you.

Maybe next time a shorter towel

 

[jkovick]

If you left him a message on his machine, then the best thing to do is wait and see if he calls you. If he doesn't then I would just try to forget about him. If you e-mail or call again it may look like you are trying too hard. If he is interested he will get back with you. If not then he wasn't the right one anyway!

 

[browneyes]

I'd email him. He might've thought you had a date planned since you were getting out of the shower and didn't know how to tactfully ask.

 

[Disney Doll]

If you left a message on his machine, then I'd let him make the next move.

If he calls, great. If not, oh well.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Originally posted by EdiePA
He couldn't stay because he had to get back to a golf tournament.

What did he do? Lose his ball in your backyard?

 

[Microcell]

Be sure to update, I want to know how this ended up. I would probably talk to him and see what is up. Though, how close do you live to him?

 

[TigerBear]

I'm wondering too if you have heard from him...

(((Hugs))) to you Edie. I know that getting back into the dating scene after a divorce is not easy. Your prince will come!