Help! Advice needed ASAP....

[CF'er]

my son and daughter are participating in a good friend's daughter's wedding this weekend. I have been out of work due to illness and money is extremely tight. Needless to say I haven't purchased a wedding gift yet. (This is what I get for putting it off. I know.....) Anyway..... the kids' outfits are purchased (thank goodness) so that's not a problem.

My question is this..... how tacky is it to go to the wedding and send the gift after? I can't really pull the kids out now. I can't really just drop them off. I know if I said anything to my friend (mom of bride) she would tell me not to worry about it. I refuse to say anything as I am the last thing on her mind right now. I just feel so guilty knowing even though I am the only one. When I mean send it later I'm talking a week or so.

Any advice or thoughts?

Thanks.

 

[beavismom]

I wouldn't worry about it. There will be so much choas with the wedding that your lack of gift probably won't even be noticed. If it is, you can just pass it off as wanting to send it later so they won't have to deal with it before the honeymoon, or you could fib and say you forgot it at home.

 

[SC Minnie]

I wouldn't worry about it either. Like beavismom said I doubt anyone will even notice. Just send it when you can. If you felt like it you could tell you friend after the fact.

 

[anewvance]

I wouldn't worry about it either. They will probably be receiving a number of gifts and really won't notice right away whether or not you have given one. They won't have any idea at the wedding that you haven't given a gift! So go to the wedding, don't worry about it and give a gift when you can. They might even appreciate it more a little later since they will be overwhelmed by the amount of them right after the wedding.

 

[kimmikayb]

It's perfectly alright to send it later! Don't let that stress you out. My DH and I just got married in October and we were still receiving gifts up to Christmas!

And you know, if you are crafty at all....you could try to take some candid pictures at the wedding and make it into a shawdow box with scrapbook stuff or blow one up and frame it (Wal Mart actually has some really cool frames).

I hope you enjoy the wedding and don't worry one bit about not bringing a gift. I hope you feel better soon!

 

[Southern4sure]

I agree, go and enjoy the wedding. Newlyweds receive gifts after the wedding all the time.

 

[tinatark]

You can send it after.

My new favorite gift to give - the couple's invitation, framed and matted nicely by a professional frame shop - you could even use the program, or a double mat the invitation along with a professional photo of the 2 of them on the wedding day - which would explain why you didn't have it on the wedding day!

 

[miss missy]

Proper etiquette for a wedding gift is 1 year so I was told.. I actually used that one too... with my BIL!!! And when I gave them the gift, they LOVED it!! I wanted to get them something I couldn't afford for that week... so I waiting till I could, which was like 7 months later... they had no problem with it at all!!!

BUT...... From Emily Post

How soon should I send a gift?
Preferably, send the gift to the bride before the wedding or to the couple soon thereafter. In some regions gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table. Contrary to a current rumor that you have a year to send a gift, it really should be sent right away or within three months of the wedding.

oh well!

 

[Serena]

I agree, this is not something you need to stress over.

 

[ZipaDeeDooDah]

I agree with Miss Missy - I've also heard that etiquette-wise you can give a wedding gift up to 1 year after the wedding

 

[CF'er]

I feel so much better now. I figured it would be ok and I know that everyone won't be looking at me thinking "She hasn't sent a gift yet!!! What are they doing here?" LOL although I will be.

Hey isn't the use of my kids enough?

Great late gift ideas. They are both really crafty and I am not so I think I will stick to the store bought gift.

We will go and have a great time mostly guilt free.

 

[Tracey1974]

There is always time for gift giving after the wedding- have a good time!

 

[SDFgirl]

I got married in December and I just got a wedding gift last night! So please don't worry about it.

I know that I never would have noticed who had/had not brought gifts. There's just too much else going on!