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[rascalmom]

Your daughter's first date??

DD has her first date & I DON'T KNOW this boy!

He's very polite on the phone, I've seen him once (not introduced) & he's very "clean cut" , but I have this urge to call the FBI or someone & have him checked out.

She's my baby - my princess!

I even Googled - didn't find anything.

How do you deal - this is going to drive me !!!!

 

[Microcell]

My DD is 6 and the shotgun is at the door, ready!

 

[Beastlover]

Too funny!! I remember my first "date" I had been seeing the guy behind my parents backs because they wouldn't let me date until I was 16.
He came over to meet them and my mom, sister and siter in law all sat at one end of the dining room table while he and I stood at the other end. They proceeded to ask him questions that they had written down on a pad of paper in front of them. "What are your intentions with Michelle? How are your teeth?"....goofy funny questions!! Kinda broke the ice and put some humor in the situation.
Anyway, probably wouldn't hurt to have him come get her a little early so you can engage him in casual conversation first, and "feel him out". Where does he work? Anyplace that you could frequent in order to meet him? What kind of date is this? I always encourage the kids to hang out at our house, that way I get to know them a little first. Then if they can hang out also at his house (while parents are home) I have an excuse to meet them.
Its so hard to just let them go. You raised her and hopefully she has all the values and respect that you taught her.

 

[SeeDisney]

I feel for you....I'd probably be the same way when it's my turn.

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

I never brought any of my dates or boyfriends home in jr. high or high school. My dad is retired special forces and there was no way I was going to let my date anywhere near him! But hopefully you'll get to check the date out and see what he's like. I'm sure it'll be fine

 

[4nana]

Ahhh....the first date and letting go is always difficult honey, not only for the parents, but the teens involved. I say: trust that DD has the good judgement and values you have instilled in her and keep the faith. I'm sure she will introduce him when he arrives to pick her up. Remember, he is probably nervous too!

 

[ely3857]

Hiya,

This must hurt you a little. Seeing you baby go on her first date.

When I was young whenever I did something for the first time, ie walk to school alone I thought I was so grown up but it was years later I discovered my mum always had somebody following me!

I am in no way suggesting you invade your daughters space but if you really are genuinley worried as oppose to scared she is growing up too quickly you should consider sending a close friend to 'bump' into them a couple of hours in.

Hope she has a good time as she will never have a first date again!



Jodie

 

[rascalmom]

Oh - it is DEFINITELY a rule that he will have to come here to meet us!

Funny thing though, they are both sophomores. DD has her DL, but he doesn't yet. (Actually taking the test today)

She may be going to pick him up, bringing him here to meet us & then going out on their movie date. I thought that it was good that they had already figured out that he WOULD be coming here to meet us either way.

DD had a show choir performance at an awards banquet for this year's Valedictorian & Salutatorians this week. One of those tearfully boring type things to sit through unless your kid is performing or being honored. He came to watch her. I thought that was sweet.

I do know he works at a grocery store - maybe I'll do some shopping there!

 

[Keli]

That is kind of scary but there's really no way around it most of the time. Just go over some common sense safety precautions with her ahead of time and make sure she has a cell phone with her so she can call if she needs to.

 

[Tantor]

I even Googled - didn't find anything.

Hey, I never thought of that, good point (just putting that in my file so I remember it)

 

[rascalmom]

I'm not truly scared or overly worried. Just freaked out that I don't know him or anything about him. I grew up in a pretty small town & my parents either knew the boys I dated because we had grown up together or knew the boy's parent through work or church.

DD goes to a large high school & there's is no way to know everyone. She's a level-headed kid & I'm sure everything will be fine - I just wondered if any other parents felt kind of freaked out like this!

The Googling was my friend's idea. She has a daughter who's a little older & has been dating for awhile. She's Googled her dates before. Not sure what I expected to find - would a criminal record show up on Google? My dd's name is the same as a famous actress - wonder if his parents are trying to Google her!

 

[tar heel]

As the mother of sons, I can tell you that it's pretty hard for us, too. I liked winter b/c it was cold. I dread that summer is coming because the girls wear so few clothes. I would like to have the job of dressing my son's dates!

 

[rascalmom]

Thankfully my dd is very modest - some of the things these girls wear are pretty scarey!

 

[Blondy876]

The first time I my dh (thenboyfriend - we were 17) came over to meet my family my father, brother and two of their friends sat on the front steps and wouldn't let him in until they questioned him. They were being playful but terrified my poor dh. It's been 12 years and my dh has a great relationship with my Dad and my brother was best man at our wedding but my dh stills has a tendency to call them "Sir". That first meeting was apparently quite memorable.

 

[CarolA]

CALM DOWN LOL!

I don't think the FBI is going to investigate based on "I don't know this guy" LOL!

Make sure she knows that no matter what she can call you and you won't say "I told you so" then just sit up and worry. There is not much else you can do.

 

[rascalmom]

CALM DOWN LOL!

I don't think the FBI is going to investigate based on "I don't know this guy" LOL!

Are you sure? I think this would be a really useful service!

Think of poor Susan on Desperate Housewives. This type of service would have saved her a lot of heartache. (but oh how the rest of us would have missed that hot plumber!)

 

[poohandwendy]

LOL... you 'Googled' her first date?

LOL, calm down...she will be fine. And you will too.