Help! How much is enough???

[carebee21]

Give what you are comfortable giving and can afford. There is no right or wrong amount and your son and daughter in law should be greatful and appreciative of what they're given.

With that being said, my parents paid for just about all of our wedding and reception. The only thing I remember us paying for was my hair, dh's tux rental, wedding license, our rings and our honeymoon. My parents sent champagne and chocolate strawberries to our room and my mom made a scrap book wedding album for us as our "gift".

My husbands parents didn't pay for anything for the wedding and gave us a check for $250.

 

[a1tinkfans]

By the way, even though they said they have been planning this for several months, we just found out six weeks before the ceremony.

My son is definitely not having a traditional wedding. His girlfriend is wearing a dress, no best man, no maid of honor, no ushers or bridesmaids. It will be, just the two of them getting married by a celebrant. Unfortunately it will be a non religious ceremony. We are to arrive just a few hours before that ceremony from out of state. They are not even getting married in the state they live in but at a place they both find sentimental to their relationship. They are having a dinner after the ceremony. I think everything is going to cost maybe five thousand dollars. I

I don’t know for sure but, I don’t think her parents are paying for anything.

Thanks for all the help and I would appreciate any more advice anyone has to offer.

If this scenario were by my neck of the woods, it'd be way more $$$.
BUT....
I think based on what you have written about the wedding celebration (intimate) and the relationship (not even knowing about it) , 1K is a very thoughtful gift to your son and future daughter in law. I think they will likely be thrilled to get such a generous gift.
May they have a Loving, Lasting lifetime together! Congrats to you all!

 

[Mom2Ben02]

My husband and I do very well and we already owned a home when we got married, it is my goal to be able to purchase our child/children's first house when they get married.

I see you are in Naperville...I live in Plainfield. I have a very cute five year old daughter and an adorable 7 year old son. How old are your kids, and can we fix them up?

 

[Mom2Ben02]

Hi,
My son is having a very small wedding. Nothing fancy about 40 people. He is marrying a girl he is living with for about a year. We live in Northeast PA.
He lives out of state.

What amount of money do you think would be a nice wedding gift? We are a middle middle class income family. I have not met her family, so I don't know what they are giving. Is $1000. enough?

Thanks for any help you can give.

I think $1000 is very generous. I honestly don't remember what our parents gave us for a gift - somewhere in that realm. It was 9 1/2 years and 2 kids ago

My most memorable gift was from my sisters - a gift certificate for a night at our favorite local resort town, for our first anniversary. Since you know the area is special to the, what about something like that, and part in cash?

 

[englishteacha]

My parents gave us a swing for our yard. It wasn't expensive, but we like it! Mom and I had fun watching my dad and my hubby assemble it. It was their first project together as in-laws.