HELP..DS just ordered something on Ebay!!

[jessica52877]

Even if the guy puts in a NPB notice he doesn't get his listing fees back and the gallery and buy it now are NEVER refunded period. He could get his final value and that is all. Now if it was out of a store then it was just pennies, but I HATE it when someone does this to me. I list things in specific orders so they are in my store that way and then it gets all messed up and there is no way to get it exactly where it was.

It is more then "just" time he lost. I sell a ton of stuff on ebay, am a stay at home mother and don't have time to mess with having to relist, go to ebay to do non paying bidders, on top of it, he has to wait the 7 days. I think it takes alot of clicks to buy something and when someone tells me a story like that 9 times out of 10 I don't believe them (just because I get it all the time). Sure your story is true and it is unfortunate. I am with pay for it and sell it yourself.

 

[tarmand]

All I can say is wow. I am just so hurt over this. I had a question, and the first people I thought of to ask was the dis. After all, what a nice helpful bunch right? What a fool I was.

I would have never thought after several years here, that I would ever be one of those posters that gets their feelings hurt, and runs away from the boards, never to be seen again. Now I'm not so sure. I know there are a lot of good and kind hearted people around here. I heard from several of them, and I can't tell you how much I appreciate it. I'm just so tired of all the nasty.

I can take it when it's directed at me, but the comments against my DS are just too much. I'm sorry you all can't know what a sweet smart little boy he is. Yes, I know I'm biased, I am his mother after all, but I do know he is not a liar, and he his certainly not stupid or "behind". I guess that's my fault for not pushing him to read by a certain age. Chalk another one up to the bad mommy in me I suppose. I am very happy with the choices we have made in the school dept., and I'm not about to start defending them here.

Thanks again to those that cared to help me with my problem. I won't make the mistake of ever posting one here again.

Merry Christmas!

So sorry that you were hurt. Remember that the DIS is full of good people, but it is equally full of judgemental, self-righteous people. Don't let them get to you. People will say many things from behind a keyboard that they would never have the guts (or lack of tact for that matter) to say in real life. Just let it roll off your back and move on.

 

[DMRick]

Now if it was out of a store then it was just pennies, but I HATE it when someone does this to me. I list things in specific orders so they are in my store that way and then it gets all messed up and there is no way to get it exactly where it was.

It was from a store, and it has been listed since last May. I assume he prob had several and just had it keep being relisted. He uses Vendio, so the time would be negligible. I believe the OP settled on a price she thought was fair, and he gets to resell. I understand the seller's frustration (been there), but not everyone has that kind of money to put out because of a mistake, and I think paying the fees and a small amount for his trouble is really all anyone can expect for an accident. Selling it herself would be very difficult, since this was her very first foray onto eBay. No feedback and no knowledge of how to sell.
And actually people do get listing fees back sometimes for auctions. If it didn't sell the first time, but did the second, then the second listing fees are credited. In this case, the listing fees were .02, so for him, I assume his time is more the issue.

 

[The Disney Bunch]

As Ebay points out each time there is a transaction - when you bid it is a contract- so whether you bid or your son accidently bid, you entered into a contract. I think you owe it to the buyer - maybe this would be a good lesson to teach your son- you have to honor your obligations even if you regret it afterwards.

This should not be turned into an attack on the OP for how she is raising her son. Each child is different and we all should realize that things are different on the other side of the fence- leave her alone!

 

[etwinchester]

Technically, if her son bid, the contract is not binding/legal unless he is 18 or over. I saw an episode of Judge Judy where an eBay seller actually took a buyer to court over an item on ebay (high bid $). Since the Judge decided that the son did do it by accident (she questioned him and all), the buyer/defendant was not held liable.

I know seller's hear this excuse a lot and I'm not defending anyone, just stating what I saw in an episode. I'm sure no one would take someone to court over a small eBay item, but then again, there was a dispute over a $5 ladder that I saw before (totally insane).

 

[mickeyfan2]

Yes, but how many "other" comments did I get?

Everything from my DS should be punished, to the subtle suggestions that this may not be a totally true story, and then even picking apart whether or not my DS can read!

