have you ever just felt "run over" (long)

[AnnMorin]

This is like the only place I can say this.. I am SO feeling beat up and run over right now..........
I am usually a very happy person but there has been an avalance of crappola lately and I just want to scream..,..
number one in preschool there is a very DANGEROUS child, she is way way special needs and is injuring children and we are not equiped to deal with her,, I keep telling the director and we are getting an evaluation on her at the end of the month but I spend most of my day just stopping her from impaleing someone. She has NO impulse controle and I am not a doctor but convinced has medical issues.......She tied to poke a child's eyes out today because she "didn't like them" I am SO drained from that... i feel like the other children are being "robbed" as I spend so much time with damage control..........
Number two the sprinkers... I finally talked DH into getting the system it cost about 5000.00 which is way more than we had to spend but today it was done, we started it up and there were leaks everywhere,, he was yelling at me and I felt like s****
Then his psa tests came back again and they are still so high.. I honestly feel like I can't handle one more burden............thanks for letting me type that in itself is a releif...........

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

When I get information overload or overstresses, I try to find time to spend quietly writing in my journal and getting my frustrations out. I'm sorry you're so stressed right now. I hope you get that child's placement re-evaluated. It's not fair to you or the other children.

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

Yes, there have been days and weeks when it's one serious thing after another.
One way I deal with it is by breaking it down into managable little blocks.

For you today...start with the thing that will be easiest to fix.

I would think it'd be the sprinklers. Tell yourself they WILL stop leaking soon, the leaks are to be expected in a new system, and since you spent 5000$ to have it installed, it's gonna be a GREAT system! You will be well protected in case of a fire!! YAY!!!


I'm sorry you're dealing with some life glitches. Sending some leak stopping, pre-school "crappola" ending, PSA lowering prayers and PD your way.

 

[KarenB]

Yep....I have felt that way. I hope things get better. Sometimes even a good nights sleep does wonders! Tomorrow is another day!


Karen

 

[AnnMorin]

I can not believe I am sitting here crying.............. DH called the landscape guy who was appalled that they must hav ecut a line when re seeding.... so they are comming in the morning......

i have to stop worrying about his prostate but it is hard with the family cancer history..
and as for that child I am at a loss...........two weeks until the observation happens. I am so worried she will really injure someone .......

 

[CRB#33]

Sometimes it helps just to talk it all out.

Is there anyway to seperate this child from the class in the name of safety before the observation?

I'll say prayers for your DH. I know how hard that situation is.

Take some "me" time tonight. Take a bubble bath with some candles and soft music. Even if it's late. Think about your cruise. A short term escape, but hopefully you'll feel better.

Take care.

 

[NHAnn]

Originally posted by AnnMorin
I can not believe I am sitting here crying..............

Totally understandable and I think most of us can empathize.
Hang in there (sorry that sounds so trite). Prayers and PD for you and DH and your daycare child.

 

[AnnMorin]

well let me explain.. she is not a day care child. I am a preschool teacher at a traditional nursery school. We do not do any type of day care and are only a half day program. I feel so for this child and I am doing my best to seperate her and keep other children safe..we are not serving her or the other children by allowing her in the class,, she needs special attention and someone MUCH more skilled than I.. she can be so sweet one moment and then amazingly violent the next,, it is not the "normal" violence one sees in preschool of hitting and kicking but attempting to plunge scissors into someone etc... she just can not control her impulses,,, I feel so bad for the other children I egnore while trying to contain her but also feel very bad for her,, she REALLY needs qualified help.. i have a B.A in fine arts and an A.S in early childhool but I am no qualified to help her, it makes me very sad that time is being wasted when intervention is needed... As for Jay.. this has been a horrible rollarcoaster that I had hoped would go away....... thanks again for letting me vent.. sometimes when you have to act strong for everyone there is no one to tell you are running out of strength...........

 

[Krisu]

I think most of us have had a "run over" feeling. Little by little all these things will resolve(although I'm sure you will always be concerned about DH) The sprinklers will be fixed first Have you had complaints at the Nursery School from other parents? If it's that much of a problem, it sounds like they need to find another place, not fair to the other kids (and the parents who are paying) Keep us updated

 

[browneyes]

I agree with Krisu, we've all had times where we've felt run over. :hugs: Why do you have to wait so long to get an evaluation on this little girl? I would think the parents of the other children would be calling your director asking the director to do something sooner.

