My dh is driving me crazy and at my last straw. Well, actually the straws been burning and smoking til the last.
What to do with a dh who stays at home all day and doesn't work. He is supposed to taked care of the girls (9,7 and 2) the older two at school all day. He doesn't do much during the day but play games on the computer. He takes care of baby, feeds her when she asks, etc but not much else. He plops her in front of the tv for most of the day. I come home to messy house, messy children (2yo running around with no clothes), etc. I come home, try to straighten a little, cook dinner, gives baths, etc. I ask him to help, sometimes he does after I yell and complain. He says "I don't no what to do!!" I don't understand this. How can he not understand?? He's been doing this for a year now and I do things around the house and work full-time myself. I even let him know what I want and he still fiddles. He hates getting off the computer. I asked him to get off a couple days ago to help me get dinner ready and he gets up and goes to the bedroom to read? Is that help?? I get upset and then he gets his baby attiude (poor little boy who does nothing right) and said I didn't tell him what to do. (he will be 29 in a few weeks)
I just don't know what to do. I tried being sweet, tried being mean.. tried about anything. I'm just getting tired. Any ideas from you smart people? And this from a person with a degree in psychology. My mother always tells me how can I who has a psychology background can not handle my own life :rollseyes:
He got out of the service last year. I can understand him being down and have encouraged him to start college or to do whatever he wants. And he can be nice and all (most think he's an okay guy unless they have worked with him) but the laziness and grumpyness (he can get really mean to the girls at time and tries to with me but I go off now when he does) is getting to me. He's always been like this to a point but with him not working I am getting tired enough to be down and tears ( a bottle of wine a night helps after getting things done but that just covers up for a bit)
I understand he may be a bit depressed but I try and try.. I always do my best to make people happy and I do love him:sigh:
Also I have tried to tell him nicely.. pleaded .. begged .. just did everything.. even assisted in helping plan things for him.. backed off.. yelled and cussed .. everything I can think of
Aren't I a sight
Not usually the kind to get down if I can help.
What to do with a dh who stays at home all day and doesn't work. He is supposed to taked care of the girls (9,7 and 2) the older two at school all day. He doesn't do much during the day but play games on the computer. He takes care of baby, feeds her when she asks, etc but not much else. He plops her in front of the tv for most of the day. I come home to messy house, messy children (2yo running around with no clothes), etc. I come home, try to straighten a little, cook dinner, gives baths, etc. I ask him to help, sometimes he does after I yell and complain. He says "I don't no what to do!!" I don't understand this. How can he not understand?? He's been doing this for a year now and I do things around the house and work full-time myself. I even let him know what I want and he still fiddles. He hates getting off the computer. I asked him to get off a couple days ago to help me get dinner ready and he gets up and goes to the bedroom to read? Is that help?? I get upset and then he gets his baby attiude (poor little boy who does nothing right) and said I didn't tell him what to do. (he will be 29 in a few weeks)
I just don't know what to do. I tried being sweet, tried being mean.. tried about anything. I'm just getting tired. Any ideas from you smart people? And this from a person with a degree in psychology. My mother always tells me how can I who has a psychology background can not handle my own life :rollseyes:
He got out of the service last year. I can understand him being down and have encouraged him to start college or to do whatever he wants. And he can be nice and all (most think he's an okay guy unless they have worked with him) but the laziness and grumpyness (he can get really mean to the girls at time and tries to with me but I go off now when he does) is getting to me. He's always been like this to a point but with him not working I am getting tired enough to be down and tears ( a bottle of wine a night helps after getting things done but that just covers up for a bit)
I understand he may be a bit depressed but I try and try.. I always do my best to make people happy and I do love him:sigh:Also I have tried to tell him nicely.. pleaded .. begged .. just did everything.. even assisted in helping plan things for him.. backed off.. yelled and cussed .. everything I can think of
Aren't I a sight
Not usually the kind to get down if I can help.
He' upset now since he broke my computer and his is too slow to play the game well 
