He LEFT Without Her.....

[Mysteria]

It seems funny how all the ladies make this comment "he knows better than to do that to me." Big talk when the man's not around!

Why don't you have a hemi? Wife won't let you have one?

Myst

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I've done this before and it never seems to phase 'em. One told me "I'll always be late. It's just the way I am and you need to accept it." OK, so I told her that I'll always be a perv, she has to accept that and we should go to the girlie bar together. Backfired on me. She did and hadda great time......

Bwahhhaaaaa. Sounds like a fun girl!

 

[mtblujeans]

It seems funny how all the ladies make this comment "he knows better than to do that to me." Big talk when the man's not around!

Are you sure you're not Pop Daddy in disguse!!

Everybody Loves Raymond is/was my very favorite show. I have seen every episode, oh, at least 5 times. Many episodes seem to be about my family but this one in particular IS my family. Especially the part with Robert and Amy about the "goodbye tour".

I think that is why I find the show so rib-splitting funny....it always has some element of my family in it too!! The 'tour' would be me giving my kids last minute instructions before we go out....and DH trying to drag me to the car!

 

[mtblujeans]

Touchy subject for you, I see!

I agree with you, though. I have people in my life who will consistently be 1/2 hour late for every little thing, even when it means making several people wait for them. Drives me nuts.

My DH isn't quite that bad, but he still irks me and I'd like to do what Raymond did once in a while! He only has himself to get ready to go anywhere, that's it. I have myself and my DD to help (she really struggles with lateness herself, so I basically have to be with her every step of the way to keep her in gear, plus she can't do her own hair). It was worse when both kids were small -- I'd get myself and both kids ready and be out the door right on time, and there's hubby still sitting on the computer "finishing up" a game while we're waiting in the car for him.

My DH used go wait in the car when he got only himself ready to go and I would be stuffing diaper bags and wiping runny noses and pulling boots and snow pants on..... I think the real problem was that I 'let him'. I never said anything to him about it. Until about a year ago....and one day he yelled at me when I got in the car after he had been sitting outside for almost 1/2 an hour and I let him have it. I asked him how he could have 2 degrees and not figure out that I am the only one in the house getting everything ready! I just about had a stroke at him that day and he has been helping ever since!! I guess neither one of us had a clue!!

 

[Marseeya]

My DH used go wait in the car when he got only himself ready to go and I would be stuffing diaper bags and wiping runny noses and pulling boots and snow pants on..... I think the real problem was that I 'let him'. I never said anything to him about it. Until about a year ago....and one day he yelled at me when I got in the car after he had been sitting outside for almost 1/2 an hour and I let him have it. I asked him how he could have 2 degrees and not figure out that I am the only one in the house getting everything ready! I just about had a stroke at him that day and he has been helping ever since!! I guess neither one of us had a clue!!

Maybe that's the way I should have handled it! I complained every time and it probably just went in one ear and out the other. If I'd waited until I exploded, I'm sure he would have heard me loud and clear!

 

[mtblujeans]

Maybe that's the way I should have handled it! I complained every time and it probably just went in one ear and out the other. If I'd waited until I exploded, I'm sure he would have heard me loud and clear!

Yes, my DH can be a stinker....but, to his credit...he has a good memory and it usually only takes one good yelling to change his habits.....unlike Ray!!

 

[SunFloridaDisney]

OMG! I love that show, but have never seen that episode. Sounds hilarious, but in our house, DH is the one who can never seem to be ready. Since I'm the one responsible for making most of the arrangements, I've learned that if we need to leave to be somewhere at say 2:00, I'll tell DH 1:00 or 1:30, so I know we'll be on time. Lying? tricky? oh well, whatever works, and since I've done that it cuts down tremendously on any arguing etc.

 

[Allie322]

AIS is now a common phrase in our house! DH will ask, "What time is AIS?" He is the one who is always late. Even the kids will say, "Daddy, you know Mommy will leave without you!"

 

[Shugardrawers]

I never liked ELR. I didn't find it entertaining to see a woman berate her husband for half an hour every week. I found the Debra character to be just plain mean. (and reading about the actress that played her turned me off even more).

