has anyone got a passport while owing back childsupport

[PatsGirl]

How the money is spent is really irrelevant if it is available and not being paid to child support -- it makes the person a loser

My ex-loser spends his child support sitting on a bar stool chasing tequila with bud lights and scratching tickets every afternoon. Figure that's at least $200/week (double his support payment) so he could easily go on a cruise three or four times a year instead. It doesn't matter to me where the $$ goes, only that it doesn't go to my son and I just know that this will send him to (well, not to Heaven IYKWIM)

 

[barbeml]

I think I can say I've heard it all now. Taking a cruise while you owe back child support how stupid & selfish is that?

Took the words right out of my mouth.

 

[LindaM]

Every child deserves to have the necessities in life, and when the parents are no longer together it's up to the both of them to still provide those necessities. Why does 1 parent get to decided when and if to give money to the other parent to provide those necessities? Child support is just that CHILD support, that money is for the child. If one parent does not provide that support and decides to go on vacations with the money then you can put them in the deadbeat parent catagory, cause that is where they belong.

Children are innocent and no matter what happens between parents the children should never suffer. And if the shoe was on the other foot, how would you feel if X was going on a cruise and not giving you any money?

 

[lyzziesmom]

My ex-loser spends his child support sitting on a bar stool chasing tequila with bud lights and scratching tickets every afternoon.

Do we have the same ex-loser?! Mine managed to drink $21,000 in the year we were married. I haven't heard from him since then but I imagine things have not changed. And yet he can't pay his lousy $277 a month -- that's right, a stinking $63 a week -- in child support. He knows it takes several months for a wage garnishment to take effect, so he changes jobs every few months. On top of that, he works as a waiter and the child support can't touch his tips. He adjusts his check so that he might get $10 in a check for 2 weeks' work, and the rest in tips. I've gotten child support checks for a nickel... twice. I know he's making money, and it's going elsewhere. I don't even care for me, but it makes me so sad for my baby to know he cares more about pouring liquor down his throat than he cares for his daughter. His selfishness is ruining three lives -- mine, his daughter's and my other daughter's (she suffers because of my stress it causes).

Absolutely selfish and unforgivable. A child is not a bill to be put off until later -- PAY that child support and pay it NOW, do not pass go, do not go on a vacation.

 

[BuzznBelle'smom]

What they said.

OP (if you're still around...), try to put yourself in the shoes of the older child or their mother. The child needs to eat, wear clothes, etc. every day--but Dad isn't providing for that. Instead, Dad wants to go on a cruise with his "new" family.

Imagine for a moment how that child would feel. Imagine how YOU would feel if your current Dh became your former DH and tried to pull the same stunt.

If, on any level, the cruise seems "right" to you, then you have my pity.

 

[arminnie]

it makes me so sad for my baby to know he cares more about pouring liquor down his throat than he cares for his daughter.

Maybe he will drop dead, and you can get social security for her.

I know that sounds heartless, but guess what someone like that doesn't deserve any better thoughts.

 

[meandtheguys2]

Maybe he will drop dead, and you can get social security for her.

I know that sounds heartless, but guess what someone like that doesn't deserve any better thoughts.

Or better yet, get sober and get his life together.

 

[DMickey28]

horrible. It's one thing when you owe cc debt, you are only hurting yourself, but to hurt another person by denying them (sometimes necessities) so you can go on vacation is just horrible.

OT .. When one of "these" threads start can SOMEONE PLEASE quote the OP. I hate not being able to know what was orginally said!!

 

[EthansMom]

DCL is one of the more expensive cruise lines. It's possible that if you paid off the child support, you might have enough money left over to go on RCCL, NCL, or Carnival, instead.... taking care of the child AND going on vacation.

 

[Mickeyluver37]

What they said.

OP (if you're still around...), try to put yourself in the shoes of the older child or their mother. The child needs to eat, wear clothes, etc. every day--but Dad isn't providing for that. Instead, Dad wants to go on a cruise with his "new" family.

Imagine for a moment how that child would feel. Imagine how YOU would feel if your current Dh became your former DH and tried to pull the same stunt.

If, on any level, the cruise seems "right" to you, then you have my pity.

The OP was deleted before I saw this thread.....but please don't tell me that not only are they taking a cruise in lieu of paying child support, but they are also not even taking said child?

 

[dogluva]

Please tell me that the op was not about going on a cruise with a "man" who owes child support. Forget about the father (I quoted man because a real man would take care of his kids), what kind of a person would go on a cruise knowing that they are basically taking food out of child's mouth (along with other things). How could anyone go on a vacation and feel good about themselves? A cruise over supporting a child???? Oh, my God, this has to be the ultimate case of selfishness I have ever heard of. Please tell me I am wrong and the op did not say such a thing.

 

[BuzznBelle'smom]

Well, the OP took her post and ran. The gist of the post was, her DH owed $2500 in back support, and she wanted to see if they could get him a passport anyway, so they could go on DCL. Oddly enough, nobody has passport advice--just advice on what a jerk her DH is.

Actually, I hope this might be a wake-up call to the OP as to what kind of man she married.

 

[pyrxtc]

Yeah, OP wanted to see if the government would overlook the amount owed sicne he is paying currently plus a little support from the back support owed. She did not want to ahve to wait the 5 yrs it would take to pay off the support so she could take the cruise next year. Her DH was already in trouble and she wanted to know if anyone had found a way around the system.

 

[wilderness01]

Well, the OP took her post and ran. The gist of the post was, her DH owed $2500 in back support, and she wanted to see if they could get him a passport anyway, so they could go on DCL. Oddly enough, nobody has passport advice--just advice on what a jerk her DH is.

Actually, I hope this might be a wake-up call to the OP as to what kind of man she married.

She may really find out what kind of man she married if they ever have kids together, get divorced and then she is the one owed child support. For her to even go along with vacation plans knowing there is child support owed, makes her just as low.

 

[dcgrumpy]

She may really find out what kind of man she married if they ever have kids together, get divorced and then she is the one owed child support. For her to even go along with vacation plans knowing there is child support owed, makes her just as low.

According to her signature they have 2 kids already

 

[Deb in IA]

Kids come before cruises.

What a world this has become, to even have to say this.

 

[wilderness01]

According to her signature they have 2 kids already

Oh sorry, I didn't read her signature.

If she sees him doing this to his "other" child, what makes her think he wouldn't do it to their kids? I say buyer beware here.

 

[momof2inPA]

Tell him the best Christmas present he could give you is to pay off his child support.

 

[MushyMushy]

Yeah, OP wanted to see if the government would overlook the amount owed sicne he is paying currently plus a little support from the back support owed. She did not want to ahve to wait the 5 yrs it would take to pay off the support so she could take the cruise next year. Her DH was already in trouble and she wanted to know if anyone had found a way around the system.

Yes, she was worried that her oldest would be 11 years old by the time they took this cruise.

It really makes me wonder what kind of relationship she has with the stepchild/children. I hope for the child's sake that it's better than I'm imagining.

 

[ducklite]

According to her signature they have 2 kids already

Makes a valid case for forced sterilization...