Having a hs senior

[littleblackegg]

I know what college is like...I even helped my younger brothers apply to college and so much has changed and the stress on these kids is much greater than we went to school. My youngest brother is 32 and even in that timeframe things have changed a lot.

He has risen to the occasion brilliantly. But that doesnt mean as a mom it isnt hard to see him stressing about the process. The counselors talked to us several times about the stress level that these kids are going through and things to watch for. Unfortunately one young man around here jumped off a bridge, he went to a nearby school, many of DS18's classmates knew him. His note said he could not handle the stress of applying to college. This was a brilliant kid with a great future many said he knew him.

And yes I am sad and yes I know it is normal...doesnt make it less stressful. I will be proud to see him fly but it still sad to know that he wont be here day in and day out. All of these lasts pull on the heartstrings, at least for me. He is my first so I dont know what to expect.

Sorry if my emotions dont match your own, we are all not robots. I find this whole process to be quite emotional, stressful and bit of a rollercoaster. Proud moments but also moments of what is changing.

Well, that's exactly it. People are giving you all these practical suggestions for what to do with these new challenges, but it seems you have those things handled. It's the emotions and feelings that require support. I think my feelings would exactly match your own. And, like you, I think I would need less people to help me with the tasks and more people to support me when I am sad.

 

[Mkrop]

I'm not sure why people assume that if a mom is sad about the bird leaving that she hasn't done everything possible to prepare her bird for the flight, and that she somehow doesn't want them to go?

It is indeed a very stressful time. But it does get easier. It's so awesome to watch them venture out and conquer new things.

Thanks for getting it! I am very excited for him and the new chapter but slightly sad that this one is ending as well.

Well, that's exactly it. People are giving you all these practical suggestions for what to do with these new challenges, but it seems you have those things handled. It's the emotions and feelings that require support. I think my feelings would exactly match your own. And, like you, I think I would need less people to help me with the tasks and more people to support me when I am sad.

I think you are confusing me with the OP. I wasnt looking for advice. I was showing moral support as I am going through it for the first time as well and we are finding the whole process as a family much more stressful than we thought it would be and I felt others were dismissing those feelings that she had.

 

[mom2rtk]

Thanks for getting it! I am very excited for him and the new chapter but slightly sad that this one is ending as well.

I think it's pretty common to feel exactly what you are feeling right now.