HAving a meltdown.....

[allisonswonderland]

Ok this must just be a rotten few weeks, Katey, Sajetto, anyone....I am in the middle of a meltdown- I am not even sure what has pushed me over the edge.

Of course the MOH thing - has been quite an issue. Now the issue- my wedding the the last weekend of of Food and Wine Fest, and the Super Soap weekend is that weekend, so none of my people are booking their rooms, I know we will probably not have enough rooms in our block and other then my block there is not any avaliablity at BW, YC or BC...GF and Poly have concierge only....and I think what has really made me mad is I know that his rotten brother will probably end up at the GF concierge for no extra charge and we will have our beach club room, with a plain standard view and be harrassed by his mom the whole honeymoon until they leave.
I just do not know why nothing can go the way that I want it to. I know 3 of my maids are booked, the other one has a littlegirl who is blind in one eye and just had major surgery so she did not lose the sight in her other, so that is stress and understandably I do not know if she is booked (she lives in Dallas). I am sitting at my office at school and have to teach in 20 min and I am sobbing as I write this. I am not even sure what set me off....I just do not know how all of this will work and I just feel like there is no amount of disney magic that will make this better. I am angry because I have been working out a lot and have not lost any weight, so I am going to be fat in my engagement pictures...I am just have a meltdown........I also got some really bad news about one of my little swimmers (I am a summer league coach) and this is one I taught to siwm........my life is a mess................help say something reassuring please....I have to go to class.

 

[Brad&Kryssi]

Allison, your life is not a mess. You are experiencing the emotions that ALL brides go through. I think we, as Disney brides, have our hearts invested in the pixie dust so much that the smallest things can break us down. Your worries are bigger than that and it must be hard.

Please know that, and as a former bride I speak from experience, that these things all have a way of working out, somehow, at the right time.

Envision yourself, in all of your princess regalia, on your special day...hold that thought and let it calm you when things get bad.

I'd like to see you enlist someone to help you with these other details so you can enjoy this time as much as possible.

Hugs to you honey...trust me...it will work out.

 

[Brad&Kryssi]

and BTW...there is NO FAT in engagement and wedding pictures. Only beauty, joy and grace. Don't sweat it. If you are as beautiful outside as you are inside, from what I've been reading you're gorgeous, then there is nothing to worry about sweetie.

 

[KT27]

Hey we are all here for you! My wedding is in less than 46 days & I am GAINING weight GRRRRR....

Relax take a deep breath & it will all work out, dont sweat every detail. Disney has alot of magic & everything will go as you want it to.

 

[JonetteA]

Allison, I understand what you are going through. Here is what I will tell you. You can't be responsible for everyone. I know that is hard to do. I have been getting stressed as well about the planning. But you know what, I am not their travel planner. They know what they need to do, and if they are coming it is their responsibility to figure it out. My brother was not coming in town into 3pm and the tux fitting was at 3:30. He kept asking me what to do, and I was stressing about figuring it out. He didn't want to switch his plane, etc. and wanted someone to come and get him etc. Finally I told him that he has to figure it out himself. I can't help him, and to let me know what he did by a certain date. He ended up changing his flight. Have faith that people are going to have to work it out on their own. Take care of yourself at this point and you will feel alot better about things....

Katie, I know what you mean about gaining weight. I am doing that to, but that could be b/c I ate like a pig last weekend!

 

[princessblueeyzes]

Hi honey- hang in there if you have been working out and haven't lost weight it's probably because muscle weighs more than fat. You are a gorgeous gal and very sweet. I hardly believe that you are fat. Let everyone worry about their travel arrangements-if they are going to go then they should be able to book things themselves. Just take care of yourself. You have done more than enough for everyone and they need to step back and be thankful for what you have done and they need to support you in whatever you do.

Hang in there it will get better- I had 2 meltdowns last week from all the wedding stress then from work stress. I promise if you can make it through it'll only have to get better.

 

[Laurafoster]

Allison i totally know about the weight think, i just so lack in motivation right now.

The other girls are right, what you are experiencing is totally normal, many brides feel like this. Prehaps it may be a nice idea if u and your hubby to be spent a day together just the two of you doing something special. I know my friend did this and she said it made her realise exactly what her wedding should be about, 2 people who love each other and it made her so much less stressed!

 

[hiwaygal]

allison...

I think you definitely need some time to focus on you!

Don't worry about the wedding...as KT27 said, Disney has magic to spare and that will all work out in the end.

I also agree with JonetteA...your guests are going to have to figure some things out themselves. If any of them were "unsure" of the whole Disney wedding thing, they are going to be looking for you to "help" them. But in reality, all you should have to do is provide a phone number for them to call...MAKE them do the rest themselves! These people are adults, aren't they?