 

[JetMom]

Hi - I am a nursery school director/teacher too, so I can understand a little bit of what you are going through. I never had a scissor-stabber before, but I did have a chair-thrower and a strangler.

If this child is endangering others in the classroom, then I would probably do two things 1) get on the phone to the school district or whoever is doing the eval. and get on their back to move up the appointment. and 2) remove her from the classroom pending the results of the evaluation.

I am assuming that you are documenting all aggressive/violent behavior. Use these logs to enforce both of the actions above.

If you can not have her removed from the classroom for whatever reason, then you need to add another staff member to the classroom to shadow the child. You cannot allow one child to hold the rest of the class hostage. I have seen situations in the past where parents have had to help bear the cost of the additional staff-member to shadow their child.

Above all, remember, this is not your responsibility. As much as we would like to, we can't help every child. Give yourself permission to step back and take care of yourself.

Feel free to e-mail or pm me if I can help you in anyway.

Remember, you have a lot of support systems in your life. Use them all.

{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}

 

[Sugarbaby]

Why in the world is your administrator allowing this child to endanger others? What if a child is permanently injured (or even fatally) because you took your eyes off her for a second? I think some kids benefit from mainstreaming,but if they are dangerous,then they should be removed. This kid has problems that you aren't ever going to be able to fix. Why haven't the other kids parents stormed the admin office?? You should tell them you need an aide or someone to watch this girl. She is defininately a one on one. I can only imagine how stressed you are. But the school's first responsibility is the children's safety. I'm sorry you are having such a bad time. Sprinkler system can be fixed. You have to have faith that your DH will be ok. Sounds like he is keeping tabs on his condition. You will get through this! Keep us posted.

 

[AnnMorin]

There are many procdures that have to be followed regarding children like her. My DH said why don't you just kick her out? And unfortuneatly that is not possible, yes I am documenting things and am shadowing her the best I can. I don't know why the director is so oblivious about her.. she felt flattered the mom said " I have searched for schools and was so pleased she got into yours I really love your school" so the director wants to make it work........ My thoughts are we are the only school that accepted her. I am hoping that when the evaluators come they will either say she needs a personal aide and pay for it or say she needs a special school... thanks for letting me vent. At least she is not going to be there today she is only tues/thurs.

 

[believe]

Definitely....there is very little of my life right now that doesn't have issues (church, work and family). My DD's and DH are the only good part for me right now. I know I will get through it all with the help of God, but it was nice to have a good cry this morning.

Good luck with your situation. I really do hope the girl can get the help she needs so she can succeed.

 

[winniedapooh]

{hugs}.....take a deep breath and breathe.....pixie dust that today will be better!

 

[DoeWDW]

{{ Hugs }} for you!! I have definitely felt this way, and have had a good cry now and then to relieve the stress and tension!!

There were times when the problems would resolve themselves and I'd feel better in time. However, there have also been times when the problems kept coming and I could no longer cope. I have turned to my doctor at those times and have used anti-depressants twice in my life. I knew I needed help because the problems would resolve themselves but I never felt any better. Please get help if the problems get better but you don't feel better.

I hope things improve soon! Prayers and PD for your nursery school child, your husband, and most especially you. Take extra time to pamper yourself and your husband - I'm sure he's stressed also. Long walks together are wonderful therapy!

 

[snoopy]

Yup, I have felt the way you have described, and for me, the only thing that will do is a good long cry.

I do hope your days get brighter, AnnMorin.

 

[Annie&Hallie'sMom]

Oh God, YES! There are days when I think I should have bruises from all the "beatings" I've taken (I don't mean that literally).

Sometimes it seems like there is just too much to deal with. Too much down and not enough up.

You've come to the right place though...no matter what the problem is (simple and silly or detailed and devasting), the group here is always supportive.

 

[AnnMorin]

well the steam roller keeps comming........ they were supposedly going to fix the sprinklers (that I had to take out an equity loan to pay for) today, the front is fine and the back still has a geyser erupting from my back yard. DH is LIVID and taking out on me.. I teach preschool to the man's son (landscaper) and have to be carefull of how I act.. I just told jay to handle it,, he called 3 hours ago and no return call.......
I am upset but not as much as him but I think some of his anger has to do with his test results.
I spoke with some other teachers today and they agreed there is not much I can do other than damage control until the observation takes place in two weeks...
So now I feel like I have been hit by a train, a bus and a little old lady and her cane.
Thanks for letting me vent.........