Maybe I'm being overly sensitive, but feel like I got much more than just opinions on what to do.

I am a little confused. I have read every post up to this one and do not remember somebody saying punish your son. Make him pay for the item was stated. Is that the punishment you mean?

I do believe your post to be true. I have never sold on EBAY, but I could see how the buyer could not believe you. The time of the year probably adds to the doubt.

IMHO you should pay for the item. You could then resell it on EBAY, give it to your son or give it to a charity.

 

[hsmamato2]

As Ebay points out each time there is a transaction - when you bid it is a contract- so whether you bid or your son accidently bid, you entered into a contract. I think you owe it to the buyer - maybe this would be a good lesson to teach your son- you have to honor your obligations even if you regret it afterwards.

This should not be turned into an attack on the OP for how she is raising her son. Each child is different and we all should realize that things are different on the other side of the fence- leave her alone!

Ditto! how did this turn into an attack? She never bought ebay before, the question was answered- the proper ebay thing to do is pay for a mistake- and yes, all kids learn at their own rates. To suggest anything different is insulting.
That's like saying all grownups know good manners by a certain age.

 

[emh1129]

Brier Rose
Primarily, your son is nobody else's business; like a pp said, people say things online that they would never say in real life. I have also worked in an elementary school as a substitute teacher; there is such a wide spectrum of abilities, especially at that age. Your son will learn everything he needs to know~ when he's good and ready

Maybe I'm in the minority, but I think you are being very fair to offer the $15 check. I sell on e-bay a lot and, as a seller, I would be ok with that.
I think offering the $15 is being honest and fair.. I have had buyers just ignore the invoices and never make contact. At least you're reimbursing all of his fees plus some.

And if his sleeping bag was listed since May.. chances are pretty darn good that it wouldn't have sold in this time frame anyway I'm sure that he realizes that.

 

[shades]

Technically, if her son bid, the contract is not binding/legal unless he is 18 or over. I saw an episode of Judge Judy where an eBay seller actually took a buyer to court over an item on ebay (high bid $). Since the Judge decided that the son did do it by accident (she questioned him and all), the buyer/defendant was not held liable.

I know seller's hear this excuse a lot and I'm not defending anyone, just stating what I saw in an episode. I'm sure no one would take someone to court over a small eBay item, but then again, there was a dispute over a $5 ladder that I saw before (totally insane).

Thanks for posting! Judge Judy has ruled! The circumstances are similar and the law is on OP's side.

And...good grief...all kid's learn when they learn!

Now....has anybody found any new freebies today, or what??

 

[Cheshire Figment]

Thanks for posting! Judge Judy has ruled! The circumstances are similar and the law is on OP's side.

No, the law is not on the OP's side.

I was, among other things, The Security Officer for the Central Accounting System of the Federal Courts for about 15 years. Normally a person is held responsible for any actions taken with their User ID and Password. If another person enters the system with their User ID and password, it is either with the expectation that the owner will take full responsibility, or that the person hacked or stole the password and will be subject to criminal action.

We assume the OP does not want to take criminal action against her child so she should be willing to accept full responsibility for the child's actions.

 

[DMRick]

I'm not quite sure what a security officer for the CAS, etc, is, (is that a criminal lawyer?)however, this very thing is discussed often on various ebay boards, and I have yet to see a post from someone who was able to make this "contract" stick. She has offered to refund his expenses, plus some. I'm betting it won't go any further than that. I've also never seen a post on criminal action against a child for "bidding" on eBay. I hope she doesn't feel threatened by the thought. Gosh, I wish I could find someone willing to enforce this "contract" on one of my non payers.

No, the law is not on the OP's side.

I was, among other things, The Security Officer for the Central Accounting System of the Federal Courts for about 15 years. Normally a person is held responsible for any actions taken with their User ID and Password. If another person enters the system with their User ID and password, it is either with the expectation that the owner will take full responsibility, or that the person hacked or stole the password and will be subject to criminal action.

We assume the OP does not want to take criminal action against her child so she should be willing to accept full responsibility for the child's actions.