Just calm down, try to plan something with your DH2B for this weekend...something you will both really enjoy and be able to "re-connect".

While your wedding day is VERY important, what is more important is your love for each other and not letting things make you so upset.

We all have our days when only a good cry will do (I will typically watch a Disney movie on these days...many of them always make me cry! ) and have a perfectly good reason to just cry. I once heard someone say that tears are like soap for the soul. Sometimes you just need to cry!

Know that what you are feeling is NORMAL and you can always come here to vent...we will be there for you too!

 

[littleladykaty]

Oh my goodness...hunny you need a !!!

Okay, now as many have already said, you MUST let your guests be the adults that they are and FEND FOR THEMSELVES!!! I'm not sure how this brother person is going to end up at the GF with concierge at no extra charge, but that should be YOU and your sweetie! You have got to start taking care of you and being sure that you are getting what you need and stop worrying about how everyone else is going to be comfortable. Your bridesmaids need to get their sh*t done...I'm sorry, but there is nothing wrong with giving people a kick in the butt...or having your fiance give them a kick in the butt. You are dissolving into a stress ball and this is not good for your health or your well being. Stress hormones can negatively effect weight loss as well...but keep exercising, if nothing else it is a stress reducing activity (I'm a doctoral psychology student so you must forgive me! ) Weddings are about such a wonderful positive new chapter in your life, not about making sure that so and so has the room they want or that they don't have to change their flights. You MUST take a day with your fiance to reconnect and destress...y'all need to get away from everyone and everything...if only for a couple of hours. Let him know what you need, how you are feeling...you need some hugs and positive words from the man you love. I'm sure you look beautiful and your engagement photos will look fantastic!!!

That's my two cents from psyche 406... just keep breathing hunny, we are all here with you!!!

 

[allisonswonderland]

Such encouraging words........ thanks so much!

I love that...tears are soap for the soul. I am just a worrier and I feel like everything is always on my shoulders. I just cracked today. But you are all right that they need to take care of themselves and most of the non bookers are his family.

ABout his brother being at the GF concierge, that is just my luck. He always lucks into to things and we never do. We are going to ST Louis this weekend to see Bombay Dreams at a theater there, so hopefully I can just relax and get my mind off of things.
Thanks for the advice-

 

[Mary626]

and BTW...there is NO FAT in engagement and wedding pictures. Only beauty, joy and grace. Don't sweat it. If you are as beautiful outside as you are inside, from what I've been reading you're gorgeous, then there is nothing to worry about sweetie.

Wonderfully said

 

[allisonswonderland]

Ok well it just got worse. My fiance just found out tonight that he has been called for federal jury duty for the month of May which is when our planning session is...we have plane tickets and rooms and everything scheduled and that is the only time we can go-This was the last thing that I needed today. Why would they even want a lawyer on their jury? I do not get why everything must be so hard.

 

[hiwaygal]

Don't stress too much...

If I remember correctly, an already scheduled and paid for vacation is a legitimate "excuse" to get out of it...and since he is a lawyer, he'll probably get excused anyway ESPECIALLY if he happens to know any of the lawyers on the case.

 

[JonetteA]

Can he get excused? Oops saw Hiwaygal's post!

 

[Codie]

Ok well it just got worse. My fiance just found out tonight that he has been called for federal jury duty for the month of May which is when our planning session is...we have plane tickets and rooms and everything scheduled and that is the only time we can go-This was the last thing that I needed today. Why would they even want a lawyer on their jury? I do not get why everything must be so hard.

This might sound like lame condolensce...but my dh couldn't come to our planning session. We thought we were doing a site visit/planning session in one on our trip in March last year, but then they told us they couldn't because we hadn't signed a contract yet (which you can't do until after you site visit apparently, or at least for us). So my dh started a new job right after that and couldn't take off for a planning session and maximize our time in Disney for the wedding...so I went with my parents. His mom was going to come for a brief bit, but then didn't. So maybe someone else could go with you?? WE sent cell phone pics of important stuff to him, but mostly, he wanted me to be happy, so he didn't care anyway

 

[allisonswonderland]

There was a clause that mentioned consideration would be taken for a previously paid for vacation--- so hopefully we will get that taken care of my fathers good friend is a federal judge so if worse come to worse maybe we can make a phone call- the issue is that this is much more than a planning session it is our vacation and we are meeting my brother and his girlfriend for the weekend. I know we all need to do our civic duty but they will not want him. I got called to jur duty in our county and the judge finally asked me if there was anyone involved in the case that I did not know and then let me go. I knew the cop, the witness, the lawyers, it was funny---