In that particular scenario (and I did see that episode, because I was with other people who watch the show and unlike that character I don't insist that my husband kowtow to my demands all the time) I thought Debra got what she deserved.

There is no real excuse for being late, other than wanting to be in control and make everyone wait, or being self-absorbed and not caring about the inconvenience caused to others.

This is exactly why I don't care for the show either. To me there is nothing funny about a wife who treats her Dh like a child and acts superior all the time. There is also nothing funny about a husband who doesn't seem to have a clue as to how to tie his own shoes without his Dw or mommy to do it for him.

I also agree that being constantly late by more than a few minutes is selfish. There are other people in this world who's lives matter besides your own.

 

[mtblujeans]

Shugardrawers!! Did you just kill my silly thread!!!

 

[Cantw8]

This is exactly why I don't care for the show either. To me there is nothing funny about a wife who treats her Dh like a child and acts superior all the time. There is also nothing funny about a husband who doesn't seem to have a clue as to how to tie his own shoes without his Dw or mommy to do it for him.

I also agree that being constantly late by more than a few minutes is selfish. There are other people in this world who's lives matter besides your own.

Holy crap. You people have never been late? You really think people are late because they are selfish and controlling? How about having attention deficit disorder, like myself. I can start getting reading 2 hours before I need to be somewhere (not that I need to, because I am beauuuutiful ) but then, something will distract me...something shiny, something interesting on TV, the kids need my attention ect. I certainly don't do it because I am selfish or want to control somebody. I'm a goofball

 

[Shugardrawers]

I am the Queen of thread killers. You should consider yourself priveledged!

 

[Shugardrawers]

Holy crap. You people have never been late? You really think people are late because they are selfish and controlling? How about having attention deficit disorder, like myself. I can start getting reading 2 hours before I need to be somewhere (not that I need to, because I am beauuuutiful ) but then, something will distract me...something shiny, something interesting on TV, the kids need my attention ect. I certainly don't do it because I am selfish or want to control somebody. I'm a goofball

No No No, you misunderstand. Occasionally being 10 minutes late is no big deal. I'm often between 5 and 10 minutes late. People who are chronically 30 minutes or more late are the ones I'm talking about. That's when other's lives are affected.

 

[Marseeya]

Holy crap. You people have never been late? You really think people are late because they are selfish and controlling? How about having attention deficit disorder, like myself. I can start getting reading 2 hours before I need to be somewhere (not that I need to, because I am beauuuutiful ) but then, something will distract me...something shiny, something interesting on TV, the kids need my attention ect. I certainly don't do it because I am selfish or want to control somebody. I'm a goofball

I have ADD too, and have never consistently made people wait 30 minutes or more. In fact, I don't remember ever being late like that. I don't use my ADD as an excuse for anything, except maybe why the house is a total pigsty.

 

[Cantw8]

I don't use it as an "excuse" either. It is just a way of life for me. It is not something I can control, half the time I am not even aware that it is a factor in my behavior

 

[mtblujeans]

I am easily distracted by 'shiny objects'....I didn't used to be. I think it's the menopause kicking in!

Oh, Shugardrawers!!

 

[mtblujeans]

Ok, now they are showing one I have never seen before. The parents moved to a condo and the condo association wants them to move out! OMG....Debra is ready to pop!!

 

[mtblujeans]

Ok, here's another one I haven't seen.....Who has "the power"?? They fight over being 'together' and Ray turns it into a game....that makes Debra mad!!

 

[roque]

I never liked ELR. I didn't find it entertaining to see a woman berate her husband for half an hour every week. I found the Debra character to be just plain mean. (and reading about the actress that played her turned me off even more).

In that particular scenario (and I did see that episode, because I was with other people who watch the show and unlike that character I don't insist that my husband kowtow to my demands all the time) I thought Debra got what she deserved.

There is no real excuse for being late, other than wanting to be in control and make everyone wait, or being self-absorbed and not caring about the inconvenience caused to others.

consistent tardiness is a problem....but this is obviously a hot button for you relax a little take a breath